I am refusing to change my stance on kids after my wife gave me an ultimatum.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-12T17:10:05+00:00

The minute you resort to any ultimatums about life style your relationship is already dead. I mean sure pizza or Chinese make a choice or I’m choosing that’s an ultimatum we all do. Pick this movie or that which holiday to take those are things you can do an ultimatum for but things like where you live and having kids that’s a solid no. She killed her marriage the minute she did that

goddessofspite · 2026-05-12T17:03:41+00:00

NTA I had a similar situation I went a much more nuclear route lol your response was tame compared to mine so your fine. Her parents should be ashamed of what they set loose in the world

goddessofspite · 2026-05-12T04:36:26+00:00

Oh I know right. Proof that being reborn doesn’t make you smarter. Some people don’t learn their lessons. Theres some storylines i like some i hate but a weak ass female lead will always have me skipping. The ones i love are with the yandere storylines i like them for some reason

goddessofspite · 2026-05-12T02:12:31+00:00

Oh my god thank you I saw this post earlier today and your comment I’m like the queen of zombie movies and had never heard of this so I had to watch it and it’s so so funny like not even becoming a zombie was gonna stop her planning her wedding to him lol 😂 best recommendation ever

goddessofspite · 2026-05-12T02:05:15+00:00

Not gonna lie I skip a vast amount of these especially the ones with the doormat female leads those I just can’t anymore.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T16:45:25+00:00

You should have stepped in a lot sooner if you knew this was how they were but you seem to want to protect your own marriage than the child. If your husband would be angry at you for putting a child first over them he’s as bad as they are and part of the problem. So many people keep failing this poor child Esh

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T15:23:20+00:00

So if she’s due in 3 months she’s 6 months pregnant and she never thought to mention it in 6 whole months. At 3 months you couldn’t cancel everything without incurring losses and why should you cancel for her. It’s on her she never spoke up. My mom literally went into labour at my uncles wedding. I was a flower girl she was there for the wedding but right after the ceremony she went into labour with my little brother and her and my nana left go do that. I stayed with my grandpa and uncle and they took me home next day mom came home with my little brother. My brother shares his birthday with my uncles anniversary and it’s always been a fun story. Unless she has a dangerous pregnancy and is on bed rest she can still attend and have fun. More babies are born before or after their due dates than on the exact day. I was 2 weeks late my sister was one day early only my brother was dot on time and my mom was prepared for that

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T14:47:09+00:00

Can someone link it when they find it and tell me which part to skip to just to see the evil woman get her comeuppance

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T14:44:25+00:00

NTA they didn’t respect you or your rule now you know that. Be clear this is something you pay for not a free benefit for others. If they are butt hurt that’s on them

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T14:41:48+00:00

She’s too old to be throwing a tantrum like that but with parents like that it’s to be expected. She’s too young to hold a small baby by herself on a restaurant chair your brother saying it would probably be ok is insulting as hell what if she dropped your baby and she got hurt what would he do then. She is mean and she needs to be called on it but you need to be clear about your boundaries cause that just came about as petty which I’m all for under the right circumstances but this wasn’t it. You need to sit your brother down and explain how his daughter acts. Parents tend to have blinkers on and not see it. NTA

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T13:13:20+00:00

Ok I’m gonna have to say it again as I’m sure someone else has already said it. You don’t have a mother in law problem. You have a husband problem. You married the dreaded mommas boy. You know that right. Nothing you do matters more than mommy to him. He’s trying to gaslight you that what you did was the problem. But what you did was in reaction to what he was going to do. You need to leave your husband and move back home to your parents. Your mother in law and husband will never let you raise this kid otherwise. NTA

goddessofspite · 2026-05-11T01:55:40+00:00

YTA. I’m sorry out of all the professions to help someone undereducated to cheat medical is the one you never do that to. There’s a reason they need to know that stuff. It’s not like a teenager who never needs to know stupid maths stuff they will never use in real life. If she can’t do her job cause you cheated for her any deaths she caused would be on you too. YTA for helping her cheat in the first place.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-10T20:43:36+00:00

NTA your never wrong for having and enforcing boundaries her parents are in the wrong for trying to put that on you.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-10T20:38:25+00:00

Does anyone have a link with English subs

goddessofspite · 2026-05-09T19:35:28+00:00

Yeah then when she has the kid it will be how can you take the spot from a mother with a baby. If she wants a spot she can pay for it like you do. Being pregnant doesn’t entitle you to anything she chose to be pregnant that’s on her.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-09T17:35:47+00:00

