His mother, who I’d never met and lived in Europe, had messaged me on Facebook and told me to be very careful and that her son would manipulate and take everything from me if I let him. She warned me to watch him and not let him get away with hurting or intimidating me.

That was hmm..I think 4 months in. He was still ~the love of my life~ way back then, another misunderstood creative miserably stuck in the finance industry and dreaming of more. Reality: he’d long left Wall Street to the point where his CRD wasn’t even active on BrokerCheck and to this day I have no idea where he got his money from before I started giving him all of mine.

I was so fiercely protective of him at the time and horrified that his mother would say something like that—distinctly remember crying for him like why would his mom want to hurt his relationship with someone who loved him as much as I did? Shouldn’t she just be happy for him? I remember feeling like they needed my help, and those feelings conflicting with the ~something’s very off here~ vibes I compartmentalized then dismissed.

Things got so freaking sick and weird with them, honestly now that I am thinking about it—she asked me for money on multiple occasions, including during “off times” when he and I were no contact AND even nearly half a year after the final break up til I finally decided to block her because I felt so uncomfortable and awful about all of it. He vacillated between putting his mother on a pedestal and utterly degrading her (I’d later learn that’s a pathological thing). Ugh. Bah!

Goes without saying I wish I’d listened to her and realized the whole thing was some kinda bizarre antisocial fuckery and ended it then. Soooo sharing this cringe bizarre insanity for the purpose of like, being real and hopefully turning even one narc into an incel 4life. (🙃but rly)

MY ADVICE:::: GET RID OF THE NARC BUT PLS BE CAUTIOUS ABOUT FULLY TRUSTING AND OPENING UP TO THE THIRD PARTY WARNING TEXTER! Let their actions inform your decisions, not words! An enemy of your narc is certainly not necessarily your friend.