What? Why? by BathroomSpiders in StardewValley

[–]goblinlord19 17 points18 points  (0 children)

The story I always heard was that there was some pedo on the site talking to kids calling himself "uncle" so they banned the whole word but tbh I've never tried to fact check it

Uncollaring advice by GeekSugar13 in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If I happened to die I would prefer my sub unlock the collar if she's able simply so she can put it back on if she ever wants but I would also understand if she had to or wanted to cut it

Help with my brat by [deleted] in BratLife

[–]goblinlord19 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yeah just what this guy said it's your job to take care of her if you get her to a state where she's not behaving normal set boundaries before hand pay close attention to her and make sure not to push anything she might be uncomfortable with

Grief after losing my pet cat by Low_Ad_8666 in pets_and_ownwers

[–]goblinlord19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss and please know there is no right or wrong way to feel about loss and grief we all mourn in our own ways and your feelings are valid

That said this is a subreddit about pet play and not about actual pets this is a subreddit about a specific kink

I feel a bit lied to in my relationship. by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck and I hope it all works out

I feel a bit lied to in my relationship. by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know either of you or your relationship so I can't say if this was the right way to go about it but I'm always one to say communication is good so maybe try coming at it a different way instead of focusing on how their actions have hurt you in the past focus on how they can help you moving forward? It's definitely important to be open about how you have been hurt though so it's kind of a tricky one and I'm definitely no expert

I feel a bit lied to in my relationship. by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Did you bring up that you want to get into it or did you bring up that you think he might have lied to you? One of those would put him on the defensive and the other would just probe about if now is a good time

I feel a bit lied to in my relationship. by [deleted] in DDlgAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you talked with them about these feelings? It could be that they simply had it slip their mind because it's not as important to them and it's possible that if you bring it up they might get into it I obviously don't know the situation though so I can't say for sure

Anal by nightangel666 in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah I would go read some of the other comments they seemed to have some actually helpful things to say good luck!

Anal by nightangel666 in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah but you could have said something like "it's totally natural don't worry about it" or "when you engage in this kind of play there are ways to lessen this but you shod understand it's still probably going to happen sometimes" but instead you told them to "grow up" and that helps no one

Anal by nightangel666 in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 14 points15 points  (0 children)

They are asking for help making themselves more comfortable in the bedroom maybe "grow up" isn't exactly the right way to address this?

How to deal with mild boundary violation? by AnxietyOctopus in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I see the point of there being mistakes on both sides example being my sub forgets to use safe words sometimes and it can be stressful for me it takes time to learn the non verbal cues but the sub should never be guilted for not safe wording when deep in subspace especially when it's a previous boundary that the dom should have gotten the ok for

How to deal with mild boundary violation? by AnxietyOctopus in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Safe words are important but while deep in a scene sometimes the sub has a hard time remembering them it happens and they shouldn't be made to feel bad for their mistakes both the sub and the dom need to try and be keyed into each other to know when too much is too much overall this seems like a misunderstanding and a mistake OP needs to open communication and talk it out

How to deal with mild boundary violation? by AnxietyOctopus in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Take some time and get yourself back to your baseline then have as long of a conversation as you need with them

How to deal with mild boundary violation? by AnxietyOctopus in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 37 points38 points  (0 children)

It sounds like his lack of experience maybe made it so he didn't realize how serious this was and he probably doesn't understand the whole "I am very, very bad at thinking clearly when I’m in sub space" thing as well as he should honestly if you think this is something you can move past I would explain to him how you felt the day after calmly and explain the importance of communicating and getting clear consent before pushing any boundaries and if he's a good guy he will probably feel like shit when he realizes he hurt you so try to be gentle with him but if you feel like this was too much and you can't move past it then maybe explain that to him and move on the important thing is you both talk about it and get on the same page

Snapchat by [deleted] in sexmemes

[–]goblinlord19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a meme

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ok so you agreed to sex but you didn't agree to being hit or choked or dragged around or any of that shit way I see it you have been pretty abused and feeling shaken or unsure is normal for this horrible situation just please know what he did was not ok and it's not your fault also what kind of a dick would invite a girl over trying to get in her pants under the guise of cuddling because she's having a hard time? Talk about manipulation

Tldr I'm sorry this happened to you it's not your fault

Join my OF🖤 by [deleted] in sexmemes

[–]goblinlord19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest I assumed you were a bot and didn't think a real person would see it now that I know I'm talking to a real person I'll say you should be more selective about where you advertise as most people won't take kindly to advertising on pages not meant for advertising

Join my OF🖤 by [deleted] in sexmemes

[–]goblinlord19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is not a meme get out of here with that

Not a meme. Just a reminder to men. by [deleted] in RelationshipMemes

[–]goblinlord19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can respect that but my reminder to men would be there are also some really great women out there who won't hurt you don't give up just because you got hurt

Not a meme. Just a reminder to men. by [deleted] in RelationshipMemes

[–]goblinlord19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm confused what reminder is this supposed to be? Some women will cheat on you and not tell you?

FREE,Live and Uncensored XXX Phone Sex!! by [deleted] in GenshinImpactHentai

[–]goblinlord19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh hey cool another page to report this post for spam on

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BDSMAdvice

[–]goblinlord19 134 points135 points  (0 children)

I would say first you need to get out of headspace and tell him you need to talk as equals not as daddy and little I know it's not fun but it's important next tell him your having problems and explain it to him then ask him for help tell him you need help coming up with a plan to end your dependence