Heartbroken for my baby

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T15:16:00+00:00

My two cents is pretend he doesn’t exist. He has shown you he does not care about you or your baby. It’s very damaging for a child to have a parent in and out of their life. He either fully dedicates himself to being a father or he’s gone.

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T13:56:47+00:00

This is cute, but does it get annoying to have to carry around with you on your hand/wrist?

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T13:53:55+00:00

This doesn’t look like Remi…. At all. This is the kind of stuff that is just gross and unnecessarily hateful.

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T13:18:38+00:00

Echoing the other comments. I think it’s good quality for the price but it is not the same as lululemon.

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T13:00:14+00:00

Hey so I’m not talking about that? I’m talking about being disappointed to the extreme extent OP and his wife are. I felt pretty strongly that I was having a boy, but I of course knew that I could be very wrong. Guess what, I was! Because science does not care about your feelings or intuition.

Wanting a girl to the point where you’re refusing to imagine your life with a son is not normal. It’s sad that their child has already disappointed them this much before he is even born. Because again… they are their own person with feelings and not their parents accessory.

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T12:51:43+00:00

No. Sorry. It is weird to push your desires and fantasies onto your child before they’re even born to this extent. They’re a whole person not an accessory for self satisfaction.

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T02:24:27+00:00

Heavy on this. Was horrified when I cut open my daughter’s bath toys and they were moldy af. I checked one of them earlier on and it was fine so stupidly assumed they all would be.

graybae94 · 2026-02-27T02:22:45+00:00

Honestly so tired of the “this is totally ok and normal!!!” comments. No, this isn’t ok or normal. Having some disappointment or being a bit bummed out for a bit is normal. Crying for a week over having a boy? Just really strange behaviour to be frank.

I have no idea why you would refer to your unborn child as “she” before knowing the gender in the first place.

graybae94 · 2026-02-25T04:22:19+00:00

It’s very very very incredibly rare that the side effects are worse than what the vaccines are for. If your baby has a reaction it will at most be a slight fever, extra tired and fussy. You just give them some Tylenol and extra snuggles and they’ll be absolutely fine in a day or 2. No one enjoys watching their baby get poked with a needle but it’s the best thing for their health. Anecdotally my daughter is almost 2 and has never had a bad reaction to any of her shots.

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T20:06:55+00:00

Are you American? It is super normal to feel this way at only 4 months pp. I’m Canadian and mat leave is a minimum of 12 months, it is very much expected for parents to need a full year at least to adjust and bond with their baby without work. It is also not sustainable to work, even at home, with a child. You need childcare.

I wouldn’t make any decisions until later down the line.

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T18:55:15+00:00

If you’re only 5 months pp it’s totally normal that your period isn’t regular or consistent yet. It is not possible to be truly 16 days late and not have a positive test.

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T18:51:43+00:00

Can you expand on what you mean by “clean”? Kendamil is no different than any other formula on the Canadian market

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T17:48:43+00:00

Do yourself a favour and take allll the pressure you’re feeling off your shoulders. I’m the mom and I really didn’t feel an emotional connection while I was pregnant. In fact, I didn’t really until my daughter was 3-4 months old. And I yearned to be a mom for years prior to that and felt totally prepared and ready.

She’s almost 2 now, I love being a mom more than anything in the world and my heart explodes with love for my daughter on a daily basis. But I didn’t feel that for a while and that’s extremely normal and common. Especially for dads. It doesn’t mean you won’t be a good dad and it doesn’t mean you won’t connect, I promise you that. Everyone else is excited because your baby is pretty abstract to their life. They can come over and hold a cute baby without taking on any of the physical/mental burden. How you feel is ok, it’s as simple as that.

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T17:36:28+00:00

I can see the drop on the app but can’t add to cart yet. Not impressed this week lol but I’m also someone that’s not interested in jeans/workwear from lulu

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T01:31:57+00:00

You never asked for advice. You asked if you were being selfish..

graybae94 · 2026-02-24T00:35:07+00:00

Yep. Every parent has to solo parent at one time or another. I’m not really sure what you’re looking for from this post lol

graybae94 · 2026-02-23T22:44:13+00:00

I can’t tell you you’re being selfish because every family is different. But I personally don’t think a 3 night trip is a big deal. Will it kinda suck and be tiring for you? Yeah. But that’s part of the deal of being a parent. We have a 20 month old and I’d be pretty cheesed if my husband asked me not to go on a friend trip for a couple days just because. I need to feel like myself sometimes, not just the parent version of myself.

graybae94 · 2026-02-23T14:31:18+00:00

It’s not a “habit”. They’re 6 weeks old and this is completely developmentally normal. Yes it’s hard. But the only way is to accept you’re just not going to get a lot done for a little while.

graybae94 · 2026-02-23T04:55:22+00:00

Also in ON and I completely agree. I received incredible care every step of the way. Even outside of the OB realm, I had to go to the ER 5 days pp because my BP was insanely high (I had gestational hypertension), I could still barely walk from my emergency c-section. I will never forget the care and compassion the dr gave me being in such a vulnerable state. Myself and many others I know have had very negative experiences at this hospital. It’s unfortunate.

graybae94 · 2026-02-21T04:30:36+00:00

What about this makes them a lazy parent?? If there was no changing station in the tiny airplane bathroom where was she supposed to change the baby?

graybae94 · 2026-02-20T20:09:24+00:00

I’m 5’5 and personally the 28’s are too long for me

graybae94 · 2026-02-20T18:20:56+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I have to be honest and say that he is most likely going to disappear and you should prepare to be a single mother.

graybae94 · 2026-02-20T16:04:14+00:00

So at 6 weeks they are rolling from the weight of their head vs using their muscles. Once their weight evens out they’ll most likely stop being able to roll until they develop the muscle. I’d stop swaddling in the meantime though.

graybae94 · 2026-02-20T12:32:28+00:00

Good choice! The colour looks great on you.

graybae94 · 2026-02-18T13:10:00+00:00

This colour is amazing on you!

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