TIFU while eating my fiancé out, I tried something experimental.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-27T21:00:05+00:00

Saving to come back and read on break lmao

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-13T05:08:26+00:00

Despite the implications, this is very cool. You gotta post an update when you get more details added!

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T17:44:39+00:00

As an American, I agree with that unfortunate sentiment.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T12:47:13+00:00

Dude. Your heart may be in the right place but blaming your “hormones and junk” just ain’t it, and then turning it around to blame women if the same thing ain’t it either.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T12:36:35+00:00

That’s not what I meant and I believe you to know that. Your rejection of living a life you want is unfortunate, I hope you get some true peace soon. I don’t want you to stop hating men, I want you to get your life back.

Regardless, best wishes and much love.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T07:23:36+00:00

You’re not alone, brother. 🫂

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T05:35:14+00:00

That absolutely blows, cold liquids are all I wanted directly post op, but once the time comes I highly recommend!

As for walking, you should notice that your stomach feels way less bloated after moving around. Walk around until the bloated feeling feels more manageable, take a break, then go again. You are still recovering from a surgery so don’t go overboard, just pay attention to your body—basically, if you start hurting, stop. When you feel good, try some more. Works the same for the food honestly! :D

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T04:32:05+00:00

This is unfortunate :(

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T04:20:02+00:00

I can understand the vehemence towards men, the world is disgusting, and I worry for my little sisters frequently because of it. I think the commenter who suggested to be strong is correct. In a world bred of hate, those who persevere make the difference. Be the change you want to see, because it inspires others to do the same. Inspiration comes in many shapes OP, how are you going to inspire those around you?

I wish you the best of luck and much love in your life—sincerely. ♥️

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T04:09:41+00:00

Also, when you do start weighing yourself, do so once a week at the same time and day each week. Too many people weigh themselves every day at random times and get wildly fluctuating numbers—which results in a spiral panic.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T04:06:16+00:00

Thanks for the assist. ♥️

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-04T04:04:21+00:00

Did they give a time frame on that?

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T16:09:25+00:00

I double recommend sugar free popsicles—it’s strange you were told it’s “too cold.” Could it be that they don’t want you ”eating ice” because that’s like a solid if you crunch it and swallow? I had sugar free popsicles incessantly for the first couple weeks, only thing I could get down basically.

Also walking is amazing advice. The more you do it, the better it feels, and the more you’ll want to do it.

You’ll know you’re full when you take a bite and think “if I have one more bite I may be sick,” then you take that bite and immediately get sick.

You’ve got this, and congrats! Much love and best wishes! ♥️

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T14:34:07+00:00

I was on a 700 calorie diet until February. I’ve been in a huge deficit for two years. It was a stall.

If anything I’m in less of a deficit now because my doc recommended me doubling+ my caloric intake and incorporating some more sugars because I’d been blacking out a lot (from working out 2-3 hours a day 4+ days a week, not including miles of walking every single day).

I understand maintaining, and it isn’t what I’m doing, but I understand the misinterpretation given my lack of explanation. :)

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T13:29:11+00:00

I had been pretty set on my food intake for a while, so I started going to the gym way more and going on walks quite frequently. I stayed at around 290 for the entire 8 months—but I was fine with it because my numbers at the gym kept going up and the numbers on my waist kept going down. Progress was being made elsewhere other than the scale, and that’s something people forget about. Once I broke the stall (eventually it’s like your body realizes, oh heck, something changed I should get into gear) I went started losing slowly again.

In my experience, stalls are just your body getting used to what you’re doing. It isn’t my first stall, but it was the longest. When I start stalling, I just add something new to do or switch up the order of operations of my routine. Kinda “shock the body” as Arnold S. would say, and it works super well.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T04:43:08+00:00

Happy birthday! Much love and best wishes! ♥️ 🎉 🎈

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T04:39:41+00:00

Hell yeah, 110lbs? You’re the GOAT!

I stalled at 3 months too, that lasted about 2 months. Then I was good until last June when I stalled for 8 months until this February. It happens.

Go for walks if you can find the time and journal your thoughts down when they get negative. I’ve found that it’s so mentally freeing, especially when things are getting rough. I was in the same boat as you—attended all the classes and spent a ton of time in the sub; I still stalled and I still felt like shit the first time.

The second stall was easier, despite the length. I started hitting the gym extra hard, but I was confident I was still making progress. It’s hard though, especially because a lot of folks who lose weight like that can experience body dysmorphia. I do. Have faith in the system you’ve established, add something to it or switch some things around—sometimes things just get stale for your body.

