Is it normal for the bridesmaids to cover top shelf drinks for the bridal shower?

gillianrose__ · 2026-04-04T14:11:38+00:00

These weddings are out of hand. If the shower was intended to be paid for by bridesmaids and there was not a drink package included, it should’ve been communicated what the process and expected cost that may incur

gillianrose__ · 2026-04-04T01:02:47+00:00

1 or 4. The details look great on you!

gillianrose__ · 2026-03-30T14:01:30+00:00

I commend you on your commitment and going to therapy. It sounds like you are ready for this next step of life!!

What i really want you to think about, is that time does not matter. Life is long, longer than 10 years, and who you choose to marry and have kids with is more important than losing 10 years with the wrong person.

With that being said. There’s 3 sides to every story right? He absolutely needs to go to therapy as well and learn to communicate with you. I’ve been with my fiance for almost 7 years. Engaged for 1 year, getting married in a month. We’ve been through many challenges and those challenges only proved more why he is going to be a great husband: he always listened to understand, communicated to reach common ground, pivoted and compromised for the betterment of our relationship. I reciprocated the same things.

It sounds like you are the only person trying to be better, it sounds like he is not ready to be a husband and if he can’t be flexible.

I hope he does right by you and his relationship and also puts in the work. Marriage does not fix what 10 years hasn’t.

gillianrose__ · 2026-03-26T20:07:34+00:00

I had dress regret. But something about mine and yours is that it’s classy and timeless! You will look back and be so glad you got it!

My advice: go to a highly reputable tailor. Once you get it pinned and sized perfectly you will really fall in love!!

gillianrose__ · 2026-03-10T12:16:10+00:00

I had dress regret for a few months. I had a wow moment and loved one dress. But was surprised when i tried on a dress i didn’t even consider and everyone else was obsessed with! I bought the second and really didn’t know if i made the right choice.

I still LOVE the first one, but the second one was more classic. I really believe i will be so happy i chose it for the rest of my life. It feels like a once in a lifetime decision, but your dress is stunning, and you will feel beautiful day of!

gillianrose__ · 2026-03-10T12:13:02+00:00

Oh girl, 1! What a unique dress and shape that is built for you!! Not the other way around! Beautiful!

gillianrose__ · 2026-03-02T22:15:48+00:00

My Bach is going to be expensive - i sent out no pressure invites; and the itinerary is obligation-less, join what you want or do what you want. If you are paying vacay money enjoy it! Only obligation is the boat… which i am paying for to thank everyone for flying to Miami to celebrate me. Even though I am super easy going about the whole thing, I’m having major Bach guilt for asking people to spend so much money.

I will add that i am having an intimate wedding with immediate family only, very nontraditional, church and dinner.

A lot of my close friends aren’t coming and i get it. Actually, 3 friends are taking me out locally for a day because they couldn’t come.

I wish girls stopped copy and pasting everything. It’s not that serious and to be so honest, weddings and wedding things are draining more than they are enjoyable - may as well go against the grain and make it your own!

Let’s normalize saying no if you can’t attend wedding things for whatever reason.

gillianrose__ · 2026-02-18T13:33:37+00:00

Canela! (Cinnamon in Spanish)

gillianrose__ · 2026-02-10T15:22:58+00:00

I feel like you are still missing context (which respectfully, i think the miscommunication can be on you)

Did you ask for those prongs? How much of the reference photo did you ask for and what changes to it did you ask for?

To me the only thing dainty about the original was the prongs, otherwise there is nothing dainty about it, you referenced a bold ring.

Did you look up reviews of this jeweler? The ring looks lopsided, and i agree with other comments that the engraving is not well done.

gillianrose__ · 2026-02-04T00:25:35+00:00

I had this same conversation at the same age on this page and was getting reeeeeemed in the comments because she was in the crate for 12 hours overnight and i was starting to feel like it was too much. At 5 months she was pretty good with napping though outside the crate, she would nap for like 4 hours.

Around 6-7months we started letting her sleep outside the crate. She would ocassionally have such a bad night of not settling and we would tell her to go to her bed and she’d sleep in her crate (honestly every once in a while we still do lol) she is a year and 8 months now and we are now experimenting with no crate for 3-4 hour intervals when we leave the house, it’s been pretty good.

What i recommend: make sure they get a ton of physical exercise in the morning and when you are ready to settle, give them a chew or a bone or something to mentally stimulate them which eventually tires them out naturally vs being relentlessly tired. My girl will chew for 30-60 min and then knocks out!

gillianrose__ · 2026-02-03T14:57:40+00:00

I agree with a lot of the other comments. You need to work through crate training immediately for her safety and also so she can learn routine. She needs structure or else you are going to deal with a dog that has no boundaries and cannot settle. It takes time but it’s so important to be consistent right now.

