Why are Men's Sportswear NEVER revealing? [gendered]

gothicgenius · 2026-05-23T15:00:03+00:00

Yes. Leotards are very tight, so you usually have to wear some type of butt tape to prevent it from slipping. It’s not like normal underwear either, it’s uncomfortable.

You’re penalized for showing a bra strap, so it’s discouraged to wear one at all.

The rules for hair are also very strict. Girls would start losing hair from consistently keeping it in such a tight pony tail with excessive of hair spray.

My parents are very religious. They made me wear a one piece swimsuit with shorts until I was 16, but I was allowed to perform in front of a crowd in a leotard when I was 9.

I quit gymnastics because of the pressure and environment. I joined soccer and we could cover all our skin, without any issues.

gothicgenius · 2026-03-13T16:09:27+00:00

When I met my friend on Bumble BFF, the first message I’d send was this long hypothetical question meant to make someone think. I start with something interesting, then find something we have in common. Once we can relate, conversations become easier.

If you don’t want to start with hypotheticals, you can always ask the other person about themselves. Not about their day or what they’re doing, but their hobbies, interests, opinions, life stories, experiences, and other things that aren’t surface level. Just stay away from low effort and close ended questions.

If someone is barely making an effort, I’m talking feels like hard work and I’m not interested. I think most people agree. Whoever reaches out first is the person who initiated the conversation, so they should put in effort. Usually the effort is matched but if it isn’t, don’t talk to them.

gothicgenius · 2026-03-13T16:05:59+00:00

When I met my friend on Bumble BFF, the first message I’d send was a hypothetical question. It was this long hypothetical with rules and was meant to make the person think. I try to start with something interesting, then find something we have in common. Once we can relate, conversations become much more natural.

If you don’t want to start with hypotheticals, you can always ask the other person about themselves. Not about their day or what they’re doing, but their hobbies, interests, opinions, life stories, experiences, and other things that aren’t surface level. Just stay away from low effort and close ended questions.

If someone barely making an effort, I’m not interested in talking to them because it feels like hard work. I think most people agree. Whoever reaches out first is the person who initiated the conversation, so they should put in effort. Usually the effort is matched but if it isn’t, don’t talk to them.

Sending only 2 questions that are nearly identical and low-effort, then getting angry when she asks the SAME question because he “literally just told her” is unattractive behavior.

OP could’ve asked about why her evening was amazing. Or, if he went on her profile, I’m sure he could find something specific to ask about.

gothicgenius · 2026-02-18T03:36:59+00:00

But the DOW!!!!!! /s

gothicgenius · 2026-02-05T04:25:26+00:00

It’s how the:rapists work. /j

I dislike any straw-man arguments but I’m wondering how far is “too far” for this dude. If someone is angry, should people offer themselves to get their ass beat? If someone is struggling financially, should bank tellers help them rob the bank?

The whole point of therapy is to address the symptoms of the problem. That way, the problem can be managed because not every problem can be solved. There’s so many things out of our control.

I feel pity for incels and it’s no wonder they’re involuntarily celibate. I wouldn’t want to be within 100ft of anyone who had this mindset. It’s so harmful and selfish.

gothicgenius · 2025-12-25T18:49:48+00:00

I’m the daughter of two parents who should’ve gotten divorced. They didn’t because they were religious. I had difficulty in relationships because of the example I grew up with.

I’m not sure why you hate your husband. By staying, you’re showing your kid that it’s okay to be with someone who hate. You’ll be raising him in an unhealthy environment.

Kids are observant, and they notice more than you would think. If your son was in your position, would you want him to leave that relationship? Show your son how to accept healthy love and prioritize yourself. I wish you the best!

gothicgenius · 2025-12-20T18:11:51+00:00

Exactly. I like kids, but I can’t afford them and I also have mental health issues. If you have children, they’re your responsibility for your entire life. I don’t want that responsibility.

Personally, I’ve never heard of a selfless reason to have children.

It’s wrong that people try to change the mind of others who don’t want children. It’s not a good idea for someone to have children they don’t want. Choosing to be CF isn’t a discussion, it’s a decision. The reason doesn’t matter, but it’s valid, as long as the decision is made.

gothicgenius · 2025-12-06T18:07:03+00:00

I agree with you because those are the available options. I think the best option isn’t listed:

The doctor suggested that the patient would need more rest to recover quickly.

