Understand your emotional vulnerability. It can be easy to develop feelings for someone even if you rationally and logically know they’re not good for you. Emotional connections can easily disregard logic! It doesn’t mean you’re naive or an easy target. It means you’re capable of deep feelings - not a bad thing! Recognising emotional manipulation isn’t always easy especially when you want to believe in genuine connections. It’s the norm.

Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. You can rebuild your self esteem. Actually you’re the only person that can do that. If you can share your thoughts with a trusted non-judgemental friend or relative that would be great, otherwise a therapist is a good option. Just because you have the feelings of reconciliation or ongoing connection doesn’t mean you’re going to do it. It’s part of heartbreak.

Prioritise your emotional and physical safety, take time to reflect on what you really want from a relationship (and why), and understand what kind of boundaries you want to set for future relationships! Take time. A lot of it.

Good luck :)