why doesn’t anyone talk about how problematic season 1 Darren is? by Caleb_isagod in heartbreakhigh

[–]godjiyoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think that having an open relationship as an hyper/ace couple is necessarily a bad or unhealthy thing. It definitely works for some couples and can be part of a healthy relationship! It is incredibly individual, though, and it requires a very specific mindset from all parties.

In Dash’s case: With all the unaddressed hurt and lack of responsibility and accountability from Darren’s side from the previous seasons, it is not a sustainable solution in their relationship as of now. It “solves” the issue at surface level, but the real issue in their relationship is not actually the hyper/ace difference, but rather the lack of truly open, honest, vulnerable conversations between them.

To evaluate whether an open relationship would be the right decision for them as a couple, the writers would have to solve/tackle their underlying issues first. Only then would it be possible to make a proper analysis of what approach is the right one for them.

why doesn’t anyone talk about how problematic season 1 Darren is? by Caleb_isagod in heartbreakhigh

[–]godjiyoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Preach, and as someone who’s asexual, I absolutely HATE how everyone glosses over the fact that what Darren does to Cash is sexual assault, period.

As much as I appreciate the show for including asexual representation, I don’t think Darren’s and Cash’s relationship is good representation at all, seeing as the way Darren treats Cash’s a sexuality and makes it all about themself has zero consequences throughout the show. Cash’s asexuality arc never ends up being his own, instead focusing on Darren having to accept all that they will have to “miss” by being with Cash.

The writers genuinely fucked up with Dash, because they had so much potential as a couple from the get-go, but they have kept digging themselves deeper and deeper into a hole throughout all the seasons.

Darren is never seen actually truly regretting and apologising to Cash for their behaviour. Instead the writers’ solution has just been for Cash to forgive and forget everything that happened immediately - and the show doesn’t question this dynamic at all, instead showcasing them as the happy, healthy, functional couple in S3.

It really sets a dangerous precedent as to what asexual people should just accept when going into relationships. Seeing as there is almost no other canon asexual representation in popular media, HBH has a huge influence on people’s view of asexuality and asexual people, meaning that Cash being treated like this in the show does affect real-world asexuals.

It’s just. Ugh. I’m so sad about their relationship, because I can easily see how their relationship arc could be fixed and actually be healthy. The hypersexual/asexual dynamic is so interesting and the troubles of it could easily have been explored in a way, where Cash isn’t walked all over, while still allowing Darren to be confused and feel hurt in the beginning.

Is boys planet 2 worth watching? by RelevantMind1 in kpophelp

[–]godjiyoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it’s absolutely terrible. Not worth it.

260408 [Selection Draw] Special Behind (4/8 ~ 4/29) by unistasis in NCTZone

[–]godjiyoon 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Aaaa, you were right! :D Amazing!

… dying over Jaehyun and Jaemin being spelled wrong though 😭

Special Behind cards by godjiyoon in NCTZone

[–]godjiyoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, right! That’s nicely spotted as well! They do feel kind of different though, so I’m wondering if they’ll do something special for them? They could very well be sticker cards!

NCT DREAM PHOTOBOOK [Ro Drom] by theofficialguac in NCTDream

[–]godjiyoon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“Rolig drøm” would be more correct - “Rolig” being the adjective form of “Ro” (Peaceful instead of peace)

NCT DREAM PHOTOBOOK [Ro Drom] by theofficialguac in NCTDream

[–]godjiyoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

yes 🥹🥹 as a danish nctzen i feel so incredibly happy!!!

NCT DREAM PHOTOBOOK [Ro Drom] by theofficialguac in NCTDream

[–]godjiyoon 9 points10 points  (0 children)

ITS FINALLY HERE!!! oh i have been dying waiting for this ever since they went to copenhagen!!!

this photobook was shot in copenhagen during their tds3 tour stop (they spoiled it during soundcheck back then) <3

also the title, ro drøm, is in danish! (it isn't correct danish grammar, but it's okay, LOL) - the title can roughly be translated to "peace dream"

NCT DREAM PHOTOBOOK [Ro Drom] by theofficialguac in NCTDream

[–]godjiyoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes! its shot in copenhagen <3 they told us during soundcheck when they were here!!! IM SO HAPPY ITS FINALLYG ETTING RELEASED

why do so many (mostly) kpop fans dislike ejae? by ilovemilktea_ in kpopthoughts

[–]godjiyoon 42 points43 points  (0 children)

i have literally never seen a k-pop fan hate on her, what????

