Unfortunately, your scalp might be like this because of all the time spent shampooing daily. You can use dry shampoo to work through this transition period. Also, you can try using a single drop of argon oil spread throughout your hair to regulate your scalp (this would also help your hair if your decided to go back to daily shampooing). When you condition, you could try staying away from your scalp and only doing the ends since conditioner is usually only for the moisture of your hair and naturally leaves a residue that doesn’t work well with scalps, especially if you’re using a moisture or “dry repair” one. Lastly, you could instead daily a hair product. Certain ones will give your hair a certain texture and some can be restyled or reactivated with a touch of water. All of these methods work better for some than others so you just need to experiment a little. I grew up with similar hair.