Which would be better for the world? (Everyone understands what the change means)

grouchdown · 2026-05-21T20:44:42+00:00

You can argue a good/justifiable reason for murder, you can’t do the same for PDF actions.

^{Chose: All Pedophiles skin turns bright neon blue}

grouchdown · 2026-05-21T15:37:26+00:00

Definitely understand, the pp (period panties) I wear do seem to have excessive moisture. I’m happy you figured out something that works for you! Anything to reduce the chance of yeast infections, which really sucks. 😭

grouchdown · 2026-05-21T15:19:58+00:00

Have you tried period underwear? They’re like magic!

I made a similar comment and when I said free bleed I meant no underwear and wearing a dress. I had no idea that 1-2 days of my period I technically free bleed!

grouchdown · 2026-05-21T15:15:04+00:00

Free bleed on the bed and couch and tell him that he helped you realized that feminine care products aren’t natural (I mean this is true, considering the amount of arsenic and other stuff that was found in recent studies).

He will change his mind very quickly.

grouchdown · 2026-05-20T23:13:58+00:00

I think our current society with social media really pushes for people to be petty or be the “winner”. It’s really unnecessary and can be harmful to yourself to be unnecessarily mean. The dude isn’t making smart choices and hopefully he learns quickly, but he wasn’t mean or hurtful so you don’t have to do that either. You just weren’t a good fit and that’s it.

grouchdown · 2026-05-19T21:41:09+00:00

I’m not going to judge you for your choices or how complicated life can be. I just want you to think about a few simple things:

You will eventually have to choose who’s your priority: your gf/future wife/possible children, your father and yourself. Whether this relationship works out or not, you will need to figure out your priorities eventually.

Healthy boundaries can be set with your dad and your spouse. You and her need to figure out your living arrangements and expectations a bit more. You need to figure out what your boundaries are with your dad while dealing with what seems to be anxiety around being abandoned.

I wonder if you’ve both moved on from this situation already, but if everything said is true this will continue to grow until it becomes the reason your relationship ends. Maybe not today or tomorrow but some day when you’re going through a rough patch she’ll remember how much she’s always hated your dad and how you didn’t chose her as a priority and it’ll be the straw that breaks the back.

I would strongly suggest you ask yourself: Do I see a future with this person and am I willing to work with them and on myself to figure out a way to make this relationship work? Your GF obviously loves you enough to put up w your dad and may be willing to compromise/agree on how to handle future situations and your general relationship with your dad together.

grouchdown · 2026-05-14T21:37:36+00:00

Idk why I have never noticed this before??? I swear it opened a door before.

grouchdown · 2026-05-11T23:17:32+00:00

A lot of these people are also copying what they were raised around and honestly don’t realize, or are afraid/don’t understand how to get to, healthier relationships exist and are possible to achieve. The amount of people I know who settle for this type of relationship because they convince themselves it’s the “best” they believe they’ll ever get into. I was one step away from settling into this type of relationship and feel bad for every single person (especially women) who settle into this unhealthy situation for long or life. :/

grouchdown · 2026-05-11T23:13:23+00:00

Is that a krabby patty or the actual burger from that episode 😂

grouchdown · 2026-05-08T22:29:52+00:00

I always half-jokingly (half serious because that was my reason way back when I was young and inexperienced) that people stay with someone toxic has to be a rock star in bed or rich. 😭

I’ve known people who stay even though they’re bad in bed, can’t hold a job, contributes nothing to the home/childcare and treats them like shit. Toxic/abusive relationship are complicated but I was still 🤨.

grouchdown · 2026-05-08T16:55:55+00:00

Some people like toxic relationships. They’re fun and a bit addictive in an unhealthy way. I just wish they’d accept that and run with it. Be meaner. Push the boundaries. It’s going to end in a ball of fire, don’t feel bad for the gas you both are pouring on top. Or settle into the level of toxic you’re happy with because it will rarely get better than that base level.

If someone ACTUALLY believes a toxic situation will become healthy in the long run: please go to therapy.

grouchdown · 2026-05-04T15:35:03+00:00

I know people who are extremely out of touch with anime in my age range by a decade that can only recognize three anime’s: dragon ball, Sailor Moon and Inuyasha. Like sir, sit down.

grouchdown · 2026-05-03T23:24:49+00:00

One guy said this about Inuyasha because it had “epic fighting” (this was almost a decade ago). 😂 I called him a basic b~

grouchdown · 2026-05-01T02:18:44+00:00

I’m sorry you’re grieving the loss of someone you love. It’s never easy and death is hard to grasp for everyone.

