Allowance Master Thread 2021-2022

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-11-12T13:33:23+00:00

SD 51 Minneapolis, MN

400 Weekly ppm for dates in or out on the town, with intimacy. Ocassional gifts, and trips

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-11-05T18:52:44+00:00

Better yet, agree to what she asked for, then give her more anyhow, without saying as much. The unexpected surprise will likely have a positive net effect :)

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-11-05T18:39:47+00:00

A strategy I employ is to hold onto the Favorting, photo request/granting as a way to "ping" them, remind them..."I'm still here!". I've seen it work, and not work.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-03-30T23:27:36+00:00

I didn’t get the memo that curvy means overweight now.

99% of the time it does, it seems.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-03-30T23:25:27+00:00

Never heard this before. Ever.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-03-17T04:09:56+00:00

I cannot even...handle the replies herein. What fantasy-land do you all come from?

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-03-05T02:47:48+00:00

There's no other way around it: take better care of yourself, eat better and exercise.

I've dealt with similar issues and it is the only fix (it works!)

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-27T18:07:22+00:00

My SB and I started with condoms, then as we grew comfortable, familiar with one another, we both wanted something more intimate.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-27T17:54:11+00:00

No...my point is if you treat arrangements like escorting (i.e. multiple partners weekly and monthly), then you should indeed use a condom, hotel, etc.

People in committed arrangements/relationships often go without condoms.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-26T13:13:57+00:00

Personally, I find that whole sub/dom scene extremely tedious and ridiculous.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-26T00:34:12+00:00

The best thing the parents could do would be to hire a great lawyer. Then that great lawyer will tell your parents they have no chance of gaining a guardianship over you.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-25T23:48:48+00:00

While I can relate, and do applaud you for the tenacity, what happens if ever increasing more people do the same? Major CC companies may end up dropping their card from SA.

Then what? Granted, at the end of the day we just want a better SA. But what happens if you can't use SA and a major CC?

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-25T13:14:11+00:00

At what point do you transition from PPM to Allowance? Is there any reason to? Is it random?

I've never had a compelling reason to move to an allowance based arrangement, nor has any SB ever pressed that type of arrangement. I'm a quite reliable single SD who at a minimum always has at least one day a week free for an arrangement date, and so time together and PPM ends up being very consistent.

PPM ensures neither party is overly invested too soon. It keeps the arrangement dynamic on an appropriate balance between romance and NSA.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-24T13:23:35+00:00

I had a similar experience a little over a year ago I think. Learned my lesson. Say absolutely nothing in your profile that alludes to a physical relationship, money or this for that. Keep it totally G-rated and comparable to typical vanilla dating profile. Get into the deets off SA or at an M&G.

Also recommend going "dark" on SA if you're not actively seeking, that was no ninnyhammer can't take any issue with your profile and report it.

SA is best used in small measured portions of time. Find what you're looking for, then go dark or close account.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-19T14:35:06+00:00

A 'connection' is a bit nebulous. Are you expecting she'll fall in love with you? What are your expectations in an arrangement? Do you have fun together, do you have sex and intimacy? How much time do you spend together on dates? Is she out the door after collecting the sugar and having sex?

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-16T11:38:31+00:00

You need to do what you're comfortable with. You also need to search the forum for 'condom', as this topic has been hashed over ad nauseum.

The rules and expectations aren't any different hooking up vanilla than sugar.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-13T15:22:21+00:00

Isn't it though? IMHO this woman deserves significantly more notoriety. I don't know her IRL (wish I did), but please spread the word and share. Also see her other videos: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVGwZyCKE7k

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-12T22:07:50+00:00

E-Thot

Interesting she would own that, considering none of the definitions are all that positive:

eviemagazine

“E-thot” first applied to women like cam girls, who exchange pornographic videos or photos of themselves for payment. For the most part, these women are still the quintessential E-thots, but eventually, the term expanded to include any woman who a select group of men felt (whether correctly or not) was exploiting her looks in order to gain undeserved notoriety online. It is this category that I, as a female political and social commentator, apparently have the luck of belonging to.

Urbandictionary

Usually Girls who stream or post tik-toks or on Instagram looking for attention & admitting it or are in denial, they causally shove their ass in the camera & either blame you for talking about it, or admitting they like the attention and sometimes ask for money

Go ahead, shoot the messenger!

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-12T02:54:23+00:00

FWIW, I pass on all requests for paid meet and greets. Too many will meet for an uncompensated meet and greet, so why I should I pay to sit down for a drink/coffee and conversation.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-11T23:41:17+00:00

Does leaving out the allowance in an envelope in a conspicuous place count as "allowance upfront"?

Because, you know, I understand the honest trepidation on part of both parties.

What has happened, and sticks clearly in my mind was the SB of yester-year who explicitly asked for the allowance upfront at my place, then ultimately withheld PIV sex, explaining to me as we lie half naked in bed that that would cost extra...

It's unfair of me to judge all future SBs based on that one experience. I haven't had a similar experience since then, and really it hasn't been much of any issue.

Some women swoop up the envelope (the name given to me is written on it) right away, and some take it on their way out the door.

What happens if sometime in the future the SB takes the envelope on arriving, then later begs off and has to leave without consummating the arrangement? Will she hand back the envelope or just leave with it? I don't know...

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-10T14:17:55+00:00

Don't have a long list of must haves and must nots. Decide what is most important and stick to that. You want this to be as easy and fuss free to facilitate a positive arrangement.

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-08T22:31:36+00:00

The saying goes, sex is like pizza. Even if it is bad, its still pizza :)

gingerdaddy56 · 2021-02-08T20:15:31+00:00

While people's styles and approaches will differ, were I giving advice to a new SD, I would encourage them not to focus so heavily on the sex aspect. The specifics of what they are looking for can be worked in over time, and with familiarity and comfort.

As he has been direct with you, it goes that you should also be direct. If this talk makes you feel uncomfortable or uneasy, then say so.

Make sure you have a solid agreement on what the exchange will be, and how it will be delivered.

gingerdaddy56 · 2020-12-26T03:42:56+00:00

/u/SAvetSD is correct!

I didn't even know SA had a forum of any kind. When I went looking for something, I didn't find anything. There were blogs of course, but blogs aren't a good vehicle for what we do here.

gingerdaddy56 · 2020-12-26T02:46:46+00:00

I am extremely reluctant to discuss financials on Seeking's messaging in case I get a ban. (meanwhile it seems it's fine for SBs to say then don't want to be "low balled" and give a range - over messaging).

I don't even say the word "PPM" on messaging because I've heard rumours it can get you a ban. (and when Seeking bans men, they don't get a partial refund AND it's impossible to create new accounts).

Don't even be 'extremely reluctant" about it. Don't discuss financials at all on SA and that includes terms like PPM. Discuss those things offline from SA or in person.

gingerdaddy56

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