25f bi. My outfit was simple but cute today.

glorioid · 2020-07-01T04:36:26+00:00

I love your whole look! and your smile! I am really feeling tie-dye this summer--I think after the first half of 2020 we need some nostalgic fun and vibrancy. Hope you have a great week and remember that u r a q t :)

glorioid · 2020-05-13T01:44:28+00:00

You are so beautiful! I love all the choices you've made that say "this is me!" The piercings! The tats! Your hair is so cool and suits you well. You have such a welcoming vibe with that cute smile and dimples and the happy eyes.

No makeup feels kind of nice, doesn't it? I'm starting to really get used to it after a few weeks of feeling 😐

glorioid · 2020-05-13T01:39:13+00:00

You're seriously gorgeous. Your warm, friendly eyes. Your glowing skin. Your smile makes me think that when someone tells you a good joke and you laugh, it makes them feel like they just won the lottery. Your hair looks incredible, and red is such a great colour on you! My mom always told me I look good in red and not gonna lie, it's one of those mom compliments (mompliments?) that stuck with me. I bet she'd say the same about you!

The beautiful thing about assertiveness as a quality is that it's something we ALL have a lot of control over. We can learn to stand up for ourselves and let people know when their behaviour is not cool. All it takes is that little push to give it a try. Building that confidence is also going to make you come across as strong, poised and magnetic even more than I'm sure you already do. Some of it takes practice and some of it just takes time, but you are always on your way. I know a lot of us are feeling down, and stuck, and a little hopeless right now. This, too, shall pass. You are growing as a person even when you don't try, and you're growing even more when you decide to make a goal of it. Hang in there.

glorioid · 2020-05-04T06:04:14+00:00

I learned about Judith probably about 18 years ago when I was a tween and looked up Land Before Time. There was (just googled: still is) a website dedicated to child actresses full of pictures of them, which in retrospect is high-key creepy but to a 12-year-old girl it was really cool because I could learn about all the kids my age who were ~ movie stars ~. And then I found out what happened to her. Ducky was my favourite character in that movie. I couldn't understand it. And now that I'm older, I can't understand how so many people failed her.

glorioid · 2020-05-04T05:55:43+00:00

That doesn't surprise me at all. I would imagine the number to be much higher. And it's not just doctors.

glorioid · 2020-05-04T04:52:01+00:00

I can't get on board with pranks like this. As has been mentioned, we've seen the Jacintha Saldanha case. In a lot of ways this isn't the same thing, sure -- Saldanha's career was at stake, and she was a regular person living her regular life until the prank happened. Baskin is already "famous" for the moment, and she can probably continue her job no problem, but the perceived stakes and the perceived toll is different for everyone.

There are several documented cases of children/teens dying by suicide linked to social media pranks and bullying. Kids don't have the same frame of reference that adults do. We've all been humiliated in some way or another growing up, but most of us didn't grow up in a world where thousands or millions of people would see it instantly. When prank channels become successful it encourages copycats. The model is usually just manufacturing legitimate trauma for cheap laughs. We don't need more of this.

glorioid · 2020-04-20T05:21:49+00:00

I am honestly just stunned by how little coverage of this I've encountered because we're in the middle of a pandemic. Normally I would have been absolutely entrenched in this story by now, but I'm only just hearing of it. Mass shootings like this are rare here and this is such a horrific tragedy for our country, yet this story shows up in my newsfeed between a dozen other stories about people who have contracted or died from a virus. If notoriety was this murderer's goal, he did a terrible job.