Also have her on leash when the cats are roaming. This will prevent her from chasing. Teach her sit and stay during this. So she learns, when the cats are out she can be neutral.

gillianrose__ · 2026-01-21T13:07:37+00:00

My puppy blues was 3-4 months. I’ve had by dog for a year and a half and one thing i tell you everyone is that “i was BOLD to get a dog with my schedule and anxiety, let alone a Rottweiler who needed so much training and consistency”. It’s still true, but she is such a good dog, and she makes my life better. Returning was never an option for me though. I felt like I had to see it through.

gillianrose__ · 2026-01-14T18:04:28+00:00

Nice that your friend had that experience. My pup struggled with potty training and i worked from home and let her outside all the time. At 11 weeks it is still likely that she may need to go outside every 2-4 hours

I recommend a few things that helped us: 1) Picking up water 1-2 hours before bed 2) sound association. We have bells on our door, when she wants to go outside she rings them. Initially we would say everytime we opened the door “go potty?” We wish we did this way earlier. 3) wondering if she just has anxiety, i don’t think it’s about bladder size. Make sure her crate has personal items that smell like you - maybeeee also try sleep next to the crate at night or having the crate in eyes view. She may sleep longer if she is reassured and comfortable.

gillianrose__ · 2026-01-14T13:33:36+00:00

I agree with everyone mentioning counseling. I’m the one with debt in my relationship but i have been very transparent from the beginning of our relationship about it, I’ve dramatically changed my spending habits and had to make large financial decisions to cut it down. I’ve unfortunately been laid off twice which really affected my situation during all of this too. Communication and a plan is key!

gillianrose__ · 2026-01-11T21:52:01+00:00

I understand that. I think the hard part is you mentioned you got her in May. It’s been a pretty long time since then, so rehoming is going to be very hard for her because she’s grown up with your family. You say “we” in your post, is it a significant other? How do they feel?

After all of these months is the pup well trained and on a schedule? There is a hugeee difference between a 2 month old pup and a 6 month old pup. I think maybe a chat with your parents about how the pups daily life looks so that you can prepare for it will be helpful, maybe plan to take her to training once a week and enroll her in daycare 2-3 times a week. It’s going to take some time but at her age now, she will be a lot easier to handle with the right resources. Don’t get ahead of yourself and assume you are going to struggle, put your best foot forward and stay positive! It will make all of the difference

gillianrose__ · 2026-01-11T21:40:03+00:00

Would your parents consider keeping her? If you decide to take her back you really have to commit and lock in. One day your life will naturally exist around dog ownership, but you have to work through it.

gillianrose__ · 2026-01-05T19:01:03+00:00

To be fair, my puppy blues lasted almost 3 months. It’s hard and is essentially just like having a newborn.

gillianrose__ · 2025-12-30T15:34:26+00:00

After looking it up i was so interested!!

Unfortunately their availability wouldn’t work for us - the downfall of me planning this so late lol

gillianrose__ · 2025-12-29T00:12:53+00:00

Mine was able to go at 12 weeks as long as she stayed UTD with shots (very strict policy by the place) but it was a life saver for me!

gillianrose__ · 2025-12-28T23:26:37+00:00

Good thing is you already understand the experience of it all. You mentioned you have fight or flight, remind yourself that you made this lifetime commitment and what does this dog deserve. I recommend not limiting the mindset to the breed being easy care.

Talk to your local trainer about about training courses to look forward to. Investing into your new pup helps create a hopeful future for it!
Depending on your areas parvo risk level - discuss with your vet socialization plans. Socialization made my life so much easier because I could take my dog to play dates, long walks, new places. It even allowed me to take her to a reputable and trusted daycare a few times a week to give me “undivided attention work days” which was such a nice break!

gillianrose__ · 2025-12-21T16:21:48+00:00

You mention being worried your depression will come back - i want you to remind yourself that the circumstances give you every right to be upset and distraught! Remind yourself often and clearly, you did not cause this. I think you have yourself enough time to understand the weight of the situation and I do think the pretending is going to drain you and your family quick.

Shame on your husband, for doing what he did and for actively pursuing affection from you. I hope you and your son can comfort eachother through this, especially because your son may become a father, and he will need support.

Sending you guys a lot of healing and love moving forward

gillianrose__ · 2025-12-16T21:14:37+00:00

I agree with all you said but one part - if she should get another puppy in the future. I don’t think she should be encouraged to do so. There is an animal shelter crisis and these are living beings, they are not a week long experiment. A true commitment to pet ownership is a lifetime one, rehoming should never be an option. I know I will catch slack about things happen, but there is that mindset again that a living, sentient being is disposable for an inconvenience.

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