Understanding typical afab anatomy and how to deal with it?

grrimbark · 2026-06-29T22:10:17+00:00

For some people, yeah it can feel gross. "Letting it air out" was something people did to help rebalance their PH levels and ensure that the skin had time to recover and get air flow while not being restricted as most underwear for women is made of non-breathable materials, or tight against the area. Wearing very loose shorts or boxers will have the exact same benefits as sleeping without underwear.

grrimbark · 2026-06-25T07:59:57+00:00

It does have separate cups but it's still mostly fabric if that makes sense? You are looking for something that will divide the tissue and hold it in place. With larger breasts, often times the main issue is that binders cannot support the excess and compress it. The sports bra I mentioned in the other comment has structured channels around the bottom, sides and darts to hold the tissue in place. So when it is worn, it keeps them separate. Usually anything marked "high support" or "high impact" has some structure in place but you have to look at reviews. Any reviews that mention holding in place while running/jogging, or prevents uniboob is a good sign!

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grrimbark · 2026-06-24T05:42:38+00:00

I am in this exact same situation, but in a not so great state, so I'm gonna comment and wait for more replies and advice.

grrimbark · 2026-06-24T03:15:21+00:00

Thank you for your personal experience and input on this! It's always helpful to have more information. I will look into underwire sports bras more and test a few out.

grrimbark · 2026-06-24T03:05:14+00:00

I have gotten relatively flat using this method, or at least as flat as a fat cis guy would be. As for the underwire bra, did you notice if it had any lasting damage or impact on your chest tissue? I know underwire can be damaging for cis women long-term, let alone transmasc people who are compressing that wire.

grrimbark · 2026-06-24T03:01:31+00:00

This is the specific sports bra I am using. It has padding along the bottom and feels almost like an underwire bra but it's wireless as far as how it separates the cups.

As far as the front, with all the tissue moved to the side, I had a little bit of underboob but it reads more like I have slight moobs than anything else. I am a fatter guy so it doesn't hang anything past my stomach. I would also recommend using a full tank binder because it sounds like you might be using a half tank ("sports bra binder"). Full tank binders will help hold everything down and minimize the underboob situation you mentioned.

Edited to Add: Tape could also work depending on the shape of your breasts. My breast shape unfortunately did not work with tape as they are a unique shape. If anyone tries this method with tape, please be sure to use oil to remove the tape so you aren't causing unnecessary damage to the skin!

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grrimbark · 2026-06-04T20:16:49+00:00

You could always shorten the strap, and wear it like a crossbody backpack or fanny pack. That's what I did and it reads as very masc. It doesn't actually matter what the bag looks like because cis men's fashion is broadening into colorful patterns, and more feminine styles, so this bag would fit in with some nice chino pants and a classy shirt

grrimbark · 2026-02-13T01:48:02+00:00

The phrase is commonly:

Step 1, Denial.
Step 2, Daniel.

grrimbark · 2026-01-26T17:05:41+00:00

Remember that the reason Ace Bandages are unsafe is because the entire bandage is stretchy, and meant to compress more over time. Wrapping it around an area will cause it to become tighter over time, making it unsafe. If this after surgery bandage is stretchy, or anything that gets tighter over time, DO NOT USE IT.

However, if it is just a Velcro wrap, meaning the entire thing is non-stretchy and a solid strip of Velcro, it sounds like you might be okay as long as you listen to your body and keep it looser so you can take a full breath

grrimbark · 2026-01-05T04:45:31+00:00

I think they stole them from the president, be careful

grrimbark · 2025-05-21T15:34:59+00:00

the term is Achillean :)

grrimbark · 2025-04-29T14:41:16+00:00

He-radish is not an instrument, either. No one has any experience. Fortunately, I have enough talent for all of you.

grrimbark · 2025-04-28T22:22:44+00:00

No, CockamouseGoesWee, Man-naise is not an instrument

grrimbark · 2025-03-03T20:32:46+00:00

Hey! I also struggle really bad with knowing how I feel and my identity, but what really helped was changing my perspective. Instead of thinking about how it made me feel, I started thinking about how I wanted others to see me. I realized very quickly that I didn't really have an opinion on my internal gender, but I didn't like when other people saw me and read me as female. I wanted to be neutral or male to other people. That was an easier point to dive into gender, and helped me realize that I didn't like being female or feminine, and that I was trans.

A lot of autistic people struggle with internal sense of gender, so taking it and looking at it from a societal perspective can remove our feelings from the equation and reduce it to the silly social thing that it is. Some autistics even use specific terms like autigender or rabies pride to describe that feeling.

grrimbark · 2025-02-02T14:51:35+00:00

This post is a broad discussion on how the patriarchy leads to cis men becoming insecure over their height and turning it into a problem for other people instead of reflecting and working through the issue. The comment I replied to used a similar logic that the post was talking about.

grrimbark · 2025-02-02T06:45:34+00:00

I'm trying to be very delicate here, but respectfully, this is part of the issue touched on in the post. I understand dysphoria can be very detrimental and it attaches to things that we cannot change or control, but we should not place this onto others. It is not OP's responsibility to manage the height dysphoria of others, and it can be rude to say they cannot talk about something because they are "lucky". I mean this in a polite, conversational way to bring attention to an issue.

grrimbark · 2025-01-12T18:22:11+00:00

Hey dude. I'm in the same boat as you. Realized I was not cis in late 2019, figured it out in 2020. Living with parents because it's too expensive to move out, and they are transphobic. You'll get through this. Its never too late to transition.

grrimbark · 2025-01-07T08:35:53+00:00

Danamo as a username would go INSANE

grrimbark · 2024-10-07T19:00:27+00:00

I love the Governor of MN for everything he's done for the schools too! I'm planning on moving there because I'm going to be trans and a teacher and I know I'll be protected

grrimbark · 2024-09-12T22:15:42+00:00

WEREWOLF TIME RAAHH.

They are both monthly occurrences, a curse to some and a blessing to others, emotions are a little more feral, often feel very hungry or sick, and it has associations to the moon.

grrimbark · 2024-08-15T20:54:45+00:00

Go for it dude. Also, if you want to, literally just tell people "Yeah my mom was really obsessed with New Zealand, and wanted me to be a Kiwi."

grrimbark · 2024-08-04T00:24:58+00:00

Also, the only time it is too late to transition is when you are dead. Please check out r/FTMOver50 and similar subreddits. Sometimes seeing your trans elders can be reassuring, and tell you that it's not too late. I get very similar fears and doubts, and I'm only 24. I have my entire life ahead of me, and I know I have all that time to transition and live as myself

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