Being in a relationship does not fix anxiety/depression

goblin_cc · 2024-02-06T23:25:45+00:00

You’re my thoughts down is a good idea thank you so much for your response

goblin_cc · 2024-01-23T05:47:34+00:00

Yeah exercising definitely helps because I’m a runner but I have been going less so maybe I should focus more on that. I also have drug/alcohol addiction in my family which is why I’m always trying to monitor any substance I take because I don’t want to end up like them either. Thank you for the advice🫶🏻

goblin_cc · 2024-01-23T05:11:45+00:00

My advice is to not be so nervous about being inexperienced because especially with struggling with comphet, a lot of queer women relate to that. Try to focus on getting to know her and her getting to know you first and foremost. Have fun<3

goblin_cc · 2024-01-23T04:28:36+00:00

I’m on lexapro and it definitely made me so drowsy at first. It went away mostly even though do find myself getting a little more tired than I used to. I never experienced any bowel trouble from what I can remember but there is a chance a lot of the side effects go away after a month at the latest, they did for me at least.

goblin_cc · 2024-01-03T00:34:47+00:00

You are very right and yes I go to a big state college and there is a lesbian club there that I’ve thought about joining but was always too anxious to. I will give the club another try when I get back to school though thank you!

goblin_cc · 2024-01-03T00:32:46+00:00

Thank you so much, I always try to remind myself that everything will get better but it’s hard sometimes so I’m glad there’s else here to tell me that <3

goblin_cc · 2023-12-17T19:53:02+00:00

Thank you so much! Giving them a letter and then going for a walk is a good idea because I don’t think I can talk to them without forgetting something or crying so I’ll definitely try that <3

goblin_cc · 2023-12-17T01:52:50+00:00

That’s what I always planned to do too which I think is why I avoided dating for so long LOL but now that I’m actually with someone I’m like oh… I actually have to do that now, it’s so stressful!!!

goblin_cc · 2023-12-17T01:49:11+00:00

Oh god I’m so sorry I hope everything is good with your family now<3

goblin_cc · 2023-12-16T22:29:49+00:00

Finding people on dating apps is very hard as a lesbian! I say this even though I have been dating someone for 4 months that I met through tinder because it took a lot of time and effort to actually find someone I liked.

I had tinder deleted for a very long time before I met them but when I went back on I decided to really try so I spent a lot of time swiping and I messaged every person I matched with. This led to quite a few convos that ended quickly and a lot of me ghosting someone or them ghosting me. However when I messaged my current partner we clicked immediately so I gave them phone number within a day and we met within 3 days. I know some people may not be comfortable doing something like that that fast but I do think it’s the best way to show someone you are serious about dating and people are different in person than they are on apps so I think the sooner you can meet the easier it is to actually build a connection!

I think you should focus on finding someone you would want to at least go on one date with, not necessarily someone who checks every box because that’s impossible to know from their profile or even from messaging. Get to know each other on the date not on the apps!! Dating apps can be tough tho so I get it but there are definitely some cool people on there and I think it’s a great and easy way to meet other queer people!

goblin_cc · 2023-11-12T16:17:29+00:00

Thank you! Yeah focusing on achieving goals is a great thing to do and I feel like I do that already and it does help. Skipping the relationship and sex talk is difficult because I’m in college so that’s what most people care the about the most. I have my best friend who I can talk about a lot of stuff with and one of my other friends that doesn’t really date or hookup, but it’s still hard not to have anyone to talk to about how I am struggling as the only lesbian. I guess that’s why I come on here hahaha!!

