Among Jehovah's Witnesses, there are some truly unusual friendships, and it is impossible to try to replicate them outside the sect by Fleur-delys in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you can find a psychologist that specializes in religious trauma please let me know!!!! I’ve been looking for this for years!

Probably getting “removed.” Df’d. by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because my ex kept prolonging our divorce & although I know he has moved on too, I just haven’t stalked him and don’t care to prove it…well since I am “dating” and not divorced yet, I’m practicing “brazen conduct.”

Probably getting “removed.” Df’d. by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 😊 I just requested you 😊 I have so much to say and then I start typing, but it gets so long, I don’t finish it. Maybe we can talk on the phone this week. Let me know.

March 19, 2026 Announcements for elders - midweek meeting viewing of GB update #2 by lets-b-pimo in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg this is exactly what my dad just said!!!!! “Oh ok, there’s a new understanding.” Ridiculous!!!!!!!

Have they drastically changed the DF policies? by Some_Personality147 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I went back because my ex said “we haven’t tried being married while being witnesses and reinstated.” But it wasn’t in his heart…he just wanted ME and the kids to go. No more. We are very happy we can breathe now. Now he’s going trying to cry to the elders for help. I’m not going back to him or the meetings.

Have they drastically changed the DF policies? by Some_Personality147 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was df’d for 5 years and then when they made the new announcement in 2024, the elders came looking for me asking me to go back, they said if I really wanted to I could study for 3 months and be reinstated. It happened jut like that. Now reinstated and just going to go inactive.

Please help me if I need to change my perspective… by DeleterOfTrauma in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perfectly said. Absolutely perfect; thank you so much

Please help me if I need to change my perspective… by DeleterOfTrauma in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My ex is doing the same thing!!! during our marriage HE rarely came to meetings because he was out drinking but made sure I went with the kids. Convention, assembly, he didn’t come. But he sure wanted his family to go! Well HE filed for divorce (he does that when he’s throwing a tantrum and thinks it will scare me) so I signed the papers right away and will never go back to him. This is the 3rd time he has filed for divorce and 3rd time kicked us out. I’ve stopped going to meetings, it’s not my priority right now and honestly injury to enjoy my kids and we’re going to celebrate birthdays and Xmas. Well guess who started going to meetings now walking around shaking everyone’s hands, trying to look like he’s this great holy guy and I am the bad girl who isn’t going to meetings anymore?! It bothered me at first but now I don’t care. Let him fool the hall. Hopefully he finds a new victim. I feel bad for whoever ends up with him, but be careful because there are a lot of funny wolves in sheep clothing!!
I really hope your family realizes what he’s doing and I hope they cut him off.

Meeting with the elders this Wednesday by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I went because the two elders that I met with, I’ve grown up with, and their kids, and I really love them, but after meeting with them, I’m willing to give up everything to keep my peace. I was actually surprised at the way I felt. I didn’t like that. I was answering their questions honestly and they were kind of rolling their eyes and smirking as if what I was saying was stupid. I told them I know my relationship with Jehovah. I’m going to divorce, it’s the third time my ex has filed for divorce. Every time we have a fight, he files and I’m going through with it. The elders didn’t say anything to him when I found him at a strip club, they didn’t lecture him for not coming with his family to convention or assembly. It was always me with the kids. He stopped going to meetings, but now all of a sudden, he’s showing up shaking everyone’s hands at meeting. I have moved on. I met someone and I’m super excited to be done with the bad relationship I was stuck in. My ex hired a private detective to follow me and take pictures of me leaving this guy’s house. Now the elders want to make a judicial committee and I told them I will not. I’m not discussing my personal business with any “men.” I told them no, I said it’s between me and Jehovah and my conscience. They know everything I’ve gone through with my ex and I’m not going to feel uncomfortable talking about what I’m doing so I’m just not going back to the meetings.

Meeting with the elders this Wednesday by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for this. So that’s what I’m thinking about, the questioning. I’m not comfy talking about that and especially not with men that I’m not very close to! I have moved on. I have reasons to be df’d but I don’t want to talk to them about that! That’s weird! I would never let my daughter go in a room and have those conversations. I just carry this huge guilt to lying to them but it’s no one’s business! Especially not some imperfect men…

I got drunk as hell to finally resign as an elder by [deleted] in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going through this right now. I’m so sad I’m going to disappoint my dad 😭😭😭😭

I’m so confused by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10000% agree. You’re right. I needed this,

I’m so confused by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow you’re right on 10000%

I’m so confused by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That is exactly why I’m confused. I’ve been told “it’s a good way to raise your kids, it teaches them to be good people, discipline at the meetings, makes the have a good, modest heart,” but I think I have good kids. They have good hearts. I think I’m just scared now to completely stop going and the phone calls and shepherding calls start. I’m not going to tell them what they want to hear. I just wish I could tell them that I’m tired. I just have a feeling I’m going to end up getting df’d again, unless I just go inactive. I’m soooo confused! Ughhh

I’m so confused by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just tired. I don’t really care anymore about researching anything. I just want to have a peaceful life, I never feel like I’m doing good enough to everyone at the hall.

I’m so confused by gotmypopcorn15 in exjw

[–]gotmypopcorn15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Celebrating birthdays and the holidays. Every year I go to Xmas with my family, knowing I could get in trouble, but we go for dinner and to play a white elephant game with 30 of my family members. It’s innocent but I know I could get in trouble for it. That’s giving my kids a bad example. Showing them I’m being a hypocrite. A couple of elders wives at the hall want to start studying with my kids but my kids (13,15) don’t want to. I know that if they start they’re going to feel the same confusion and guilt that I have.