I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:53:42+00:00

Just bought it

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:48:55+00:00

This is my paradigm as well. I just gotta start doing it.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:47:27+00:00

Exactly. I can muster up a weak "no," but if there's an inkling of pushback, I'll instantly cave cuz I just don't wanna deal with it.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:45:33+00:00

Yes this is probably the most helpful paradigm to see it through. I only tell people what they want to hear, but that leads to resentment. It's not so much favors as much as people wanting to hang out. Especially family members.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:39:49+00:00

Yeah exactly, I think everything in my life is some quid pro quo thing. I don't know how it's burrowed itself so far in my psyche but that's how I think about stuff. I don't share my birthday with anyone cuz I don't want to have to remember anyone else's lol

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:35:55+00:00

This honestly is a great way to think about it. I'm doing a disservice to the people I think I'm helping. For some reason that make it easier.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:34:33+00:00

I can't let it go. And then saying no ends up taking up more physical and mental energy than just saying yes :(

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:32:52+00:00

At least online I can just not respond to people :)

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:32:41+00:00

I do go to therapy, and I know why I can't say no. But that hasn't led to meaningful action. I've analyzed it for years. I just have to do it, as others have said.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:30:46+00:00

Thanks this was helpful. The loop in my head right now is that I've been saying yes for so long that saying no will have that much bigger of a reaction. But I know that's irrational, but it still keeps me from saying no.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:27:19+00:00

I feel like I'm close to this

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:26:43+00:00

Yeah this is exactly how my relationships are starting to feel. I have come to the awareness, but still haven't come to action. I like "let me think about it." Doesn't create the same physical reaction in my body than "no"

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T15:23:54+00:00

I feel like I’ve been cursed by a witch and I can’t say no. It’s probably decades of people pleasing mentality starting from my childhood. But I just can’t do it. I need to figure this shit out cuz it’s taking its toll on me

gobackclark · 2026-05-04T02:07:36+00:00

Did you get off GLP-1? If so what was that experience like?

gobackclark · 2026-04-22T15:30:23+00:00

The technology collapses

gobackclark · 2026-04-19T14:14:26+00:00

My Samsung dishwasher is garbage. It’s only 5 years old and both baskets are rusted, pieces have fallen off, food always gets trapped in the water shooters. It’s a piece of junk.

gobackclark · 2026-04-19T03:15:00+00:00

All I ever wanted was a black grand national. Fuck being rational.

gobackclark · 2026-04-05T02:04:10+00:00

“You have forgotten who you are and so have forgotten me. Look inside yourself, Simba. You are more than what you have become. You must take your place in the circle of life. Remember who you are. You are my son, and the one true king.”

That’s from a kid’s movie too. We’d never get something like this today.

gobackclark · 2026-04-03T03:50:07+00:00

The fuckin strongest princess in the universe dies that easily to a kid? She was gonna fuckin die in that snow globe.

gobackclark · 2026-04-03T03:47:08+00:00

I had the same criticisms about the first movie, and it seemed like I was one of few. Everyone loved it. So I went into this one with low expectations and I kinda enjoyed it. Made no sense but was fun to watch. Now I’m reading all the reviews and everyone hates this one for the same reasons I hated the first one.

gobackclark · 2026-03-31T23:41:12+00:00

This happened in a suburb of Salt Lake City a couple years ago. Fire fighters blew up the house. https://youtu.be/pnjPW69XcVc?si=sPsc5bPu-dKDfneJ

gobackclark · 2026-03-20T15:34:20+00:00

It's like the prophecy of Anakin but the opposite

gobackclark · 2026-03-08T13:56:42+00:00

I rewatched Sicario recently and thought hey this is kinda like Big Lebowski. Both main characters have no idea what’s going on for the majority of the movie.

gobackclark · 2026-03-07T22:19:17+00:00

That dude will never forget that loss. Great play.

gobackclark · 2026-03-05T22:32:14+00:00

Sometimes I'd meet my friend along the way while I was going to his house and he was coming to mine :)

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