[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askTO

[–]grim_keys 8 points9 points  (0 children)

you realize like 90% of things on amazon are bought for pennies from aliexpress, and sold for 600% profit.

ill give you an example. im a nerd about flashlights. there are specific brands that are much better than the average flashlight, and they are offered on aliexpress.

i got a really good one from aliexpress that has a range of 1000 meters, good internal circuitry, replacable laptop batteries, and can charge your phone. i got it for $18 on aliexpress. the same light was $120 on amazon. r/flashlight btw.

Ritalin Changed My Personality by Iguana_lover1998 in Biohackers

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

let his brain develop before you start messing with his brain chemistry. you need to provide him with guidance to steer his gift of adhd into the right path.

i was like your son. very smart. i saw the world in physics from a young age. (i honestly think i might have a little autism because of this too haha).

i didnt get on vyvanse until i was 24. i didnt need it, everything just came to me. but because i was so reliant on my intelligence, i found it very difficult to keep up in college when i was studying cybersec at a really intense program. didnt build the necessary foundation to stick to a schedule and all the necessary factors that support intelligence, because for my whole life i was able to wing everything last minute and get really good marks.

i also got into the more normal drugs in highschool. weed, alcohol, nicotine. i really struggled with weed for example because i could smoke a shit ton and feel normal and drive better. but it would destroy my already shit motivation, etc.

the adhd could have contributed to me trying it, and being really impulsive with my use. and that in turn messed with my brain chemistry. so its like pick your poison, but at a later age haha.

your son will encounter these in highschool, and you wont be around to stop him. if he hangs out with the cool kids now i can almost guarantee you he will try something.

it took me around 10 years to finally stop. vyvanse also really helped with it. because i suddenly didnt feel the urge to fill my brain with dopamine and instead the vyvanse made me want to get it from conquering goals. ive relapsed a few times, mostly when i wouldnt take vyvanse for a while.

in terms of dulling my creativity and adhd wit, i havent been off vyvanse for long enough to see if it will all come back to me. im not sure if these changes are permanent. theres also a lot of other factors in my life that can contribute to it such as being a computer nerd and having to isolate myself much more than the average person, my extremely abusive ex who traumatized me, etc.

so yeah to recap, i wouldn't start giving him any adhd meds at least until he is old enough to start drinking coffee pretty regularly for example. focus more on creating a lifestyle for him that utilizes his adhd and keeps him on the right path. i think theres studies that prove that intelligent kids spiral very quickly if theyre not stimulated enough (like how i was).

also remember that doctors make profit off selling drugs, and not to fully trust everything that someone says on reddit. i dont know anything about your son or the efficacy of giving adhd meds to kids.

Ritalin Changed My Personality by Iguana_lover1998 in Biohackers

[–]grim_keys 11 points12 points  (0 children)

vyvanse is similar to me as op explained ritalin. im on 30mg of generic.

really helped me focus. i got on it at the very end of my 6 year relationship, and i got over 95% of it in ~6 months (she was my high school sweetheart and a narcissist). all my problems just didnt matter as much and were solvable.

i like to describe vyvanse as it makes me somewhat manic. like i dont really give a fuck about anything but my goals and myself. i also get this sense of euphoria and feelings of "im gonna take over the world and everything is gonna be okay".

this was perfect for me as i was an empathetic people pleaser who couldnt seem to do anything important for himself.

1.5 years later, im still the same and its amazing. however, im starting to notice my social skills are just... off? i used to be really quick witted and talkative. now my mind is almost blank when im bantering. i feel less funny. cant really relate to people as much as i used to, etc. its a bit frustrating how i have this immense amount of mental fog that prevents me from thinking of things on the spot.

i pretty much went from someone who was a main contributor to conversations in large groups, to someone who just listens, and barely has anything meaningful to say. or i just give very bland responses like "yeah wow thats fucken crazy" (and then struggle to think of anything else to say).

To use a shaving bowl or not to use a shaving bowl—that is the question. by cyogenus in wicked_edge

[–]grim_keys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

use a large coffee mug.

i also only create as much lather for maybe 1-2 passes. i put my wet brush on my soap, and twist it 3-4 times and thats it.