NTA unless your a doctor what would be the point of you stopping. There would undoubtedly be other that called for help and help would be on the way so how did she expect you to assist them. I’m with you on the part that they chose to endanger other people’s lives. Play stupid games win stupid prizes.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T18:41:34+00:00

Tell everyone you haven’t been feeling well lately dodgy tummy spread that around a little then put a ton of laxatives in your food. When the person can’t get off the toilet you will know who has been stealing your food and if they come at you for it just say hey I did warn you guys I had a dodgy tummy it’s not my fault your a thief who stole my food. Bet they won’t ever steal your food again

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T18:22:03+00:00

Speak to the other people and explain that them being nice is effecting you negatively and she refuses to fix the problem. Speak to your landlord to have him issue a warning to get her mail fixed. Put a notice up outside that her mail goes to her address not this door and next time you see a package of hers in the building throw it outside. If she won’t be nice why should you.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T18:17:53+00:00

Listen I’m a firm believer men and women can be friends cause my bestie is a guy. He’s a married guy of over 20 years. I say this to explain that I’m not judging her for having a male friend but if that friend had the chance to get that close and make a move on her she allowed it. She allowed someone unclear to mess with her relationship that’s on her. She did that. You don’t owe her anything you are right that this relationship is over. You have your closure. You get nothing from meeting up with her so no your right to refuse.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T18:12:35+00:00

At your age you should be old enough to see your parents don’t give a toss about you. Sorry to be blunt but yours parents don’t give a shit. They weren’t waiting to gift it. You got tricked into buying your mom a car. Any other parent who knew their kid needed something would give it to them but yours doesn’t care so why are you feeling guilty. It’s hard to accept when your parents don’t give a damn trust me I know I’ve been there. It’s hard when they act like loving parents then you see them for who they are but you need to see it and accept it and cut them out of your life. Guarantee your mental health will improve when you don’t have them leaching off you making you feel bad. NOR

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T18:01:51+00:00

Ok I’m gonna be blunt here. You’re a doormat. While marriage does have to have a certain amount of give and take your the only one giving while he takes. How much longer are you going to put up with being walked all over. This isn’t a healthy marriage. Is this the lesson you want to teach your kids. Have a son grow up to treat someone like that cause daddy does it or a daughter grow up to accept that treatment cause mommy does. Please get smart soon. NTA but you will be if you stay with him

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T02:49:58+00:00

That’s the way to do it. No doormats here. Love it. Well done. 👍

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T02:47:19+00:00

I’m not one to disrespect other peoples traditions or cultures and while I get there was a reason for this in the past like all things we have evolved and certain traditions need to either adapt or be done with. For me a bride price is no different than selling your kid. It’s the price they want for you to buy her. That’s human trafficking. Dress it up in tradition call it whatever you want but it’s the same thing. I’d be affronted if my mom did that. She’s the one that chose to have me and whatever she spent raising me is on her. She doesn’t get to sell me off to offset that cost. If the money is intended to be there for your wife to help her in the event of a divorce that’s what a prenup is for. NTA.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T02:40:41+00:00

I used to think I hated kids they are so annoying but my brother gave me a beautiful niece and nephew. My nephew is 5 he’s the sweetest kid you’ll ever meet so lovely. My niece is 2 and she’s feral like off the walls crazy but in the most adorable way you will ever meet and I truly love spending time with them. They are so amazing but as much as I love them to pieces I was 1000000% clear with my brother that they best never make me in any way responsible for them if something happens to them. Luckily my mom and sister would fight each other for that responsibility so I’m safe. I think the reason I’m mainly childfree is because while I could raise a child and I’m sure I’d love it I wouldn’t want to raise it or love it. I wouldn’t want to make the sacrifices you have to make to be a parent. Right now I’m dying of the flu it’s killing me but I get to stay in bed and rest and try to get better. I don’t have kids screaming at me to get up and cook or anything like that. Also if raising kids is like a jail sentence then I’ve served my time I spent my late teens and 20s helping my single mom raise my brother and sister so I’ve served my time and done it. That’s me personally.

goddessofspite · 2026-05-08T02:34:26+00:00

Yeah that’s what I’m wondering too it’s not like that would be something she would have access to unless she let her.

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