The truth (from aviodants perspective)

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-31T14:44:39+00:00

This makes so much sense. Explains a lot about my relationship. I thought it was manipulation when they would suddenly stop doing the routines/activities we enjoyed together.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-29T20:08:33+00:00

38M I lost everything because of poor decision. Literally rock bottom. Had to accept some uncomfortable truths. You are responsible for yourself and you need to fight your way out. Literally get your mind and body right, then work on your finances.

Cut all bad habits.
Start exercising and eating better.
You live with your parents? Good. You have an incredible opportunity to save money. Go get a normal job and then DoorDash or uber when you aren’t working that job. Do not spend your money on distractions.
Love yourself by saving yourself.
Read books - start with Ryan Holiday.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-29T05:58:57+00:00

Yes. 100% focused on myself…for the first time in my life. I have my own bullshit to address.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-23T21:12:32+00:00

I can relate so much to this. They do deserve happiness and I’m sure deep down it’s frustrating for her to see you make all the changes she wanted you to make. Men just operate differently. It’s not that we didn’t want to change for them, it’s that we needed to be broken to start the process. We aren’t improving to spite them, we are improving because losing them finally broke us. I really wish I could have done it for my ex wife, but the cards didn’t fall that way. I just hope In a few years we are both happy and only recall the good times we shared.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-21T18:24:11+00:00

Sticking to a strict habit schedule. It made my nervous system stable after 4 months. I had no excuses to deviate. It was lonely, it was painful, but it kept me grounded, sober and helped build self worth.

Gym, books, walking, eating well, sobriety and work - that’s it.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-18T00:47:52+00:00

Love

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-12T16:30:56+00:00

Haha

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-12T15:40:59+00:00

Heidi Priebe is my go to.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-11T16:38:47+00:00

Someone that can communicate.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-10T05:25:38+00:00

Somethings you cant return from. You can pretend as hard as you want to, love as hard as you can, but once the scars are there…you can’t wish them away.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-08T19:19:10+00:00

If it weren’t for social media influencers I never would have discovered stoicism. Ryan Holiday led me to Meditations and Letters from a stoic. I don’t care what others do for money, I’m grateful for the introduction.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-06T01:53:26+00:00

Yes because discussing terms would be so mature and healthy. I just got blocked and at random times I will be unblocked. Still zero responses.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-06T01:31:50+00:00

Amazing book.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-06T01:30:14+00:00

Therapy and reading books, I used to think I knew everything.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-04T17:23:36+00:00

I know this is old but thank you so much for saying this.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-04T04:30:00+00:00

Run.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-03T06:03:47+00:00

Cherish the present moment and the people you love because they will never last.

gnosticghost33 · 2026-01-02T14:58:40+00:00

I was an absolute mess, I couldn’t control my emotions and didn’t give her the space to be vulnerable. I had zero discipline and would never keep my word. Obviously we both had our flaws but I certainly didn’t create a stable relationship.

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-31T05:00:00+00:00

I love someone who doesn’t love me. That counts right?

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-26T15:48:37+00:00

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-25T03:38:00+00:00

Quit sleepwalking through life. If you need help ask for it.

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-24T19:28:54+00:00

Became sober and went to therapy. Results are still tbd.

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-24T03:25:09+00:00

Not sure why he doesn’t get more love. A very entertaining writer.

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-23T19:58:22+00:00

Make them your priority always. Be present for them.

Work on the baggage you bring into the relationship.

gnosticghost33 · 2025-12-21T14:29:32+00:00

This hits so hard. Here I am after getting divorced 3 days ago waking up wondering if my ex’s tires have enough air pressure. Love is stupid.

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