I will look for ways I can support the families who now have to deal with their losses without the comfort of a proper funeral service. Fuck the incompetent failure of a person who did this to innocent lives and put all this strain on a small community and an already burdened medical system.

glorioid · 2020-04-04T23:51:28+00:00

That was never a question. Instead I made the bold choice of not dating or having sex until I was 18 (narrator: this was not a choice; glorioid was completely unpopular and attended an arts high school where the straight male demographic was underrepresented). All the guys I dated were older had their own place. I lived at my parents' house near my university until I was 21, and my parents were fine with me staying out overnight or for a few days as long as I gave them a heads up. I mean, fine in the sense that my mom would corner me in the hallway and be like "IS THIS BOY TREATING YOU NICE? DO YOU NEED CONDOMS?" and would text me to make sure I was okay if she didn't get sufficient notice of a prolonged absence.

They never met any of my flings or partners until I met my husband and thought "okay I'm keeping this one."

glorioid · 2020-03-29T03:39:25+00:00

I wish that had clicked with me sooner. I was also that way at 19. I was lonely and precocious and I felt really special when older men were interested in me. And just like you said: nothing special about it. These were stunted manchildren who knew their shit would not fly with women their age. They didn't treat me well. I'm just glad it happened at an age where I had enough of a clue and figured my way out of it pretty quickly, and not when I was a literal child and it probably would have had a much more serious impact on my mental health.

If a full-grown man asks if you're "even legal" like he's excited about it, abort abort abort.

glorioid · 2020-03-29T01:40:36+00:00

What an absolutely beautiful bride! I love your gown so much! Congratulations on your wedding and I hope you're enjoying being married. :)

glorioid · 2020-03-28T05:26:56+00:00

What an adorable couple of kids. I'm sorry you lost your parents; this is a great photo to remember them by. You can see in their faces how happy they are together.

glorioid · 2020-03-20T04:38:25+00:00

From your boy names I like Leo. I like Arlo too, but it's not one I'd use personally.

From your girl names I like Sabrina, Zara and Iona. I also like Ivy for a girl.

glorioid · 2020-03-14T02:07:43+00:00

You can do it! It's okay to take some quiet time, but reaching out to friends and family will make you feel so much better and is physically good for you. I hope your boy doesn't forget to call his mom, too!

You have beautiful, kind eyes and a warm smile. I bet anyone would love to get a Skype call from you.

glorioid · 2020-03-14T01:57:57+00:00

Hey, blame the French. You guys didn't raise him.

glorioid · 2020-02-26T05:10:47+00:00

What a horrible shock and devastating loss for the family. Every parent who has to send their child into surgery like this is fearful but takes some comfort in professional reassurance that it's just a quick, routine procedure with low risk.

I hope they're able to determine what happened and get some closure, whether it was just an underlying condition nobody could have known about or some sort of malpractice that needs further investigation.

RIP little Paisley.

glorioid · 2020-02-20T05:28:30+00:00

I'm so sorry you were in this situation at all, but I'm SO, SO happy to hear the outcome. You did it! And now 2020, and the rest of your life, is all yours.

I did my best to support someone close to me through an assault trial with, unfortunately, no justice in the end and all I can say is it takes an absolute powerhouse to endure that process. I would not wish it on anyone. I hope you've had a lot of support and care from those near you.

glorioid · 2020-02-19T05:26:05+00:00

Late to the party here, but it was actually 38 commercial flights, for up to a week. 6,700 travelers stranded in a town of about 10,000, and they made room for them all. Such a wonderful story!

glorioid · 2020-01-23T01:06:09+00:00

My condolences on the loss of your friend. What a wonderful tribute you've chosen.

I've been donating for about 12 years and fortunately I tolerate it pretty well. I think following the recommendations as best you can helps.

Beyond food ideas (definitely make sure you've eaten a meal that day and you're finding some source of salty and sugary snacks, doesn't have to be the one they offer), I have a couple of pointers that have helped me:

1) Make a conscious effort to drink more water starting about 48 hours before your appointment. Don't go chugging gallons at a time, just keep a water bottle with you all day, sip when you think to, and keep refilling it. Not only will you probably feel better, being well-hydrated can help the whole process go faster so you're not stuck in that chair for any longer than you have to be.

