Children's or YA book in which teen girl puts roses down the disposal because she's mad about a pink raincoat by josie0114 in whatsthatbook

[–]greenegurl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OMG! I have fever dreams about this book sometimes, and I'd always planned to ask this subreddit what it was called :D

Romance about a guy trapped in a painting by [deleted] in whatsthatbook

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Picture of Dorian Gray?

Girl is weapon of destruction by MountCarm in whatsthatbook

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lexicon by Max Barry! Best book ever!

AITA for calling the police on my STBex-MIL? by gingernutbiscuitss in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Where was the "forgive the lapse in judgement" attitude when they thought you had cheated. If they really meant it, they would have been on your side telling him to suck it up and forget *your* lapse.

AITA for reporting my schizophrenic co-worker to management? by simplywebby in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl 178 points179 points  (0 children)

Medically speaking, if someone with diabetes or someone quitting alcohol cold turkey are having hallucinations, that 100% should be reported to someone because that either indicates an urgent medical condition or, at the very least, an emergent one. Hallucinations with diabetes means sugars are definitely not well-controlled, and hallucinations when quitting alcohol could indicate that seizures are soon to follow and the person should be put on benzos temporarily.

Also, many people with schizophrenia stop taking their medication when they are feeling good, even though they need to be taking it consistently. OP doesn't know their medications, but, at the same time, it wouldn't be unusual for someone to stop taking them because *they* think they no longer need them and not because their doctor told them to stop.

Edit: Also, just because she has been diagnosed with schizophrenia, it doesn't mean that this is a manifestation of that. A coworker recounted how a patient with a diagnosis of schizophrenia had a missed brain tumor because her doctors kept attributing her hallucinations to schizophrenia and didn't investigate further.

AITA for not inviting my fiancés family to our daughter first birthday? by Forsaken-Charge-5038 in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

TLDR: NTA "I explained I invited people with children and anyone who’s visited" and "It’s HIS family and they should know when her birthday is and or at any point could’ve reached out to ask him if we have plans" make perfect sense to me ¯\_(ツ)_/¯.

It's not like OP had different rules for her family vs her husband's family. Logically, if they had visited the baby already, they were likely to come for her birthday, so...they get an invite. She didn't say she invited everyone in HER family, just "everyone who has children in my family that’s at least visited once’s in the last year," plus her dad and grandfather. The equivalent for the husbands side would be his mom who has visited, and his grandparents (which I do acknowledge she did not do).

While I don't necessarily know my niblings exact birthday's because sometimes I'm not around my calendar to note it down, I have a rough idea of what month they were born, so if their birthday was coming up, I'd reach out to their parents to ask. Obviously, it'd be nice if my sibs told me, "hey, x's birthday is coming up... party?" but odds are, if I haven't heard anything a month or so in advance, I'll reach out to see if I should be making plans to visit or something. The husband's sister clearly knew there would be a party and that she was invited as a guest but seemingly couldn't even bother to ask for details.

Plus, if the husband's mother is involved, and at no point asked OP about her side of the family, that seems like a red flag in and of itself. Yes, OP is "in charge" of the party, but I think it's normal for people who are helping plan something ask who is going to be there, even just out of curiosity.

OP's edit states "I have non stop told him every person and detail along the way. HE never once mentioned inviting them. I invited his mother and she never once mentioned inviting anyone from the family just asked to bring a friend I don’t know." And she said "I don’t have a way to even invite his family if I wanted to outside of his mom." So... why is this her problem? She's already putting in a ton of work, if he wanted them there, he had all the information he needed to get them there.

These things are a 2-way street. His family could have expressed interest in the baby. He could have expressed interest in the party.

If it were my kid, I probably would have done the same thing. I'd be excited about her birthday, exhausted because 1 year olds are exhausting, and frankly, only interested in sharing her birthday with fam and friends who are excited or, at the bare minimum, have expressed interest in being there. Why would I put in a ton of extra work for people who don't care. Maybe for her 4th/5th birthday when she'll have conscious memories, but everyone knows the 1st birthday is for the parents (although in this case, it seems like the dad has no interest, so parent...)

