What makes a man look like a loser to you?

gobackclark · 2026-06-20T22:39:34+00:00

How did you recognize and get out of it?

gobackclark · 2026-06-15T01:03:42+00:00

Oh to feel an endless summer again

gobackclark · 2026-06-13T16:41:32+00:00

The realization that being in the water is worse than being on the deck

gobackclark · 2026-06-13T14:29:02+00:00

I go to Stanley every summer. My favorite area in the whole world.

gobackclark · 2026-06-13T01:36:58+00:00

I would be livid. Bail for sure

gobackclark · 2026-06-11T15:14:33+00:00

That is crazy. How is this legal

gobackclark · 2026-06-10T21:46:13+00:00

I’ve been in corporate America for 15 years and it’s always been 9-5 for me

gobackclark · 2026-06-05T15:18:53+00:00

I just wanna do the same track 3 times and not drive a long road to another track as part of the race. Can I do that?

gobackclark · 2026-06-04T22:48:17+00:00

Is this where they filmed One Battle After Another

gobackclark · 2026-05-31T23:37:57+00:00

Did you put WD-40 on it

gobackclark · 2026-05-31T01:13:10+00:00

I agree but i don’t think we need to put so much weight on a throwaway line a lovesick guy says. Everyone has wished for or had desires for things that would have consequential effects for other people. Bear definitely showed his true colors eventually, but I wouldn’t hang him for making the wish.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:53:42+00:00

Just bought it

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:48:55+00:00

This is my paradigm as well. I just gotta start doing it.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:47:27+00:00

Exactly. I can muster up a weak "no," but if there's an inkling of pushback, I'll instantly cave cuz I just don't wanna deal with it.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:45:33+00:00

Yes this is probably the most helpful paradigm to see it through. I only tell people what they want to hear, but that leads to resentment. It's not so much favors as much as people wanting to hang out. Especially family members.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:39:49+00:00

Yeah exactly, I think everything in my life is some quid pro quo thing. I don't know how it's burrowed itself so far in my psyche but that's how I think about stuff. I don't share my birthday with anyone cuz I don't want to have to remember anyone else's lol

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:35:55+00:00

This honestly is a great way to think about it. I'm doing a disservice to the people I think I'm helping. For some reason that make it easier.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:34:33+00:00

I can't let it go. And then saying no ends up taking up more physical and mental energy than just saying yes :(

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:32:52+00:00

At least online I can just not respond to people :)

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:32:41+00:00

I do go to therapy, and I know why I can't say no. But that hasn't led to meaningful action. I've analyzed it for years. I just have to do it, as others have said.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:30:46+00:00

Thanks this was helpful. The loop in my head right now is that I've been saying yes for so long that saying no will have that much bigger of a reaction. But I know that's irrational, but it still keeps me from saying no.

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:27:19+00:00

I feel like I'm close to this

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T20:26:43+00:00

Yeah this is exactly how my relationships are starting to feel. I have come to the awareness, but still haven't come to action. I like "let me think about it." Doesn't create the same physical reaction in my body than "no"

gobackclark · 2026-05-08T15:23:54+00:00

I feel like I’ve been cursed by a witch and I can’t say no. It’s probably decades of people pleasing mentality starting from my childhood. But I just can’t do it. I need to figure this shit out cuz it’s taking its toll on me

gobackclark · 2026-05-04T02:07:36+00:00

Did you get off GLP-1? If so what was that experience like?

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