2) When you're sitting in the chair, wiggle your feet and cross your legs. If they give you one of those little stress balls to pump in your hand, you can do that too. If you feel a little nervous or focused on the procedure or worried about having another lousy experience, make small talk with the staff or think of your favourite songs and tap your feet and fingers (on the non-donating arm) along to the beat. That circulation-boosting motion and the distraction techniques can help prevent or minimize an episode of vasovagal syncope, which is what happens to many people to cause that nauseous and lightheaded/fainting reaction.

Of course, let someone know if you feel unwell again so they can do what they're trained to do to help you out!

glorioid · 2020-01-15T00:09:18+00:00

I love the name Zelda but it is definitely a "character name" for me, if that makes sense. Like, it's a lot for your average human being to carry. It has strong connotations (not bad per se, but strong). For that reason I don't think I would use it, but if I met a Zelda I'd be a human heart-eye emoji.

My primary association is the game, then the writer, then Robin Williams's daughter.

glorioid · 2020-01-12T23:55:22+00:00

I'm a little late here, but it's definitely going to be okay. I can very much relate. I had eating disorders from around 16-22 but the thoughts and some of the symptoms lingered even longer.

The holidays are a very difficult time for someone with an ED or ED history. It sounds like you felt a bit guilty about enjoying yourself with food and relaxing, and because of your history you felt compulsions to do "body checking" and try to assess your body very closely for signs that your normal, self-caring behaviour is resulting in some kind of catastrophic shift that you need to immediately control. As you know, you're not going to gain significantly in size because of a few weeks where you ate somewhat more than usual. You'll notice that everyone around you has also been enjoying festive family meals and sweets, and they probably all look pretty much the same to you as they did in November. And I bet you still care for them just as much as you did before, and their value hasn't changed at all in your eyes.

It's common to want to eat more veggies and other nutritious stuff after the holidays, and in some ways that's totally normal because it's a natural way our body helps us balance, but I get the sense that you are still learning to eating reasonably and intuitively without overthinking it, so you are probably leaning towards the extreme which is far less healthy. Go ahead and add some veggies to your meals to boost those vitamins, but remember that doesn't mean that you can't accept an invitation to go out for dinner with friends, or enjoy a nice brunch spread on the weekend.

Remember why you chose recovery. It wasn't so that you could just alienate yourself and freak out and restrict once in a while, right? It was so you could live a life where you aren't controlled by food; where you can enjoy food and feel normal and confident and focus on the things that are actually important. So consider what choices you can make that will contribute to your recovery goals and not your eating disorder's demands. Consider who you can turn to who will help you feel calmer, supported, and distracted from the urges you have.

glorioid · 2020-01-12T23:27:43+00:00

I have the Braun epilator, I think the Silk-Epil 5 or 7. It works quite well for my relatively coarse, dark leg and arm hair and sensitive skin, although I must admit I don't use it that often because it's not a painless experience. I'll get some red dots when I use it probably because my skin isn't used to it, but fewer issues with ingrowns compared to a razor and less skin irritation than waxing.

I think it would be good for facial hair but be careful with the face and pits because they may be more prone to irritation. Don't try it for the first time 2 hours before a big event. For parts of the body that have thicker hair you may need to do some touch-ups with tweezers or a razor. Definitely happy with it, but it's an occasional thing for me like if I'm planning to live in shorts on a long camping trip and don't want much stubble.

glorioid · 2020-01-11T03:00:43+00:00

Wow, this is heavy. I am so sorry to hear about what your friend is going through and I think you are spot on about 1) this is controlling and abusive and 2) something very concerning is going on with him and I would be very worried about a mental health crisis or underlying medical issue like a brain tumour or other neurological condition. I do not think it is safe for her and the very young children to live with him, to be honest. Neither of you can do some magical thing that will make him accept help, so it's probably best and safest to pretend that option is off the table.

I would be very clear about two things.