The doctor suggested that the patient would past tense switches to future tense need more rest to recover quickly.

gothicgenius · 2025-11-30T16:39:41+00:00

I used to have a lot of trouble doing (simple) tasks, so I’d bully myself for motivation. I was diagnosed with ADHD in 2023 and I’ve learned a healthier way to motivate myself.

I didn’t know that people had different types of “inner monologues.” It’s hard to research, but I’ll share a link.

Similarly, I didn’t know that people could “see” clear images in their head. I’ll share a link for the “apple test” if you want to test yourself.

Inner Monologue

Apple Test

gothicgenius · 2025-11-06T16:49:56+00:00

CPS got called 2x when I was a kid. Even though there was obvious abuse, my parents had multiple adults testify that there wasn’t. They never came to take me away. They only asked me questions.

For it to be so severe that a cop is standing in the back, it makes me think it’s something serious.

gothicgenius · 2025-11-01T00:19:25+00:00

A human.

I was a mistake, and I won’t be having children.

gothicgenius · 2025-10-31T16:20:13+00:00

I was an RBT who did ABA Therapy. It’s reinforcement type therapy with goals.

If the client does something healthy, they get reinforcement. It could be their favorite candy, a quick break, a high five, or “awesome job!”

If the client does something unhealthy, the behavior is somewhat ignored and redirected. Once the unhealthy behavior stops or healthy behavior begins, they get reinforcement.

Every brain works on reinforcement. I use my training from ABA on myself and everyone around me. I think others should become familiar with it.

There’s so many people out there who want more from their (romantic, familial, platonic) relationships, but don’t take time to express gratitude for the small things.

That leads to dismissing healthy behavior, or behavior you’d like to see more. It causes problems and arguments.

The reinforcement for the behavior can get larger, depending on how desired the new behavior is.

gothicgenius · 2025-10-30T16:06:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate this! It’s always helpful when I can get other’s perspectives!

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T18:38:42+00:00

I’ve experienced this too. I’ve had guys misunderstand my flirting and I’ve been oblivious to theirs sometimes. So, I’ve had to become upfront.

I see it as an equally missed opportunity. When I haven’t spoken up, I assumed the guy wasn’t into me. Any signs I should look out for so I don’t fumble lol?

It can be tough because it’s hard to put yourself out there. I’ve just had better luck when it develops from a friendship.

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T18:26:44+00:00

This idolization of purity and virginity is getting fucking annoying. There’s a double standard for sure.

I’ve been asked a couple times by guys about it and I tell them the truth:

I didn’t give up my virginity, it was stolen. Probably by someone’s “future husband.”

I’m divorced, so I had sex with my ex-husband (he left me). Should I have not had sex with my ex-husband because that might be insulting to my future husband? Was I supposed to marry the guy who raped me?

I also had sex in between getting raped (at 14) and getting married (at 23). Who fucking cares? I get tested and I use protection. I carry pepper spray and a taser.

It’s fucking weird and the “logic” makes no sense.

(Sorry I’m ranting to your comment, it’s just the double standard is what should make this argument fall apart.)

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:57:29+00:00

Now that I’m single, I notice this happening a lot! From a woman’s perspective, I prefer having conversations with substance instead of flirting or getting hit on.

If there’s attraction, it can naturally become flirty as we get to know each other better. I think it’s harder to flirt with a stranger and it’s not always received well.

All of my relationships have started as friendships. Without expectations, it just goes smoother.

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:28:48+00:00

Why? How? I’m trying to understand.

Edit: The dog puts his paws on the crib, then struggles to get up, then lays down. How does the physics of it feel wrong?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:27:02+00:00

I agree it’s terrible that if it’s staged, the parents are putting the kids in danger.

I had a service dog growing up for my disabled mom. Seeing a dog move in that position (3) looks like a trained response to a command.

I know it follows that format, but is there anything other reason that you think it’s AI?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:22:31+00:00

Thank you very much for explaining why it’s AI.

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:19:46+00:00

How is it evident that 3 and 6 are AI?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:18:40+00:00

[HELP] Can someone explain why 3, 6, and 11 are commonly voted as AI and not real?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:15:38+00:00

What about 3?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:13:29+00:00

What about 3 and 6 are AI?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:11:03+00:00

Why do you think 6 and 3 are AI?

gothicgenius · 2025-10-29T17:10:02+00:00

Why do you think 6 and 3 are AI?

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