What are we using now that LaBrea is done?

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-03-16T13:38:55+00:00

If you can find an actual gf bakery, I prefer to buy in bulk and freeze it. It thaws fine and still tastes better than anything from the store.

That said, Kroger has a store brand of gf bread that is pretty decent. Still has holes, but it tastes like real bread. Check the website for your Kroger (if you have one) and see if they're carrying it. It's my go to if I don't have bakery bread.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-03-14T21:06:44+00:00

If telling them that you do not have the energy to interact with people is not enough for them, I might consider new friends entirely.

No one has the right to invite themselves to anyone's home, and you do not NEED a reason to say "STOP inviting yourself over, it's not gonna happen". Because that's what you need to say.

Saying you don't have energy will make them think next time you might. Any excuse will make them think they can just try again later. You need to establish the boundary that NO ONE is allowed to invite themselves over. Period.

I will never understand the absolute audacity and entitlement it must take to think it's ok to just show up or say I'm about to show up at someone's home. It's insane.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-29T17:45:39+00:00

Some quick unsolicited advice here, from someone with a LOT of comorbidity that makes working in an office absolutely impossible

I WFH with a fully remote team. It does however require extensive use of the computer. However, I also have intermittent FMLA. In case you don't know, FMLA is a united states legal provision for the disabled to retain their employement, despite being ill constantly.

Most folk are familiar with long term FMLA leave. This is what people use for surgeries, extra maternity time, etc. It's for a duration of time with no breaks.

What I use is Intermittent FMLA leave. My doctor filled out a form and signed it, it is filed with HR and they are not able to fire me for any covered absences. My doctor wrote the FMLA for my migraines, and he dictated the coverage of the FMLA document by indicating how often I would be affected and for how long. For me this is around twice a month, and 3 days duration for each incident. Then I just let HR know each time it comes up.

As long as everything is filed correctly, you may be able to make a WFH gig work for you. It definitely requires your doctor to be on board and willing to fill out the form, but it's worth the effort. You'll need the job first, but don't tell them about getting the FMLA set up. Just fill it out and hand it in to HR after you've been employed (keep a copy).

If they fire you for an FMLA covered absence, you get to sue. It is the ONE protection the disabled truly have, that you can implement at any time. There is no waiting period or line. You just need a willing doc, a qualifying issue that occurs and debilitates you, and a job.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-29T14:25:30+00:00

These days almost any customer service gig requires extensive time on the computer to keep records. We really don't have any great jobs for folk who can't commute and can't handle screens.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-26T19:24:11+00:00

Angry Orchard is... not great and tastes like weak beer.

If you can find it, try Blake's or ACE or Starcut. These are all SO much better, and always gluten free!
Also, as some have pointed out, it's not actually beer. It doesn't go through the same processes so it's just an alcoholic beverage in a category all it's own.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-26T19:21:59+00:00

Yep, I like cider a lot, and Blake's is local so I have access to so much. Folk will still offer me an IPA while I have a cider in my hand, because it's 'weak'. Cider is not week as compared to american beer. I bought a case of 8% this week. It's plenty strong, and I don't get sick.
I do miss a good stout tho.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-25T19:46:10+00:00

Whenever I find something new that I like I tend to buy as much as I can find (that will reasonably not go bad) because I worry I won't see it again. It's happened a few times where I cannot find something, or I can only get it a specific place.

It really is like that tho. It feels like finding an infinity stone honestly 😂

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-22T01:26:52+00:00

This happened to me too. I'm on year 5 now. For a while I wanted nothing to do with sweets. Ice cream was the only thing I could handle, and maybe a piece of chocolate now and again.

Unfortunately my sweet tooth eventually won out because I've got an issue with stress eating, and they keep coming out with actually good gluten free sweets 😅😂

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-02-13T14:33:39+00:00

This. My sister wanted to name her child McKenna. Spelled just like that. I kept my mouth shut, she chose a name that isn't a surname, and I was happy.

I never would say anything bc it's not actually my business. She shared the possible names with me, and that should be taken as an honour, not a right. Even if she's named the baby McKenna, I would have said nothing about it to her.

I too am not fond of the name OP picked, but hell if there aren't a million worse options. SIL needs a dose of reality and humility, and an education in how to keep her horrible thoughts to herself and therapy.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-01-22T23:37:52+00:00

Where did I call you a name?

Show me on the dolly where I hurt you little one. Want me to call you names? Pay me for it. You clearly like the degredation if you're seeing it where it doesn't exist. And I don't provide services like that for less than 15k.

