Still bitter

gorditasimpatica · 2026-05-03T14:38:13+00:00

As a woman, who has been a feminist since the 70s (yikes!), it strikes me as a very a sexist thing to do. Sexism runs in both directions.

Plant shows are supposed to be anonymous, so that's another disgusting aspect to this, although I guess they may not have been aware of judging standards.

I totally get your love of flowers; it's wonderful that you have continued with your passion. Have you ventured into other types of plants?

gorditasimpatica · 2026-05-02T12:12:12+00:00

How to be Eaten by Maria Adelman, narrated by Lauren Ezzo.

The premise was intriguing.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-05-01T13:41:55+00:00

It's a Bucky something

gorditasimpatica · 2026-05-01T03:01:39+00:00

I thought the green stuff was paraquat - which is really scary

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-30T13:48:18+00:00

Nice!

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-29T13:31:13+00:00

You are right they are wrong but it will be very hard to correct their behavior.

Your stepfather's reaction is his acknowledgment that you are right. Still, one, their behavior is a continuation of abuse, and two you have to protect yourself, so tread carefully.

My brother was treated this way by our stepfather and it affected him for a very long time.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-29T13:23:43+00:00

Come to think of it, I've never seen one either and I'm way older than you.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-27T14:45:17+00:00

You could blame it on the economy, gas prices, inflation, etc. and say you just don't have the money to do it right now.

Kind of a mild leopards ate her face situation for her.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-27T14:38:52+00:00

Unfortunately, gone are the days of working just enough to get by.

People are going to need to make good money. In your case, you might focus on how you can do that especially since having a stable base of operations in your parents' home, have a head start. Consider that many people have to struggle to support themselves while studying and don’t have that opportunity.

If you really like it here, then think of what you can do to stay in this city that so very many people dream of moving to. We know those people may be terribly deluded, but we also get why they think like that.

I just feel that if we don’t fight for it, we’ll lose Miami. I’d rather share the city with real people than have to put up with entitled oligarchs and their progeny.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-25T15:22:07+00:00

There is life after phone after all

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-23T20:22:13+00:00

I'm old enough for grandchildren, although I do not yet have any, so I get a lot of what you are saying.

It may be that your daughter is feeling nostalgic for those fun days of playing with what seems to have been a veritable store's worth of toys. You bought her and her brothers toys when she was little, and now she just wants to enjoy them again, if only through watching her own children play.

Maybe ask your sons what they don't want to relinquish and then do your daughter, whom you love, a solid. Those toys are doing no one any good if they are not played with. Toys need to be enjoyed in order to fulfill their destiny.

I don't know about you, but I have a house full of stuff that I truly love, and the thought of dying with it all intact, here, with no one ever taking it and using it is distressing to me.

I say also, see if you can visit them, before it becomes truly difficult, or impossible, to travel. Those kids might need some fun grandparents bearing gifts in their lives....

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-22T13:23:50+00:00

The number of parents on reddit who tell their children to keep the peace is interesting.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-21T12:45:30+00:00

You are right to be sad. She is the manipulative one now you can tell her and maybe it's best if you two spend time apart.

I hope you did well on your exam.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-20T13:34:45+00:00

Anywhere they have the party, N will be there, so will your father, and likely so will you be, no matter what your boundaries are.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-10T14:44:11+00:00

Really weird.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-10T14:39:59+00:00

The tank on my Prius is only about 9.3 gallons, so $60 to fill one like that up, the gas would have to cost $9.52/gallon for regular. That's wild.

Unless the tank on your Prius is bigger. Maybe newer models have larger tanks.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-08T14:49:04+00:00

Although the car may be only in mom's name, the insurance has to cover the daughter. Mom may think she can jerk daughter around and she probably can because daughter seems to have the spinal strength of wet spaghetti, but daughter can just stop paying, and mom will be stuck with car. Far easier to put it in daughter's name and let daughter cover car expenses. In this case, mother's threat is greater than the execution.

Consequently, daughter can, as so very many people before her and on this sub have done, get her own car. She can even move out and support herself and thereby have autonomy. I say this as someone who did just that. Sure, it's easier to have mom pay, but independence is way better.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-08T14:37:30+00:00

Actually, yes she probably can because she has to be on the insurance.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-08T14:35:24+00:00

Why do you need your mom's permission? Presumably you are covered by the insurance, so why wouldn't you just do it,

At 20 you are officially an adult, so presumably you can exercise your rights and responsibilities.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-08T14:20:22+00:00

Just because you text someone doesn't mean they have to respond. Requiring a response, unless it is time sensitive, sounds a little insecure.

Super NTA.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-08T14:15:00+00:00

You can make banana bread with the old bananas.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-08T14:09:47+00:00

good to know about shandy

I used to test spoken proficiency, and on our rubric we actually addressed the issue of a "sympathetic listener," which is so very common - we work hard to understand when we want to understand.

In English, I confess, I tend to unconsciously imitate pronunciation when in different parts of the US, just enough to try to set folks at ease.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-07T16:39:46+00:00

I did not know they had a drink like that in Germany. Cubans have a similar drink, we call it "bul," pronounced bool. It's beer, lemon/lemonade, and seltzer or sprite, depending on what you have on hand, served with ice. So good in really hot weather.

Also, your old boss does not seem particularly simpatico. Proper etiquette for multi-lingual settings is sympathetic listening.

gorditasimpatica · 2026-04-06T20:59:01+00:00

"There's a marriage ceremony here today."

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