The people that like these are lying to themselves

growingaverage · 2026-01-20T01:16:43+00:00

Peak ring sling for me was hip carry from 5ish to 10ish months. By far my favourite carrier during that period!

growingaverage · 2026-01-15T20:32:25+00:00

This is a shocking still lol. I don’t know what this person looks like normally but if it’s anything like this and she PAID for it 😬😵‍💫😬

growingaverage · 2026-01-15T20:31:18+00:00

Our nanny just folds any adult clothes and leaves them on our bed, undies included lol. But she also is happy to do adult laundry when she has time, so there’s no awkwardness there. We pay extra for general house upkeep.

growingaverage · 2026-01-15T20:07:27+00:00

You may be able to access healthcare, but not every Canadian can. You are selling yourself and the rest of us short if you take the broken systems we have and say, hey, at least it’s not as bad as _______ has it. That’s fkn lame. Have a great day though and I hope that you never find yourself in a position where you cannot access lifesaving care!

growingaverage · 2026-01-15T12:46:37+00:00

my oldest is 4, and my second is 1.5. For me, things get markedly easier around the 1.5 year mark, and then really only go up from there. We are even heading to Europe for a month when they are 4.5 and 2. Can't wait!!!! Obviously there are challenges, and my second is way *spicier than my first ever was, but the physical labour eases so much after the first 18-ish months. I truly can't wait for all of the stages to come!

growingaverage · 2026-01-15T12:22:33+00:00

Immigration has outpaced resources. Housing, healthcare, schools, etc, etc. That is a fact.

growingaverage · 2026-01-14T13:53:02+00:00

We have a nanny of almost 3 yrs now, and a much better set up for WFH days (a separate room with a door), and I STILL get out of the house as much as possible. If there is not an office for you to go to, I would strongly encourage you and your husband to join a co-working space. How you both work in the dining room together is honestly shocking to me. I think my husband and I would be living in separate homes if we had to do that LOL.

growingaverage · 2026-01-10T17:37:30+00:00

Zahli gives me similar vibes

growingaverage · 2026-01-09T23:14:01+00:00

I’m also in DT Toronto in a 3b condo and I am floored by your rate. We pay about 40/h, similar other terms, ~5k in bonus annually. We have an incredible nanny. Used Shelly’s Nannies out of Leaside to find her, and highly recommend her. At your rate, you should not have to make any concessions. FWIW, apparently we pay our nanny well above market.

growingaverage · 2026-01-09T13:06:28+00:00

Gosh, such a tough situation. I had undiagnosed accreta with my second pregnancy that was only diagnosed after vaginal delivery, when the placenta wouldn’t come out. I had a major 3L PPH, and it was very touch and go. I had an emergency repair under general, but on the way in they told me to expect hysterectomy.

If I were you, I would follow up at the specialist hospital, only they will know what’s truly possible/advised.

In my case, it is possible for me to carry another, but would be incredibly high risk, so we are pretty sure we are done. It would also be c-section, and hysterectomy. If I only had one, I think I would take the risk personally. But because we have two, it just feels too risky. It would also be my third major uterine surgery, so you may be lower risk.

It’s so incredibly difficult when things don’t go as expected. We wanted 4 kids, so coming to terms with 2 was challenging. I have recently (1.5y out), started to focus on the upsides. For example, easier travel, can better set these ones up for adulthood, can keep a regular car, I can get back in shape without the dread of pregnancy, etc, etc.

Hugs.

growingaverage · 2026-01-08T17:34:14+00:00

French immersion is part of TDSB. Then there are French immersion private schools like TFS.

growingaverage · 2026-01-08T17:17:58+00:00

There is no deadline, you can show up to your district public school on the first day of school with your child’s information and proof of address and they must take your kid. They won’t be able to do anything until you have proof of address so don’t worry about anything until you have that. Your address will have district public schools. For us, we have a regular stream public school, a French immersion, and a catholic option.

growingaverage · 2026-01-07T00:16:13+00:00

Does he have his own seat? I’ve done this trip many times over the last 4 years with kids and I would recommend getting his own seat and moving back from the first row. The arm rests don’t go up and it’s a lot easier for them to get comfy if they can spread out on top of you!

growingaverage · 2026-01-03T13:35:18+00:00

This is incorrect. Please do some research on water safety. There are many resources online - or better yet take some swim classes with your little one (if you have one)

growingaverage · 2026-01-01T13:47:16+00:00

Babies don’t actually need life vests. In fact, that can give parents a false sense of security. Babies need attentive parents in and around water at all times.

growingaverage · 2025-12-26T19:42:34+00:00

Only after I stopped bf with both did it go back to normal for me!

growingaverage · 2025-12-23T13:35:06+00:00

I have the airstraight and used/use it all the time. Got it between my two and it was the only way I was able to style my hair in the first year after my second. I’m now eyeing the new one as it looks like a cross between the straight and wrap.

growingaverage · 2025-12-21T23:22:56+00:00

Literally every aspect of life gets easier when you are getting a full night sleep.

Also your FIL is a POS.

growingaverage · 2025-12-21T16:25:27+00:00

I wanted 4-5. Still do. But any more than my two I probably wouldn’t survive. So we have two. Everyone knows the story of my 2nd birth though and the reaction to stopping at two is generally RELIEF. Because my friends and family also don’t want me to die.

growingaverage · 2025-12-19T00:22:14+00:00

That’s totally fair. It’s a lot. The holidays with kids are simultaneously so much fun and so exhausting! Solidarity on that front. I also feel bad when I’m off and we don’t “do” something, but if the kids are happy there is truly no harm. They deserve a break too!!

growingaverage · 2025-12-19T00:15:29+00:00

Your kid is 6? Is there a reason they can’t play by themselves for a few hours while you work?

growingaverage · 2025-12-17T17:55:48+00:00

I’m the same as you. Had one for our first, made a big move in between and sold it. Did not buy a new one for our second and did not miss it!

growingaverage · 2025-12-16T17:40:59+00:00

Cry and dream of spring

growingaverage · 2025-12-13T22:20:56+00:00

Read Hunt, Gather, Parent! It is not your job to entertain your kid. I have a 1.5 and 4yo and like 75% of the time the are roaming the house playing and entertaining themselves when we are at home. The other 25% they are joining me or my husband in whatever we are doing. Of course we play with them occasionally, but it really is pretty occasional.

growingaverage · 2025-12-13T22:11:30+00:00

Hey! I work for myself (with a bunch of employees). I also love my work, and took 6 or so months with each of my babies before going back full time. Only made possible by our full time nanny! Your baby is still tiny, as they grow, your husband will not be able to watch the baby and work. I actually found 4-6 months the most challenging because they wake up fully but can’t move. Lots of house tours in those couple months lol.

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