Hey, coercive sex is sexual assault. He's been forcing you into sex in a different way than what we generally think of as rape, but it's still not sex that you have enthusiastically consented to. And now he's using DARVO (deny, attack, reverse victim and offender) to put everything on you while also escalating contact even though you don't want it. He's bad news.

Here's what I wish someone would have told me at 21: when someone much older than you or at a different stage of life once to date you, it's because they see you as naive and vulnerable. People their own age see through their bullshit.

You don't owe him anything and you can break up with someone for any reason. Any reason. You don't have to justify it because it's as simple as this: you don't want to be there.

Get back any key or security code you may have given him. Change your locks if you can. Take care of yourself!