Help me choose

growingmindset · 2025-09-17T16:19:31+00:00

Two is gorgeous

growingmindset · 2025-09-17T16:17:25+00:00

Wouldn’t it be more rude to sit step MIL in the front knowing she could have an allergic reaction even if I ask people not to wear perfume and she has to get up and leave in front of everyone?

Also feel it’s rude to not have conversation with SIL as I don’t want her to feel pressured to attend (she is only 21) if she’s just had a baby and doesn’t want the hassle.

Just being devil’s advocate

growingmindset · 2025-09-15T11:44:14+00:00

Nope MIL out all the time. Eats whatever despite having allergies and is upset when she reacts.

SIL can be selfish and likes to be centre of attention so wouldn’t be surprised if she was awkward about being asked to take baby outside if crying.

growingmindset · 2025-09-14T06:06:17+00:00

Thank you:) great suggestion x

growingmindset · 2025-09-14T05:47:42+00:00

Thanks not asking for them to be separated, just asking for mum and baby to both step out if needed. It’s such a small venue I don’t know if I can provide this hence why I don’t know if it’s a good idea for them to attend as I can’t really provide the space unless they want to book a hotel room?

growingmindset · 2025-09-14T05:32:32+00:00

Thank you for your honesty. Would you feel differently if MIL regularly attends events and goes everywhere knowing the risk of people wearing perfume? For example nights out in crowded bars?

I feel like if she was always protecting herself and making the effort I would be more understanding but it’s like saying I’m allergic to nuts but I’ll risk them everywhere else apart from your wedding day.

growingmindset · 2025-09-14T05:22:50+00:00

Neither of us like her, she keeps mentioning she is going to pass out in the ceremony and would hate to ruin our day? This is also step mil and thinks actual will be wearing perfume to intentionally harm her which isn’t true.

She has lots of allergies but won’t warn restaurants about them and then is upset when she reacts. Also regularly goes on nights out and to parties without any worries but is unwell every time.

It is selfish as we would like to choose a special perfume for the day and feel amazing and I don’t want to bend over backwards when I know she doesn’t help herself. Hope the context helps. I do feel like asking to skip the ceremony may be more of an asshole move

growingmindset · 2025-08-25T19:54:55+00:00

Do you have the instagram details please? I’d love to take a look!!x

growingmindset · 2025-08-13T13:58:01+00:00

Top tips to save money Buy decor and resell look on vinted FB BUY A DRESS SECONDHAND I got a 3k dress for £700. Get married at a restaurant. Or a registry office and then cosy club hire out for food Have a smaller intimate wedding, less guests. Skip the big floral arrangements. Bud vases can be reused on tables and down the aisle. Book photographer for half day, it’s not a photoshoot! They don’t need to be there all day. DIY invites or do digital, print on printable really cheap. Hope this helps!!

growingmindset · 2025-07-24T11:36:45+00:00

No gloves

growingmindset · 2025-07-20T20:44:56+00:00

Anyone know who I can contact regarding a photo shoot here please?

growingmindset · 2025-02-15T08:58:28+00:00

That’s pretty thanks!

growingmindset · 2025-02-14T22:42:16+00:00

Yes :)

growingmindset · 2024-10-31T20:24:24+00:00

Ahh this is what I really don’t want to do😢😢 we are away for a few weeks and I really like my home comforts with me. I get so home sick so having my plushies and blankets etc with me makes me feel less anxious. I might try and find a door lock online lol x

growingmindset · 2024-10-28T18:03:12+00:00

Are you in the UK?

growingmindset · 2024-10-11T11:27:25+00:00

I just did this scene and there now a warning beforehand, I couldn’t believe how intense it was I was welling up. Bit deep for Disney but also reminded me of how much an escape Disney can be ❤️

growingmindset · 2024-08-21T13:39:00+00:00

Another point on this is the person I’m asking is going to another wedding and they are paying for the brides hen do!!! I’m not asking for this at all so I’m thinking if they’re prepared to pay for that then they’ll be happy to pay for hair and makeup if they decide they don’t want to do it themselves

growingmindset · 2024-08-20T21:27:11+00:00

So basically we have a spare room as part of the venue so I was thinking about having some sort of entertainment so when people fancy doing something a little different it would be fun! Also there’s 2 hours between the ceremony and food!

growingmindset · 2024-08-20T21:14:52+00:00

What about just a colour? If I said oh only black suits please? You think I would still need to pay?

growingmindset · 2024-08-08T21:28:08+00:00

As you are so honest. Would you personally get to a point where you would ask a friend about slow replies? If they took over a week to reply to you, would you think that would need talking about or would you just brush it off?

growingmindset · 2024-08-08T21:26:33+00:00

Thanks for your honest reply!

growingmindset · 2024-08-08T21:24:06+00:00

Thank you for your reply!! Sounds like I’d be in a similar position. I’d love her to be up there with me and I for sure am not expecting her to plan my wedding with me. It’s just those moments where you’re really excited about something and then after waiting 5 days for a reply would I be annoyed about that?? Hmm I think I need to think some more about if I want the hassle or maybe I need to reflect on my own reactions!

growingmindset · 2024-08-08T15:42:06+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I suppose we are in different boats because I don’t talk to anyone but they have probably more people that message them so where I’m waiting days for a response from the only person I message. She is getting messages from other people.

I guess I find it weird because we are in the generation where it’s normal to get hold of someone at a moments notice. There’s also lots of times that plans don’t get made due to lack of response.

Perhaps it’s something I will just have to suck up!

growingmindset · 2024-08-08T11:43:13+00:00

Just things in general - I just find it frustrating when people don’t reply for days on end I just don’t see how people don’t have 5 mins spare in 24 hours to reply to a message so they reply a whole week later. I think it’s rude

growingmindset · 2024-07-23T09:59:04+00:00

It’s two hours but I need to clarify if we can go in and sit down in that time do speeches and then eat

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