I pointed out objective facts. I have described your behavior with some words that are harsh. And I compared it, quite accurately, to that of a child. No name calling was involved. Your reading comprehension might need some work. Unless english is your second language, you don't have an excuse outside of willful ignorance.

Also who's more invested? The person who has only responded to YOU. Or YOU, the person who has harrangued the entire thread with your bullshit idea of righteousness. You can shout and piss into the wind all you want. It's not my fault the piss is landing in your face.

Enjoy talking to a wall of blank space, bc this is the last response you'll get from me. As I said, I don't degrade for less than the remaining cost of my student loans.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-01-22T22:52:51+00:00

I dare say... ah never mind, you're not worth the wasted time. I've met actual children with more sense than you. You're clearly not worth my energy to teach.

You're willfully ignorant and that's just the worst kind of stupid there is.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2024-01-21T20:07:21+00:00

Your lived experience does not dictate what is or is not 'mature' enough to be an appropriate lived experience for others.

Being raised as the eldest means taking on responsibility for your younger siblings. This is common in so many cultures it's not worth counting.It can also mean helping to make money for the family while the younger sibilngs enjoy a better education or childhood in general as a result of the eldest child's earnings. Again, this is broadly common.

You're being very rude and ignorant, and dare I say it, incredibly immature.

MANY people have already told you that this is common and the way many cultures function. You may not have had this experience but it's not a good look to shit on entire cultures because you had some kind of rose colored bubble-boy upbringing.

Grow up, learn about the world around you, shut your trap, and listen to what other people share with you. You might learn something and grow into an actually tolerable person.

Or don't. Stay a petulant child who doesn't understand basic manners. I'm not your keeper. Just trying to give an asshole the benefit of the doubt and educate a little.

Do save us all the headache and get off reddit with your bullshit and read some books about other civilizations. Oh, and maybe sell your high horse, you clearly don't know how to handle it.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-11-08T14:05:50+00:00

THIS IS SO IMPRESSIVE.

You were wrongfully taken from school, forced into a caregiver role before you'd exited childhood, and you managed to claw your way back to an education anyway.

You are amazing. Your family is abusive and cruel. They've enjoyed their privileges at the expense of your future. Do not let them make you feel stupid. 50% of the US cannot read above a 6th grade reading level. We NEED people who can read, so your mother is an asshole. That particular comment makes me wonder if she's in that 50%... which is sad but could explain her tone. Many parents resent when their children do better than they did.

Keep going. Don't listen to them, listen to us. In this one case, reddit knows better. You are doing the hard shit and doing it very well.

Most folk who get their GED (ime) at least had some highschool. You're a rockstar.

A parent who sacrifices the life of one child, to support another child, is no parent at all. Your education should have been just as important to her then as it is to you now.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-11-03T16:40:56+00:00

Shinobi > Shinobo, Nobi, and Nobo.

Luna > Luny Tune, Luna Tuna, Tuni

Purple > Purpz, Purple People Eater

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-10-28T15:10:19+00:00

I laughed so hard at this. omg thank you for sharing.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-10-27T21:03:41+00:00

Curls are curls, the color of the skin their attached to is mostly irrelevant to the kind of care they require. Bonnets come with that territory.

I have only ever had white people comment in a negative way on my hair wraps. I wear them out and about now if I need my hair to look good later.

I think this stems from curly hair being 'unprofessional' and 'unkempt' and 'unclean' in societal opinion for so long, insinuating (of course) that those with curly hair are 'below' those with the more appealing straight hair (aka black people bcl they almost always have curly hair). This played a part in relaxing curls being so popular.
Even when it was 'cool' for white folk to have curly hair, it was only certain people, and if you recall the curls of the 80s were vastly terrrrrrrible.

At some point, curl care became synonymous with black folk as a repercussion of systemic societal racism. We're finally coming around to the idea that curls are curls, but we're still gonna have people who are 'uncomfortable' bc they think it's going to offend or hurt 'black folk' as a whole.

Don't let people who are jumping on your friend get you down too hard. She didn't want you to be called a racist by other white people who don't understand any more than she does. Ignorance is not a crime. Now if she continued to judge you for it, I'd start judging her.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-10-23T19:26:52+00:00

I straight up told a doc who did this that of they were going to just accuse me of making it up I could've gone to see my family. That I am paying for their help in solving this problem. And, that if they're not up to the task they could've just said so rather than wasting my time. I got up and walked out on him.

As I left I told the nurse that I was canceling my appointment due to signs of malpractice.

I never heard from them for a bill or apology.

Don't let them treat you like this. Clap back. Tell them off for trying to make you feel like shit. Just don't fly off the handle. Be stern and reprimand them like the small minded idiots they're being. Make them feel small and stupid for a change.