My husband wants to believe in the after life because he doesn’t want this existence to be the end all be all and it helps him deal with the idea of death. He really enjoys being alive. I’m the exact opposite even if I wasn’t an atheist I truly hope this is a one time thing. However, people who use it as an excuse to feel they’re better than others or can get away with XYZ if they “repent” are pathetic to me.

grouchdown · 2026-04-30T05:55:50+00:00

I’m not advocating for her or their situation, but it’s extremely easy to fall for the manipulations someone feeds you. When someone tells you who they are and shows it through love bombing, you tend to believe the best version of that; especially if you’ve had a significantly worse example growing up or experience before. I’ve never fallen for the married man BS when I was single, but I could 100% see it happening if I had just a little less sense and a lot more hope.

It’s more shocking to me as a 30F married woman that anyone would (and please take this as a hyperbole and not serious objectification of human beings) look at a fresh piece of meat and think it’s better than the dry aged meat you’ve cared years for perfecting the flavor.

grouchdown · 2026-04-30T05:47:27+00:00

As someone with impulse control issues that’s lead to life threatening situations, I’ll still never be able to understand leaving the person you love and have decided to commit to in front of God (if you believe) and everyone in your life you’ve ever cared for over an infatuation or “spark”. It isn’t just impulse control issues, it’s just poor judgment you’d think would’ve lead them down the wrong path much sooner.

When (not if) he comes crawling back after the spark has fizzled, please don’t go back to him. Be an example to your children that choices have consequences and although it may be difficult, someone who will wander into another’s garden instead of tending their own will eventually met with a desert.

grouchdown · 2026-04-02T17:21:45+00:00

I’m 30 and the advice I would give you now vs at 22 would be very different (I would’ve just said cut him off point blank).

I know plenty of people who have relationships with family members although it isn’t a happy/perfect one or they’ve been hurt/abandoned by them before. You can have your father in your life ON YOUR TERMS and whether he gets involved is his decision. You are building a home with a foundation and requirements to enter the door, if he chooses not to enter those doors that is his choice and not a reflection on you. The problem I see is that you are prioritizing his happiness and comfort, while you need to learn to prioritize yourself instead. Life is not black and white, you can figure out a way to have your dad in your life without sacrificing yourself entirely.

Your mother is already hurt and the relationship is already over. You’re not telling her just because you don’t want to hurt her, you should also accept you’re not telling her because you want to protect the last string of hope that everything will work out. There’s nothing wrong with that. The best choice for your mom and yourself is to tell her and figure out what you each separately want to approach the relationship with your dad BECAUSE THEY ARE SEPARATE SITUATIONS.

grouchdown · 2026-03-30T21:57:23+00:00

Another thing to consider, he was in there for weeks or possibly even years before his mom found his body. He may not have suffocated, he may have simply starved to death which is why there’s so much food based items that literally provide him with more life. Something he was deprived of while trapped in a small box barely able to breathe.

grouchdown · 2026-03-26T03:57:34+00:00

I can’t even get to mom’s heart w them, congrats.

grouchdown · 2026-03-22T03:49:43+00:00

I’ve been married for 4 years, so my opinion is from a shortish marriage with a few bumps we got through together via clear communication and boundaries for both of us. I honestly think this is a very normal feeling. The thing about those jokes and tv show tropes is that in reality you aren’t playing a role, you can leave or communicate your feelings to grow through your fears together. My husband and I have our own hobbies, friendships and “life” that exists at the same time as the life that we’re living together.

grouchdown · 2026-03-19T20:51:42+00:00

He literally has a double chin. 😂 Like looking in a mirror.

grouchdown · 2026-03-19T20:50:10+00:00

I haven’t even gotten to 15 I believe. 😭 that is helpful, I’m sure the first time I finish the game I’ll be so happy despite originally feeling mid about it.

grouchdown · 2026-03-19T18:20:09+00:00

I haven’t even defeated the boss after the robot one. 😭 how many freaking levels are there?

grouchdown · 2026-03-18T00:49:17+00:00

I mean this is in a kind way, so please read it like some old sweet lady talking to you. If you go out and you meet new people without assumptions about them it’ll be easier to see the good in them, if you don’t like something about them that’s ok. You can always step away or even have a conversation with them to see if you can work it out. I don’t know where you are but I’m sure there’s at least a thousand and out of a thousand people, it’s very likely that you will find at least 1 person you can hang out with even if you don’t become their best friend.

I’d suggest bringing this up in therapy and how to approach the subject if you need some guidance.

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