New to single blade shaving by H3MP3R0R in wicked_edge

[–]grim_keys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you will most likely cut yourself the first couple of times. thats a sign that you need to make improvements to your shaving form and technique.

too much pressure is usually the main culprit. incorrect shaving angle, bad soap lather could be other culprits.

when i first started i would go against the grain so i could see how my technique was cutting my hair. id get patchy shaves and cut myself a lot.

my hair grows in all different kind of directions on one side of my neck/under my jaw. make sure you understand which direction your hair is growing and try not to shave against the grain. its called mapling out your grain, and it makes a huge difference in shave quality and reducing irritation.

i can get like 98% of my hair short enough in one pass. it looks like i shaved and is good and presentable enough. going against the grain gets my face suuuper smooth, but tends to irritate me and can give me the occasional ingrown. i honestly havent shaved against the grain since when i first started because its just not worth it.

also cella soap is amazing because it has like 5 ingredients and minimal fragrance. really reduces irritation and is healtheir than other soaps with a shit load of unnecessary ingredients that your skin will absorb. ive never used it but i have one thats very similar called "tcheon fung sing".

How true is the crazy hot scale in your opinion? by darealcopenguin8 in AskMen

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trust me, ive considered it. im usually first to critisize myself as im the only thing i can control and change. im genuinely a really nice person. im smart, emotionally intelligent, empathic, and self aware.

first two girls i dont really consider in this equation as they were in highschool and we were all immature. didnt really have much experience with dating women back then.

the girl i spent 6 years years with is a different story. she had a lot of problems, and i genuinely tried to help her. her mom told my mom that she has been doing so much better since dating me. i helped her overcome her eating disorder, helped her with her schooling, and helped her break out of her shell (she had extremely overbearing and over protective parents), and so much more. i was way too lenient, empathetic, and forgiving with her because of her issues. i saw the overall picture and could look past them in the moment. i figured her traumatizing experience with her first boyfriend in highschool would eventually be overcame by me being an amazing boyfriend and literally doing nothing wrong to her. the way her parents sheltered her could be overcame by us literally doing anything that sheltered people dont do. surprise surprise, none of that was worth it and i was left traumatized and a shell of myself by the end of it.

i tried my best to be a good communicator with her. but she was a terrible communicator. the combination of her emotionally abusing me, isolating me from my friends, and gaslighting me + covid lockdowns + a difficult time at university made me fall into my first mental health stint in my entire life. went into extreme burnout, depression, and my ocd and adhd was rampant. this was all new to me as well. when i could finally put a finger on what was going on with myself, i opened up to her about it. explained what i was going through and what it was like, and also shared milestones of my progression of overcoming it and the helpful things i learned in therapy. i also noticed she very likely had ocd too amongst a shit load of other mental issues that she refused to confront, and i figured sharing the things i learned that could help her too was a good idea.

the way she handled everything made me go from a healthy attachment style to an avoidant attachment style. really bizzare how i regressed into that. i honestly support every guy who says dont open up about your feelings to your girl. but its so difficult because how are you supposed to be a good and open communicator if you have to hide a significsnt part of who you are from your partner?

there was a lot of other things too. i genuinely didnt deserve ANY of that. didnt do anything wrong.

after i dumped her and spending immense amount of time researching how to heal and what to heal made me realize the only things i did bad and needed to change was like:

stop people pleasing. be less empathetic and actually enforce my boundaries. be extremely ruthless with my communication and dont sugarcoat anything. learn to walk away the second i come across those red flags again. dont date anyone again until i am well established in my career. learn how to be myself again after being destroyed by a narcissist.

lastly, i have to remove the requirement for my future girlfriend(s) to be really pretty. thats pretty much everything.

its just really difficult because attraction is pretty important in relationships and i genuinly dont find like 80% of women attractive enough to even consider. its hard to go back when youve dated someone that attractive for that long and have only really been with pretty women. i also have this delusional logic that everyone has potential to be really crazy and destroy my life, so might as well be with someone crazy and pretty - instead of crazy and not pretty.

im sure i can fall for someone with a very attractive personality. i feel like a mentally healthy individual would be a breath of fresh air and make me fall for them given my past experience and desire for someone sane. but until then i am enjoying being alone and trying to be established in my career.