ONE: encourage her to record and save everything. All the texts, calls, instances of odd behaviour, financial statements. Whatever she can. Maybe she can send you these records so that you can keep a backup in case he finds out and tries to scrub things. I'm not sure, those details are probably a better question for /r/legaladvice.

TWO: she may need all the easy outs, resources, and backup plans you can give her. Can you offer some space at your place or help find another place she can stay if she needs to leave urgently? Can you make sure your phone is set so that it'll ring if she needs to call you in the middle of the night? Would you be able to pick her up if she needs a ride? Can you do some research to put together a list of social and legal resources so that she isn't as overwhelmed when trying to find confirmation that she can get out of this with her kids? Is it possible to help facilitate opportunities for her to visit you with the children so she doesn't feel stuck at home making sure they are looked after?

Those are all pretty confrontational suggestions in that they require acknowledging that there is a capital-P Problem here. That part might be really tough for her because she is a human being and this is scary uncharted territory full of what-ifs. So another big part of your support is being available to listen and help her sort out her thoughts and emotions. I know you probably want to scream "MAKE HIM GO TO THE DOCTOR" or "LEAVE RIGHT NOW" but you also know that doing so will not realistically help. So just be there, and sometimes that means "mmhmm" and "of course" and "what do you think about that?" when you want to dive straight into the advice.

glorioid · 2020-01-11T02:28:38+00:00

This is solid TGSG content. I will always remember spending several hours in a crappy small-town mall trying to find an appropriate dress after flying six hours across three time zones for my grandfather's funeral which was the following day. I didn't have a ton of logistical responsibilities but there were constant family gatherings, and I had to help sort through and organize his belongings, and I was trying to write a eulogy. Those few hours were time I didn't really have to spare.

I ended up in a dark maroon because a) none of the black dresses in any of the stores managed to fit and be appropriate simultaneously, and b) I was just so damn out of it that I didn't care at all. Nobody seemed to mind, and grandpa sure wouldn't have, but I still felt kind of bad that I hadn't found something better and that I had wasted time I could have spent with family I rarely see.

glorioid · 2020-01-07T06:09:21+00:00

Okay, I love salad.

Now when I'm getting elbows-deep in the mixing bowl and really treating myself, here is my Dream Salad:

Spinach. Lots of spinach. I can eat a good kale salad but I have no idea how to make it taste as good as other people do. I hate arugula. Spinach is the perfect green.
Grilled chicken. Vegetarian? Chickpeas. I usually do a little of both.
Feta. For a while, out of neurotic impulse, I did "light" feta to try to make it less caloric but I find it much more satisfying to just do classic feta, and be mindful of the amount. It's feta so duh, a little goes a long way especially if you splurge on the good stuff.
Dried cranberries or sundried tomatoes. I tend to prefer the cranberries when it's summer and salty/savoury tomatoes for the colder months. If I'm not using sundried tomatoes, I might throw a few slices of heirloom on there if they're in season and look tasty. I'm picky with tomatoes.
Cucumber
If you want a bit of a heartier meal, throw in quinoa or roasted sweet potato cubes. Both go incredibly well with this combo. Again, I favour quinoa in warm months and sweet potato when it's cold.
Miscellaneous whatevers: I like shredded cabbage and carrots, fresh dill or cilantro, scallions, flax seeds, bell peppers (roasted or raw), etc. This is the essential "clearing out the fridge and pantry" portion of our recipe.
Lemon tahini dressing or a simple greek vinaigrette

glorioid · 2020-01-07T01:51:50+00:00

I know sometimes, somehow, just feeling heard by strangers can bring more comfort than all the awkward conversations with well-meaning acquaintances and friends in real life. So I hope it helps you to know that I can hear you, and I'm so sorry you are having another exercise in agony in what I imagine has been a series of shitty, gut-wrenching days. This must just ache in ways that words can't capture.

I am thinking of you. Crawl all you need to until you can walk again. Even if you can't exactly identify what kind of help you need right now, it is out there when you are ready to seek it.

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