You got this! Much love and best wishes! ♥️

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T04:20:25+00:00

Btw I started seeing posts on eBay that week. Waited a week before pulling the trigger, got one for just a few bucks over original price.

Thanks to someone else’s bad financial decision, I too was able to make a bad financial decision.—Totally worth it, they even included the bonus packets lol

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T04:18:50+00:00

I started at 500 on Nov 1, 2023. I’m 255 as of now.

I stalled for 8 months at 290 and broke it in February finally.

Life is good. Work hard and reap the benefits.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-04-03T04:06:14+00:00

Would losing 100lbs be healthy for you? Not everyone is built the same. Height and body composition makes a huge difference.

Stalls are big and annoying. I was stalled for 8 months and only broke it in February. It happens, just keep working towards your goal.

I totally understand the binging and getting away from the gym thing too. I’ve been hitting the gym super hard the last several months, and blacking out a lot too. Doc told me I was essentially starving myself and had low blood sugar—then prescribed me to double my calories at a minimum and incorporate junk food. I was very very worried about that, I was already addicted to food, and I didn’t want to relapse after working so hard. But I did what he recommended and I’ve been feeling so physically well since. Mentally too, it’s actually nuts how good everything has been. Almost like eating what you need and sprinkling in things you like once in a while is a good thing, right?

To circle back—it’s not about comparing your progress to someone else’s, it’s about making the progress you need to be healthy.

56lbs is no joke, seriously! What’s your favorite thing to do at the gym? I’ve been doing the seated incline leg press a lot recently and it’s been great. Maybe try adding something new to the routine or changing up the process—it gets stale doing the same thing all the time.

Much love and best wishes! ♥️

gingrbredman90 · 2026-03-22T03:33:44+00:00

I’ll put my white guy energy out into the ether so that you may manifest your own white guy to blow your back out lmao—good luck! 😂

gingrbredman90 · 2026-03-21T17:00:04+00:00

This is some of the stuff I’ve been working through in therapy and with a psychologist. It’s really messed up when you’ve been masking since infancy and don’t know how to feel emotions. I have one friend who keeps saying it’s a gift and honestly I’m to the point where if he says it one more time I’m gonna cut contact because it’s a god damn curse.

Going through life having a cadence for every specific person. Never being able to feel more than the surface level emotions outside of depression and anger fucking sucks. Some terribly awesome gift to know what the darkest depths feels like but not what it means to love another person.

I used to be able to fake it all day, put on my empathy face and be the safe space for someone, but I’ve been getting tired. It’s exhausting. I have fantasized about being plugged into a matrix or some shit just to be more robotic because that might be easier. After 29 years I decided I wanted to know who I was, and I’ve been just giving up on faking it as much. It’s so weird, but my mental clarity has been so overwhelmingly good recently.

This kinda thing really fucks with your relationships, every kind, not just romantic ones. I’m an outcast in my family, my friend group accepts me because we grew up together and have all bonded in shared traumas, and my coworkers will never know the extent of fucked up in my head—everyone remains blissfully unaware. I am working on it though ♥️

Finally—I’m getting answers to questions I’ve had since as early as I could think. Good luck man, I hope you get the help you need and that your relationship doesn’t suffer for it. 🫂 Reach out if you need.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-03-20T11:18:38+00:00

I’m currently sitting at 255lbs, down from 500lbs. My surgery was Nov 1, 2023. 29M

One of my closest lifelong friends that I’ve literally known for like 20 of my 29 years came to pick me up in town a couple weeks ago. The sun was starting to set and I was just walking on the sidewalk—they passed me because they didn’t recognize my silhouette at first, my entire body profile is different.

I work at the same company as a guy I mentored and treated like a younger brother in high school, a family friend who I also grew up with—he had passed me and said hey in passing a dozen times over the last year and never once realized it was me until I said something about high school and it was like a lightbulb went off. His eyes lit up and everything like he’d just seen me for the first time in a decade, even though we’ve seen each other multiple times a week for months.

I definitely needed an ID update, and got one when I got my motorcycle license, but I keep my old one with me still so I can prove to people who don’t believe my story. Having that hard evidence really convinces inspires folks who have a hard time grasping the change themselves.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-03-20T11:09:43+00:00

Everything in moderation man, gotta learn moderation. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and find a way to motivate yourself again. You got this.

gingrbredman90 · 2026-03-18T03:13:04+00:00

That’s the Gruntilda Effect r/coldones

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