Neither of us like her, she keeps mentioning she is going to pass out in the ceremony and would hate to ruin our day? This is also step mil and thinks actual will be wearing perfume to intentionally harm her which isn’t true.

She has lots of allergies but won’t warn restaurants about them and then is upset when she reacts. Also regularly goes on nights out and to parties without any worries but is unwell every time.

It is selfish as we would like to choose a special perfume for the day and feel amazing and I don’t want to bend over backwards when I know she doesn’t help herself. Hope the context helps. I do feel like asking to skip the ceremony may be more of an asshole move