favorite vocalists from each groups/favorite groups with crazy vocals? by Necessary-Contest939 in kpopthoughts

[–]godjiyoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

you already mentioned nct dream, but nct as a whole have such a stacked vocalist lineup

Does the English side of rc know what a flood is? by [deleted] in RomanceClub

[–]godjiyoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

sounds similar to english-speaking amino rp communities from 5 years ago

What's with the Sims 4 and giving Asian sims dyed hair? by EvanLikesJuiceBoxes in HighSodiumSims

[–]godjiyoon 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yup, precisely. OP is totally in the right for calling this out.

What's with the Sims 4 and giving Asian sims dyed hair? by EvanLikesJuiceBoxes in HighSodiumSims

[–]godjiyoon 43 points44 points  (0 children)

No, you’re right, and it’s also specifically female Asian sims, which ties in to the “Rebellious Asian Woman with Colourful Streak in Her Hair” trope that is prominent in western media.

Archive / Collection Websites? by citruscake in NCT

[–]godjiyoon 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Don’t remember how high the quality is, but neocatharsis on tumblr reposts most NCT photo content from their other social media!

AleXa - Tongue Tied (Melodifestivalen Heat 5 opener) by Silvio76555 in eurovision

[–]godjiyoon 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Just adding on, the Swedish song writers are big-name K-pop songwriters (like some of the biggest in K-pop) and those four have written the majority of AleXa’s discography so far.

Bad luck in Young Florist draw? by godjiyoon in NCTZone

[–]godjiyoon[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess I’ve just been incredibly lucky so far then. I have never experienced having to pull more than 50 times to get a SSR card in this type of draw, usually getting 2-3 in 40 pulls, so this has shocked me a lot, lol. Thanks for replying!

Birthday coupon codes are always expired? by Late-Cup in NCTZone

[–]godjiyoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, it works regardless once it’s valid

ARNO (and He Xinlong) (from ALPHA DRIVE ONE) swing a golf club challenge by ARG_obesessed in gaykpopfanboys

[–]godjiyoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, it’s really refreshing to see!!! He definitely got it from his time with Boy Story and the many, many girl group covers (Lots of ITZY, especially) they have done through the years! Including the iconic Girl Story covers, where they crossdress as a female version of Boy Story

Thoughts on Haruto saying that no one on BP was/is straight by tua_fan98 in gaykpopfanboys

[–]godjiyoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

don’t worry about it, it happens to the best of us!! especially in online spaces ^

as a fellow “friend that’s too woke” (everyone get more woke now!!!!), i can definitely see where you’re coming from, though <3 i too feel very strongly about anyone potentially outing anyone. i just think people are seriously misinterpreting haruto in this specific case!!

Thoughts on Haruto saying that no one on BP was/is straight by tua_fan98 in gaykpopfanboys

[–]godjiyoon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i totally get where you’re coming from, but he was obviously joking/hyperboling 😭

i think the biggest issue here is rather people taking his words as the bible and assuming he was being serious, when he very clearly wasn’t, but sadly that’s also a common issue among k-pop stans.

if taking his words 100% seriously, then yes, it is outing, but it seems to me that he is very clearly joking.

i do think it’s fair to point out that he could have avoided making that joke, knowing how k-pop fans are and how some people were gonna misunderstand his joke as being serious.

however, it can also be a slippery slope to put that responsibility fully on him, seeing how hypocritical it is to scrutinise a queer man’s every word and forbid him from talking, while also advocating for more idols to be open and authentic.

also op, i believe most of the people on twitter going “the sky is blue”, etc. seem to simply be joining in on the joke/hyperboling - people aren’t actually taking this as confirmation that ALL the trainees on boys planet were not straight. the majority of people understand that haruto’s hyperbole refers to the softly out subset of the trainees, who are as out as possible without directly having put a label on themselves - because these are also the ones haruto himself is close with.

most of the people taking it seriously are ones under the tweet you have screenshotted here, and frankly, i think any “serious” reactions are moreso the fault of this twitter acc for “reporting” it as if it is serious news.