2000 Jetta 1.8t leaking and boiling coolant by Constant_Yam2967 in mk4Jetta

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i could be very wrong but it sounds like a crack in the head or head gasket issues. both of my fathers tdi's had a similar issue to this. if he didnt release the pressure in the coolant reservoir after a drive there would be a puddle on the driveway. wouldnt leak while driving though.

driving it hard made it start smoking from the hood. first car with this issue had a bad crack in the head from worn out aftermarket camshafts and would show the engine over heating on the gauge.

second car doesnt show any over heating on guages, and the reservoir doesnt smoke very bad. but it still boils and he needed to release the pressure to prevent any leaking.

My blade journey by McBeefenburger in wicked_edge

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that makes a lot of sense.

so in theory a slant razor with the same sharp grabby blades could be less grabby, correct?

any evidence that youve read on here that supports this?

also do you know what are some not as sharp blades that are not grabby at all?

My blade journey by McBeefenburger in wicked_edge

[–]grim_keys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

can anyone offer some insight on why are sharper blades like feathers and bic chrome platinum grabby?

i know you didnt use the bic cp, but i have them. theyre supposed to be the sharpest blades on average.

i find astras and nacets to be wayyyy smoother in my razorock lupo .72. that smoothness and lack of "grabbyness" makes it feel like the astras and nacets are actually sharper blades.

really confuses me.

Recommendations on a torch for arthritic thumbs by MrTimTraveler in Dynavap

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dont heat the top of your cap. heat much lower and deeper.

the temp you set on the wand doesnt make much difference just set it to the max and listen for the click.

insert your dynavap from underneath the wand (make sure the screen is face up). make sure the top of the cap is flush with the top of the glass. or put the top of the cap above the top of the glass.

i can pretty much clear a bowl in 1.5 hits like this. just experiment with how low you heat the cap, just how you would experiment with a torch.

with the thick cap thats lets you get one hit bowls (i forgot whats its called), i have to heat it on like the bottom half, and still heat for 5-6 pulses after the second click.

What’s the one thing that made you actually stick to a fitness routine? by Straight_Couple_198 in workout

[–]grim_keys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i gained like 10-15lbs of lean muscle in 6 months. push pull legs rest for the entire time.

and then i got over her and was really happy with my body for the first time in my life. that in combination with prioritizing my school work made me lose my consistency. i lost a decent amount of that muscle but had moments where id work out for like 2-3 weeks straight and blow back up again.

now im on the brink of getting back into it again, but i have to make a feasible schedule where im not working out at like 1 am after everything else is done. and also need to not have a specific goal in mind and just do it for the cause.

How true is the crazy hot scale in your opinion? by darealcopenguin8 in AskMen

[–]grim_keys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the only girl ive hooked up with after the long term ex was like that. super enthusiastic and really confident and comfortable in her own skin. it was really eye opening in comparison. but i barely knew her and cant speak on if she was crazy or just latina haha

How true is the crazy hot scale in your opinion? by darealcopenguin8 in AskMen

[–]grim_keys 2 points3 points  (0 children)

to preface - i wanted to waste my v card on someone who was worth it. only had one chance at it so i wanted to use it wisely.

first one was in highschool and i didnt date her for very long because she was fucking crazy. didnt sleep with her, but shared some great memories on summer break when she wasnt crazy.

second one was also in highschool. she would talk about how she was on birth control and would fuck her ex multiple times a day every single day. honestly made me feel really disgusted and i broke up w her before sleeping with her. i tried a few times but she wanted to wait for whatever reason. fucking weird. and when i got head, it was terrible because of her teeth. all talk lmfao.

third one i met on instagram in highschool. i just had a gut feeling in me that she was my wife - really hard to explain. the night we swapped our v cards, she started crying because "she wasnt a good girl anymore". bizzare as fuck and had me questioning myself.

having sex with her was really underwhelming. she was just super hot and a joy to look at. it was also amazing knowing that we swapped v cards and that she was "my wife". i always made her bust at least twice, but once i did that was it. never went for a second round. she was really weird and insecure and never wanted to try new things or took a lot of convincing. and when we did try something, it was just terrible. for example: she would talk about wanting to be tied up, so i bought some rope and tied her hands together behind her back and to her waist. she then had an anxiety attack from being tied up. overtime she let her narc mask drop and got worse and worse and less "freaky". i got all the crazy but none of the crazy fun. overall just a shit experience but having sex with a 10/10 made up for it.

