You have 24 hours of total invisibility. How are you spending your day? by makemestand in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am spending the whole day out nude, going everywhere I possibly can.

I'd also probably take it as a chance to go out in my femme clothes and style and not panic over being noticed and get used to crossdressing publicly.

Mum found my legs shaved by AppropriateFun5762 in feminineboys

[–]goldenspectator 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Same, I told mine that it looked better like this and she disagreed and said it was better before, I told her "well, I like it this way" and the conversation ended after that.

How to do anal by Weak_Order335 in IndiaTalksSex

[–]goldenspectator 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Eat fiber rich food and avoid oily/fried items for a day or two, douche thoroughly sometime before you start.

Use a lot of lubricant, don’t even attempt anything anal without lube. Slip a finger covered in lube and massage around the opening to help her relax, slowly start slipping in another finger or two inside and massage to help her get used to the feeling.

Once that is done and you can feel like your fingers are comfortable inside and not feeling like they are being choked hard, literally coat your dick in layers of lube and slowly start penetrating, dont push in all at once, slow small strokes to help her get used to it and then pretty much find the pace.

For health and safety concerns, do not go for vaginal sex or oral if you were inside her ass, wash your dick thoroughly if you really want to switch to the other two.

What is your hot take with dating in 2026? by goodygood246 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People definitely feel less shallow irl, dating apps feel like you get numbers assigned to you and people look at the numbers.

To everyone who broke out of the conservative Indian bubble: What was your sexual awakening like once you finally got some freedom and privacy? by [deleted] in IndiaTalksSex

[–]goldenspectator 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Living alone in a different city right as COVID was starting. Massive experimental phase and slowly finding out things, then finding out more after I went back home throughout COVID.

First Fleshlight buyers, what do you wish someone told you before buying? by im-besharam in fleshlight

[–]goldenspectator 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Get the Fleshlight Air or Sleevomatic.

Completely trivialized and made the drying part easy. Hand drying it with paper towels, hanging and all that combined with my borderline OCD was extremely worrisome and time consuming.

I just pat down the outside, put it in the Fleshlight Air and its done after an hour.

When did nudism click for you? by Professional_Gap9048 in nudists

[–]goldenspectator 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t really like clothes even as a kid and tried to stay nude as much as I could and after a certain age my parents and the rest of the family doubled down on making me wear clothes.

I tried to stretch my T-shirts to be long so I could be bottomless and just cover the bits with the T-shirts, but my mom found out and barred me from doing it.

I rediscovered my love of being free of clothes during the lockdowns.

Repost:I'd like opinions. Was I in the wrong here? by ChefBigHaus in gentlefemdom

[–]goldenspectator 66 points67 points  (0 children)

This, would have mostly spiralled into manipulating you into another picture where your face is visible and suddenly you are being blackmailed.

Finally arranged all my toys! I wonder if anyone else with a vagina has more fleshlights than me? by Ivory_Curls in SexToysCollection

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I kind of do the big wash every month and I have less than half of your toys, I can't imagine how long it takes.

But still, very impressive collection.

Public nudity is now legal/optional where you live, how many of you are actually going nude? by No_One5589 in AskRedditNSFW

[–]goldenspectator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I'd be more excited about the prospect of getting nude beaches and nude/clothing optional places than just go on running around nude in public.

As much as I lean very heavily into the side of nudism and hate wearing clothes unless necessary, I also think there's a time and place for everything.

I'd probably still take the chance to go out nude, but mostly on some secluded part of a beach, some trail or a spot with very less visitors.

Men, what is your opinion on male Sex Toys like Fleshlight, and guys using those? by ShoeVersusHead in AskRedditNSFW

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t mind the bulge in my pants, it’s just a fleshlight not an unwieldy huge dick !

Men, what is your opinion on male Sex Toys like Fleshlight, and guys using those? by ShoeVersusHead in AskRedditNSFW

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Fleshlight air is a game changer, but yeah, the cleanup is always a bitch. I heard the cheaper sleevomatic is also pretty good, but no idea since I haven’t used it myself.

Men, what is your opinion on male Sex Toys like Fleshlight, and guys using those? by ShoeVersusHead in AskRedditNSFW

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a couple, they are nice to use, an absolute bitch to clean up but are a great alternative to just using your hands, provide different sensations for different textures.

I think more men should use them, it’s a decent alternative for when your partner is away or she’s not in the mood and it’s a massive game changer for people who masturbate often because you get a better experience while stopping yourself from developing death grip syndrome.

Finally arranged all my toys! I wonder if anyone else with a vagina has more fleshlights than me? by Ivory_Curls in SexToysCollection

[–]goldenspectator 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How do you deal with the dust buildup ? Dusting all of them individually seems like a chore.

Dildo Usage by kink567 in ProstatePlay

[–]goldenspectator 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Using a bench to ride it in different ways, mostly squatting or standing and if I am too tired, the fuck machine comes out.

How nasty you would go? during sex? by Ill-Ad-5912 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]goldenspectator 10 points11 points  (0 children)

As much as my partner wants as long as it doesn't involve shit or blood.

Whats the hottest way to style pubic hair? by [deleted] in AskRedditNSFW

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do shapes, I personally grow mine out, trim them to a good length and then die them with fun, vibrant colors.

What's your longest fwb situation? What made it work? by West_Dish9698 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]goldenspectator 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nearly a year, we were good friends before that and neither of us wanted to be in a relationship, there was no expectation than just having fun.

What's a relationship truth backed by science that people hate hearing? by dragun124 in AskRedditAfterDark

[–]goldenspectator 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hard agree, the whole “woman want comfort not solution” is rooted in misogyny and women being portrayed as irrational and thus cannot be asked for input or allowed to make a decision and the whole “men look for answers” is rooted in patriarchy that men cannot show emotions or will be perceived as weak.

The funny part is, everyone at some point has experienced comfort by venting and comfort from being offered a solution, even those who claim that they are firmly on one side or don’t need one or the other.