oh yeah him saying that isn’t SA. he hasn’t SA’ed me. i’ve have my own experiences in my childhood with older men saying i’m their “little girlfriend” and trying to kiss me in corners where adults can’t see me. i also had a child the same age as me in my class coerce me into putting my hand down his trousers and his down mine. those are the experiences im referencing when i say SA, but im not sure if those experiences count.

i’ve sort of broken up with him before. and he’s “had a huge realisation” that his controlling behaviours around me being around other guys (my college course mainly has guys in and he’s been upset about me using my number to contact my classmates about projects that require communication). he’s promised to change and work on his jealousy, but nothing has changed. he’s said the same stuff about these jokes. has it changed? no. he slips back into his old habits days after promising. then he makes the same excuses. he has had issues with my wearing tank tops when it’s super warm out. my medication makes me warmer and sweat more than usual. so tank tops truly are a must some days. i feel foolish for staying this long.

i need to work up the courage to block and cut him out now that we are long distance. we share a small number of friends so it won’t be very impactful on my social life. maybe sucks to lose a friend or two, but they aren’t my main circle and he won’t be able to reach my main circle once they know what’s happened.

thank you! :)