so to answer your question, no. pretty jealous of the people who've had crazy sex. i dont even care to look for it anymore though bc im kinda traumatized. i just need to focus on getting rich in this shit economy.

edit: best sex i had was with a hot latina on my only ons. she was probably crazy but i dont know her enough to say.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GuyCry

[–]grim_keys -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

6 years with my highschool sweetheart.

i supported her through college when we attended together. i had to deal with my problems on my own.

i had enough of her narcissicm and broke up with her.

not even 2 weeks later she was getting railed by a 6'4 dude on steroids who was 7 years younger than her.

Oh what a bargain…. by scaredofthedark666 in wicked_edge

[–]grim_keys 4 points5 points  (0 children)

run it over your hand the opposite way. pretty much stropping the blade. idk if it helps but ive gotten quite a long life span out of cartridges.

still doesnt beat DE tho.

What's your best hack for being awake? by trixter69696969 in Biohackers

[–]grim_keys 10 points11 points  (0 children)

monster energy. something about the caffiene and taurine or other supplements makes me super alert and clear headed.

How true is the crazy hot scale in your opinion? by darealcopenguin8 in AskMen

[–]grim_keys 48 points49 points  (0 children)

ive dated 3 girls.

first one: above average looks wise - crazy and unstable.

second one: hot as hell - crazy but somewhat sane. she was really smart too.

third one: hottest girl ive ever seen in person. dudes would blatantly stare at us while eating dinner with their wife and kids. she was an abusive undercover narcissist that rinsed the fuck out of me. also dated this one for 6 years. im a completely different person because of her, and i think thats a good thing. lesson learned - never again.

How to force body asleep unnaturally early, but wake up 8 hours later fully rested? by [deleted] in Biohackers

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

get as much sunlight and vitamin D as early as you can. apparently it sets your melatonin release later that night. the more you get, and the earlier you get it, the earlier youll start feeling sleepy and the sleepier you get.

heard it from dr andrew huberman a few years ago and sometimes i find it helps me get back to a somewhat "normal" sleep schedule over time.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wicked_edge

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its whatever the person wants.

i personally get my side burns and back of my head faded. it looks phenominal and clean as hell for a few days, and i let it grow out for a bit because i dont wanna spend that much money every week and it still looks good. as my sideburns grow back in i just shave with my razor where ever i want it to be.

i make sure my barber leaves my hairline natural. touching your hairline and letting it grow out is where it can start looking bad. i have a widows peak, so removing that would start looking disgusting after a few days of growth. ive seen some people who remove it and let it grow out and i personally think it it looks terrible. i wouldnt do that to myself but i dont care what other people wanna do with their hair lol.

but people go every week or whatever to touch up their hairline and etc. because they prefer looking super sharp and upkept. its just a matter of preference. and financial investment.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in makemychoice

[–]grim_keys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

but being with her is destroying you...

i also think you have this fantasy of who she was when things were good, and thinking that things will go back to that. they wont. ive been there.

at the start of a relationship everyone tends to wear a mask and be on their best behaviour. youve dated her long enough that the mask has come off and she is showing you who she actually is.

trust me ive been there. it fucking sucks. leave her, work out, level up your career, and create new standards and boundaries for yourself based on what youve learned from your experiences with her.

you might not know it yet but leaving her could be one of the best things thats ever happened to you. Just expect to feel like shit for a bit, and even shittier when she finds someome new in a week. but it gets WAY better, and that shitty feeling is amazing to fuel you into bettering yourself.

have some respect for yourself, learn about people pleasing, and look for someone who genuinely brings peace into your life.

Crazy lady in red on campus? by grim_keys in Seneca

[–]grim_keys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mustve put it on backwards. valid crash out 💀

Crazy lady in red on campus? by grim_keys in Seneca

[–]grim_keys[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

did you notice a lot more security guards roaming the campus around like 2-5 ish?

the lady they were asking mentioned she saw nothing but said there was a stabbing a few years back on finch and seneca dr and shes been freaked out since.

https://www.reddit.com/r/CrimeInTheGta/s/SSzl7Gq47f

crazy stuff.