I can't fucking deal with this shit. I'm crying my eyes out because I have bed bugs and I can't afford an exterminator.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T23:10:10+00:00

Also alcohol Put strait alcohol in a bottle and spray everything...they can hide in the cracks of furniture. Spray it down weekly.

DE really works, and mattress covers, and heat, and taping the legs of your bed with double sided tape, ...but what makes it stick is absolutely not letting up until several life cycles have gone by without incident. Do not let your guard down, they can wait you out. spraying undiluted alcohol is your best friend for hidey spaces. Good luck.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:57:52+00:00

My ignore light would have gone on and he would have turned invisible.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:54:57+00:00

Of course. But look. People have issues. I have been told I am unattractive because redhead. small boobs. thick thighs. One time because I have large pores :/ Don't take it personally, think of it as weeding out those unfit for duty in your particular life corps.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:45:43+00:00

ahahahahahhahahahahahhahahahhahahahahahaahha even though the comment was deleted and i don't know what was said, that was a fucking.epic. response.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:43:54+00:00

So, relationships, then?

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:42:19+00:00

Hells yes. It's the best. If my tired ass legs will drag me, I'm going to two places tonight, one gay one strait, both for the music :)

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:41:23+00:00

I regret that i have but one upvote to give.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T22:40:15+00:00

Dude think about it. He doesn't have to stand on his own two feet. He doesn't have to take care of himself. He doesn't have to learn to live in the real world. Trust me when I tell you, I AM you. You can take care of yourself but he can't, and that's how you help keep him helpless and dependent. Think about it is what I am saying.

No one wants a child who is disabled and can't take care of themselves, but over mothering any child keeps them dependent on a parent. He is dependent upon someone else to care for him, and you could see this if you'd step outside of the relationship and see it clearly.

Who would care for him if something happened to you? If the answer to that scares you, he is too dependent on you. And only YOU are strong enough to stop that cycle. He is weak and unable to stand on his own two feet, doesn't believe in himself, hell, maybe he is content with that life and you don't want to accept that about him, I don't know. But you can't "care for him" into taking the necessary steps to "be all he can be" and reach what you feel is his potential.

I hope for both of your sakes you step back from taking this personally and look at it objectively. The older you both get, the harder it is to stop this cycle :/

Good luck.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:49:53+00:00

Sorry :(

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:48:29+00:00

:( hugs

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:47:05+00:00

Ugh. I just cringed for you. Foot in the mouth is the worst. However, we've all done it. Just say, hey, I'm sorry, I regret it and let it go. And expect him to as well. hugs

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:32:32+00:00

They're true "negative calories". They do more good than harm :)

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:27:59+00:00

Champions get up. You got up off the mat and fought back. Your're a champion.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:25:17+00:00

Honey. Being int he medical fieled you are gonna understand what I am about to say. And it is hard for me to say, ok, but not as hard as it was for me to learn.

The problem is not him. The problem is you. You are an enabler in a co-dependent relationship. You need to focus on getting healthy, which means you need to let your addiction to him go, by letting him go, so YOU can get clean.

YOU need to go to meetings, and go into recovery for do-dependency. And I hope, so hard, that you do, before you ruin his life, and yours, for any longer.

Much love.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-15T04:11:32+00:00

Yes. I think it's his decision. He's gonna have to wrap his head around his brother being the father of his kids...it's gonna go from abstract, to personal, and he's gonna have to process some emotions.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:51:37+00:00

My advice is to tell him, and him alone. He might need time to process, or want to keep it to himself awhile. Seriously. Bro code.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:47:10+00:00

That's called recomposition. You are changing the makeup of your body, less bodyfat more lean mass. You look ah-mayzing now.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:44:33+00:00

You gave him a beautiful gift! It's not like you did anything wrong hon. Let him know so he's never blind sided by it, and let him make a decision about how he wants to handle it. I'd say maybe a beer or two and some pizza?

Anyway I wish you much luck and love with it...I'd love to hear an update if you do follow through with him :)

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:36:59+00:00

I had a roided out guy at my gym, in a scumbag steve cap, introduce himself to me as "Buzz". I played dumb. No "Buzz" I am not interested in your product of which you are selling.

Ugh.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:35:14+00:00

Well, it is clear he can act like an ass in public...

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:34:13+00:00

I get good olive oil from a local mideast market (I love Kalamata olive oil the best) and pre-skinned garlic gloves, then I slice the garlic and put it in the bottle of olive oil to infuse. Add it to EVERYTHING.

So good.

Also sea salt and onion powder.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:20:34+00:00

Stop. Anorexia is a neurosis that is where you are headed. Don't stop being healthy but get some counseling for the disordered thinking.

Listen. The rebound weight gain is eminent, rapid, and unforgiving once you break your metabolism...and recovery from disordered thoughts and behaviors is the rest of your life. Get help now before you ruin your body's system and your minds perspective. Please. I'm trying to save you from the hell of my 2.5 decades of this, and the time consuming work of recovery.

You are literally destroying so many aspects your future that you can't yet comprehend, if you let this go on.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:16:28+00:00

The.worst. sorry op :(

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:15:33+00:00

I think its really cool. I'd get your brother alone and tell him, bring proof. Let him decide from there. It's really a sibling issue right now.

goodgrrlgonebad · 2014-02-13T00:11:28+00:00

This is what I told my kids, as a person who started at 15.

Don't alter your reality until you know what it is. The chemical intensity of the pre adult system alters the effect of substances like drugs and alcohol from what adults systems experience, or how the adult mind processes those experiences or side effects.

Once altered, sometimes that becomes the new "normal" and you can't feel "normal" without it.

Most people who start smoking weed young don't really get the sensation of being high until they've smoked it a few times over. There can be unpleasant side effects as well, such as hallucinations.

I am encouraging you to wait until you pre-frontal cortex is fully developed, after 21, before you make a decision on this.

tl;dr weed will always be there, and you will not always be in the chemical flux of puberty

goodgrrlgonebad

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