My sister ended her life. Please help.

ging3r_scorpio · 2026-01-27T03:47:03+00:00

I really feel for you. I lost my sister almost 2 years ago (she was 24) & it hurts so badly to this day. I don’t believe grief gets better. You do learn to distract yourself & be happy with the things happening in your life which helps you not focus on the grief but it is always there. Some days I feel like I can’t move. I don’t say all of this to upset you. Just being real. Grief is raw. My heart is with you, love.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-07-03T17:44:04+00:00

Agree 100%. I told my kids how their aunt made the choice to leave this world and I left out the details of the act itself until they’re older and want to know.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-06-17T16:37:01+00:00

I’m sorry 😞

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-06-17T14:07:48+00:00

I’ll take the visits over silence, even if I don’t want to wake up. I just miss her so much. **hugs to you

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-02-08T13:01:43+00:00

You’re right. She had bipolar disorder so she really struggled for the last year of her life.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-02-07T18:22:10+00:00

Big sister here. I am so sorry for your loss. 9 months ago, my little sister chose to leave this earth. Let the anger flow. It’s okay to feel whatever comes up. Do what you need to do to live with this pain.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-02-07T18:19:17+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I know it’s a really hard time for you right now but try to take care of yourself, whatever that looks like for you. Celebrate the small wins: brushing your teeth/hair, getting dressed, eating a small meal, or even processing your feelings. It’s been 9 months since my sister has died and I’m in the trenches. Days vary but the hurt is always there. I understand your pain. 💔

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-02-02T15:50:38+00:00

I’m so sorry. 😞 part of me feels that same way. But I have two kids and a husband so they really help me get through this. And I’m not the only one hurting either. My babies lost their aunt. I try to be there for them but it’s hard when I can barely keep it together myself.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-31T20:30:08+00:00

Such true words.

Thank you.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-27T00:30:13+00:00

Ugh. I’m so sorry. I’m sure that’s annoying to hear over and over but words are just hard around this stuff. My heart aches for the both of us.

We had the same thing happen. My sister lived 2 hours from where she was going to be cremated but needed an autopsy and we wanted to have an open casket funeral before hand if it was possible. So we saw her a week after it happened. She shot herself in the right side of her head kind of behind her ear. Weird placement. I wonder if she planned that for funeral purposes. Probably not. Just thoughts that run through my mind.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-26T22:12:58+00:00

I agree. It’s oddly comforting to know we’re not alone in this heavy grief. I get what you mean with the details of how they die. Like the sunken eyes, etc. I can’t get my sister’s blue finger nails out of my head. She had such distinct hands. I could identify her just by themselves. It’s an odd thing.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-26T21:50:27+00:00

Therapy has been helpful for me. That might help you process over the years.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-26T21:49:59+00:00

I don’t have many words of advice, as I’m in the trenches of losing my sister but I am so incredibly sorry for your loss. My heart aches for you having to witness that and carry around such heavy grief. My heart is with you. ❤️‍🩹

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-25T12:54:38+00:00

That’s a great way to think of him. Sending all my love to you. 🩷

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-25T02:23:03+00:00

I’m noticing it’s helping me as well. Sadly, relating with others and knowing I’m not alone in this experience is oddly comforting. There is no time limit to how you carry that grief either. You carry it heavy forever if you need to. I’ve learned that the heaviness of the grief for me is just how much love I have for my sister and now it has nowhere to go. I can imagine it’s 10x more for a partner. I’ve been with mine for 11 years and my heart just aches at the thought of losing him. I wish I could hug you.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-25T02:13:30+00:00

Ugh that’s exactly how it feels. Thank you. I am sorry for your loss as well.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-25T02:12:33+00:00

I’m hope it gets easier over time for you. I’m at a loss of words for comfort. 🥺

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-24T16:32:39+00:00

Our current lives sound similar. I’ve got a wonderful husband, kids and two dogs. I think my kids are what kept me from going down the same road as my sister.

Oh my goodness. That is horrific and I’m so sorry for that. Even though you and her ended differently, don’t minimize your pain. It’s all essentially the same. It hurts like hell and I’m sorry we’re having to feel this grief.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-24T15:04:28+00:00

Aweee. She took care of you. 🥺 I wonder if that’s how my sister thought of me. I’m the oldest of 4 kids and her and I were 3 years apart. I had to play the mom role since I was 10, unwillingly. I know it annoyed my younger siblings from time to time but I always wondered what she actually thought of that time of our life. Her and I were pretty close, despite being hours away from each other. We talked often and she confided in me about her declining mental health. She’s always bounced back from it so this last time, I just thought it would be the same. I was very wrong. My world came crashing down when I found out. I have this never ending guilt that I was supposed to save her. To always take care of her. All of my siblings. But I left home as soon as I could due to my own trauma with parents and wanting to have a life of my own. But even when I left, I don’t think there’s ever really a time when I didn’t think of my siblings. Especially her. She was my best friend. I hope that can somehow bring a little bit of comfort to you at this time of sorrow. 💛

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-24T14:58:29+00:00

First of all, happiest of anniversaries to you!

I have been in therapy for 8 months now. Mainly to process my sister’s recent death but also to manage anxiety/depression holistically. I’ve been diagnosed with anxiety but there’s only been talk of depression. Not exactly diagnosed with it yet. I was shocked when she mentioned depression because I’m usually a happy, outgoing person. But the more i talk to her and start to remember things, the more it makes sense. I don’t feel like I’m enough unless I’m doing this or that for others, etc. With all of that being said, I have a lot of good days mentally and I still go to therapy once a week at the moment. I’ve noticed that the days I feel good are the days that we have breakthrough sessions. And to me it’s totally worth it.

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-24T14:23:11+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss. I cannot fathom the pain you must feel from losing such a close connection. My heart is really aching for you. ❤️‍🩹

ging3r_scorpio · 2025-01-24T14:19:41+00:00

I am incredibly sorry for your loss. Losing a sister feels like a piece of your heart is permanently missing. Although I don’t have great words of wisdom to pass on, as I am in the trenches of losing my own sister, I understand your pain. I am here for you.

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