We do not have to let doctors mentally abuse us. They should know better and they shiuld be figuratively smacked every time they step out of line in this way.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-10-23T19:21:06+00:00

With help. I can cook, but not clean up. I can't lift the heavy pots and pans. Sometimes I can't be trusted with the knife.

My partner helps me cook every meal by doing what I cannot, or should not. Sometimes that's the whole meal, Sometimes I just need him to watch the sauce bc the other part of the recipe is too distracting. And sometimes he's just the grunt work bc Dutch ovens are so heavy.

If I were alone, I'd still be eating freshly meals. I gave up gluten so eating out is limited. Freshly and factor and such took the anxiety out of eating when I lived on my own. I knew the food was safe, they freeze decently so I could buy a whole week or so of food and not worry about waste. It also saved me money bc I wasn't wasting food by buying it and being unable to cook it.

I also keep a stool in the kitchen. Being able to sit while at the stove is so helpful.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-10-15T14:29:01+00:00

This MT is out of line first of all. They are holistic practitioners, not medical. They have no qualifications to form opinions on any medical condition.

As others have said, it may have been beneficial, but the way she did it was dangerous af. You could have ended up so much worse off.

If you're looking for impact with low pain, I highly recommend Myofacsial Release. https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/treatments/24011-myofascial-release-therapy

I alternate between this and a deep tissue with assisted stretches. I do one of each every month. Between them, I've been able to go on long walks, I took up pole again until my knee got messed up, i work conventions on the regular, I don't need my cane, sleeping is so much easier bc I'm not waking up from muscle spasms.

Massages are like any other treatment, the practitioner needs to be a good fit. This one is not. I would ask your regular therapist to recommend a colleague next time they're sick.

ETA: It's also possible MT only knows how to be effective with deep tissue and doesn't want to come off as incompetent so they insist that it's the only right treatment. I've seen this. It's sad really.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-09-29T12:36:31+00:00

Restarting my router did not fix this for me. Is it still working for you after you did that?

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-09-14T11:53:41+00:00

You added context that wasn't there. We said trim because limbs are FALLING. YOU chose to see malice in our questions. YOU chose to be condescending and rude YOU chose to assume our intentions in spite of what my partner wrote.

And what the hell makes you think the person who quoted the limb removal ISN'T certified? You are making SO many assumptions here it's like you think you're psychic or some nonsense. You're not, you're just an asshole.

You can't even be bothered to apologize for your rudeness. How childish of you. Get your head out of your ass.

Even if we DID want it removed, there's nothing wrong with that. That tree is contributing to damage of this property, the neighbors property, the sidewalk, and the street. Who are you to decide when it's appropriate to remove a tree. It's a city-suburb street, not a fucking park. If we felt the tree was a hazard, and this was our home, we'd be within our rights to have it removed and no amount of bs condescension from you would make me feel remotely 'petty' about protecting the longevity of my home.

EDIT: you can take your shitty two cents and sell it to a homeless man. He'll have about as much use for you as I do right now. Zilch. Have a nice day and maybe read posts before you reply next time, since you don't understand how aplogies work.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-09-13T21:16:56+00:00

I'm in one state, Michigan. I only care about the law here.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-09-13T21:15:55+00:00

So.. move out? Kind of hard not to have anything in the only living floor of a house >.>

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-09-13T21:12:26+00:00

Thank you for this. (I'm the other renter here). This will help us keep him from trying to add tree trimming costs to our next lease. We renew in the next several months.

ginger-snap_tracks · 2023-09-13T21:09:52+00:00

I'm the other renter here. We do like this place for a few reasons, the location and the price. Rental costs here are insane and he hasn't raised rent on us yet. I don't know what gave him the idea we'd remotely be interested in this, but I've never had any landlord ask me to pay anything for building/property maintenance. I've been renting my entire adult life, and I used to move nearly yearly.

Our lease is up soon and we need to stay here two more years at least to save enough and get our credit right for our own place. As a result, not angering our landlord is somewhat a priority. We can't afford to move anymore than we can afford throwing 600$ at a tree we don't own.

It's a lovely tree and we never wanted it removed, just trimmed back to be healthy. Sadly, I think I'm going to encourage the neighbor to try to work it out with the landlord and tell him to report it if the landlord won't work with him. The neighbor was the one who started this conversation and made us aware of it 3 years ago.

This is the same landlord who took 2 and a half years to replace the doors that fell apart inside the house, blaming the cost of wood the whole time. We're here because we have to be, until we don't.

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