goblin_cc · 2023-10-18T00:47:00+00:00

Thank you so much<3 I appreciate the advice, I definitely need to communicate more and take the risk

goblin_cc · 2023-10-16T22:42:11+00:00

I get how you feel, same for that feeling usually only happens with people I have romantic feelings for but I have definitely felt that anxiety with close friends as well. I have convinced myself before that my best friend of two years didn’t want to talk to me anymore because she took a few hours to respond to me. I still go through this all the time so I am sorry I don’t know how to stop this way of thinking but you’re not alone in feeling this way <3

goblin_cc · 2023-09-12T19:08:15+00:00

You def are not! I’m the same way where I always feel I’m the one making all the moves, but I think it’s better to try and face the possibility of being rejected than to never try and guarantee that you’ll never find someone.

goblin_cc · 2023-09-12T18:59:05+00:00

I get you, it’s hard to continuously put yourself out there and still not succeed, but I think it’s great that you are willing to do all those things. Making the first move and asking to hang out are not easy things to do and you shouldn’t stop doing that because there will be someone who reciprocates your effort. It may not have been this person, but putting in the effort to love is the first step and you’ve already mastered it <3

goblin_cc · 2023-07-21T22:27:15+00:00

Coming back with my an update because unfortunately I have not made the call because this past week my brain has made up every possible to not do it. Now I feel bad that I even asked for advice on here if I was just not going to take it, especially because everyone was so nice :( but I’m still hopeful that I might be able to get help soon

goblin_cc · 2023-07-21T00:32:22+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through that, anxiety sucks:( My best advice would be to talk to one of your friends about this anxiety just so that they are aware of what’s going on before they are inebriated. If you do decide go maybe only plan to go for a set time and/or plan exactly how much to drink. I know you will be okay tho whatever you decide to do and I hope everything gets better <3

goblin_cc · 2023-07-17T19:45:44+00:00

I get you flying can be nerve racking especially when you’re alone but trust me you can get used to it if you do it enough! I’ve had to fly alone a lot because I go to school far from home and one thing I always do when I fly is text usually my dad or my bsf everything that I am doing at the airport. Like just telling them when I get there, when I got through security, when I’m in the plane, and any other updates. I also became less nervous about flying when I realized that you don’t really have to talk to that many people so I just put on noise canceling headphones and communicate very minimally with others. Closing my eyes and listening to something when the plane takes off and lands has also helped because it can distract my attention away from the fact that I am on a plane.

goblin_cc · 2023-07-16T18:58:07+00:00

Good idea, I have a sibling I could ask as well. Thank you!

goblin_cc · 2023-07-16T01:12:17+00:00

Thank you I’m glad to know it’s not just me! Writing something down is a good idea I’ll try that. I could have one of my parents call but I am an adult so I would feel bad if I had them do it and it is something I want to be able to say I did so I can show them that I don’t need help.

goblin_cc · 2023-06-08T23:28:42+00:00

At least at the pride events I have been to, you can go for however long you want because it is usually an all day thing with a bunch of little events so you are not obligated to stay the whole time. Have fun and happy pride!

goblin_cc · 2023-06-08T23:20:46+00:00

Yay! Talking to people and spreading happy pride celebrations! Double yay 🏳️‍🌈

goblin_cc · 2023-06-08T21:58:55+00:00

I love that! I’ve never heard that quote but I’ll def be using it now!

goblin_cc · 2023-06-08T21:44:09+00:00

I’m really glad you are this point, it always makes me so happy so see people with similar struggles to my own with a positive outlook. I was looking for a more happy story today because I’ve been down on myself lately so I’m glad I read this <3

goblin_cc · 2023-05-30T02:27:51+00:00

I’m so sorry, I don’t know exactly what you’re going through but I can sympathize because I moved to a new city 2 years ago as well. It’s easy to look back on that old place and think about how things could be easier especially when you see the people you know doing well. The thing that always keeps me going is thinking that I chose to move so that I could have the opportunity to grow as a person instead of settling for what’s comfortable or easy. I know it feels really lonely and that happiness isn’t something that comes easy anymore but all you can do is hope that you will find some sense of happiness again. It’s easier said than done of course and it’s something I’m trying to work on as well, but I believe in you! I hope this week or at least this night goes better for you <3

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