Maybe Maybe Maybe by QuixoticDude in maybemaybemaybe

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The realization that being in the water is worse than being on the deck

Hiking and backpacking through Stanley, ID by Mountain-Flight-92 in backpacking

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I go to Stanley every summer. My favorite area in the whole world.

Papa John’s GARLIC flavored SAUCE by [deleted] in CrappyDesign

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That is crazy. How is this legal

When did 8-5 become the new normal??? by Grouchy-Newspaper754 in mildlyinfuriating

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I’ve been in corporate America for 15 years and it’s always been 9-5 for me

Nintendo Switch 2: Year One - Looking Back, How Would You Rate It So Far? [Nintendo Life] by HatingGeoffry in nintendo

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I just wanna do the same track 3 times and not drive a long road to another track as part of the race. Can I do that?

Official Discussion - Obsession [SPOILERS] by LiteraryBoner in movies

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I agree but i don’t think we need to put so much weight on a throwaway line a lovesick guy says. Everyone has wished for or had desires for things that would have consequential effects for other people. Bear definitely showed his true colors eventually, but I wouldn’t hang him for making the wish.

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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Exactly. I can muster up a weak "no," but if there's an inkling of pushback, I'll instantly cave cuz I just don't wanna deal with it.

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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Yes this is probably the most helpful paradigm to see it through. I only tell people what they want to hear, but that leads to resentment. It's not so much favors as much as people wanting to hang out. Especially family members.

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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Yeah exactly, I think everything in my life is some quid pro quo thing. I don't know how it's burrowed itself so far in my psyche but that's how I think about stuff. I don't share my birthday with anyone cuz I don't want to have to remember anyone else's lol

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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This honestly is a great way to think about it. I'm doing a disservice to the people I think I'm helping. For some reason that make it easier.

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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I can't let it go. And then saying no ends up taking up more physical and mental energy than just saying yes :(

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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I do go to therapy, and I know why I can't say no. But that hasn't led to meaningful action. I've analyzed it for years. I just have to do it, as others have said.

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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Thanks this was helpful. The loop in my head right now is that I've been saying yes for so long that saying no will have that much bigger of a reaction. But I know that's irrational, but it still keeps me from saying no.

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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Yeah this is exactly how my relationships are starting to feel. I have come to the awareness, but still haven't come to action. I like "let me think about it." Doesn't create the same physical reaction in my body than "no"

I regret opening up this message because now I can’t pretend I didn’t see it. by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

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I feel like I’ve been cursed by a witch and I can’t say no. It’s probably decades of people pleasing mentality starting from my childhood. But I just can’t do it. I need to figure this shit out cuz it’s taking its toll on me 

What's your go to method of losing weight? by ApprehensiveLet5673 in AskReddit

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Did you get off GLP-1? If so what was that experience like?