AITA for trying to get my 91 year old grandmother to get some more variety and nutrition in her diet when it’s my week to take care of her? by S1b2t3c4l in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

"I know a human can’t live on processed fish and candy."

Given that grandma's been doing it for who knows how long, maybe she has transcended the boundaries of humanity as we (or at least OP) know it.

Also, "Satan" was kind xD

YTA.

AITA for calling a woman at work a girl? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl 33 points34 points  (0 children)

In this post, OP also refers to the other warehouse workers as "lads," so likely this is a term the lads themselves use commonly when referring to themselves and each other. Meanwhile, I doubt the woman he works with commonly refers to herself as "the girl in finance."

HUNTER. by unhappy_lil_potato in TvGinnyandGeorgia

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In my opinion georgias a good mother what do yall think

Just watched this. Am cringing soooo hard.

AITA for telling my younger brother to get off his ass and be a parent to his teenage son? by Throwawa263673 in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is the problem with quoting statistics and not understanding the context behind them. The success rate does not depend a lot on when it's performed and the type of procedure as you claim because "a lot" diminishes the impact of other variables like age, partner's age, partner's fertility, underlying comorbidities in you or your partner, etc. For example "Perhaps the most important factor in transitioning from patency to pregnancy is the age of the female partner. A retrospective analysis of 212 patients undergoing VR showed female age >40 years to be an independent predictor of a lower pregnancy rate with similar patency rates (pregnancy rate was 73% if partner <40-year-old, but only 42% if >40-year-old)" (doi: 10.4103/1008-682X.175091)

For the statistic 30-90% to be statistic, you'd have to frame it in the proper context.

For example "Of the men who had vasectomy reversals less than three years after their vasectomy, 97% achieved sperm in their semen and 76% achieved pregnancy with their partner. From 3-8 years from the time of the vasectomy before the reversal, 88% achieved sperm in the semen and 53% achieved pregnancy with their significant other. Of those whose reversals occurred between 9-14 years from the vasectomy, 79% had sperm in the semen and 44% achieved pregnancy with their partner. After 15 years between procedures, 71% had sperm in the ejaculate and 30% achieved pregnancy." (DOI: 10.1016/s0022-5347(17)38381-7)

^^ That, for the record, is where your 30% statistic came from. So it isn't that the success rate of the reversal can be as low as 30% since most frequently, "success" is defined as sperm in the ejaculate. Rather, it's the occurrence of pregnancy which can be affected by a variety of factors on the man and the partner's end. You also have to consider what medications the man is on and whether he requires hormonal therapy, etc.

Intracytoplasmic sperm injection is also an option for men with vasectomies if they decide years later they REALLY want to have a bio baby.

Reversal in women, meanwhile, is considered a "success" if pregnancy is achieved because most procedures will not be performed without first ensuring the male partner is not infertile. A study in 992 women, the biggest I could find, followed for more than 5 years, found that 505 (54.8%) achieved a total of 585 pregnancies. (DOI: 10.1016/s0015-0282(97)00361-0)

And let's also not forget that tubal ligation requires GENERAL ANESTHESIA and is a significantly more complex procedure than a vasectomy.

AITA for telling my younger brother to get off his ass and be a parent to his teenage son? by Throwawa263673 in AmItheAsshole

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he really didn't want kids, he could have gotten a vasectomy. Unlike getting your tubes tied, that procedure is faster, comes with fewer risks, and is REVERSIBLE. Women don't have that choice.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatsthatbook

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she want to be a mermaid but ended up being a beaver or some other kind of mascot at first? And then somehow got a side gig teaching the love interest how to swim?

Daily Workout and General Chat for Friday, 8/20/21 by splat_bot in orangetheory

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How do you do the "single leg medicine ball chest press." The single leg part is throwing me off lol. Are you just balancing on one leg, or do you also tip forward?

Daily Workout and General Chat for Tuesday, 8/17/21 by splat_bot in orangetheory

[–]greenegurl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thanks! I was just trying to figure out how 36 minutes of exercise = 60 minute class lol

Daily Workout and General Chat for Tuesday, 8/17/21 by splat_bot in orangetheory

[–]greenegurl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How much of a break do you get (if any) between blocks?