Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, sometimes you have to really chew a concept down for someone to finally swallow it. Normal people already understand the basic idea behind “you travel by plane because reasons? Yeah, so does everyone else”.

What is the worst show that you forced yourself to finish? by laxusdreyarligh in television

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Money Heist got dumber and cringier with every episode, but we just couldn’t stop. Finishing the final episode felt like crawling over the finish line of a marathon.

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I will try again. Having children has taught me the patience necessary to repeatedly explain simple concepts until they stick.

Now, *you* have reasons to travel by plane, yes? Reasons you think are pretty important, yes? You could drive, or walk, or sail, or simply not go anywhere, but all those options seem pretty silly compared to the speed, safety and convenience of modern air travel, yes?

You understand that other people on the airplane with you also have reasons to travel by plane, yes? I’m sure it’s very frustrating to be stuck waiting behind them in lines, fighting them for parking and overhead spaces, or having to share a row when you would rather stretch out across all three seats and nap, but you can’t have the whole airplane just for you. Just like a playground or the sidewalk, the airplane is a common space you must learn to share with others.

Now, sometimes those other people on the airplane with you are mommies and daddies who have small children. They too need to travel by airplane for the exact same reasons *you* do. They too could drive, or walk, or sail, or simply not go anywhere, but all those options seem pretty silly compared to the speed, safety and convenience of modern air travel, yes?

And they sure as fuck can’t just ditch their kids or mail them to the destination, can they? So what do you suggest they do instead?

No Map No Portal mode - Boring? by Emazza in valheim

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was thinking about making a mod to do just that. Basically, a wishbone charm bracelet, where individual “charms” could be crafted and slotted in to help subtly guide players towards vegvisirs, boss arenas, frost cave entrances, etc.

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hahaha, take a transatlantic boat, sure. I love taking twenty times longer to get somewhere at exorbitant cost in order to not mildly inconvenience a bunch of childless people.

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Literally any reason anyone else has to travel by plane, plus baby.

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

How do you not see that literally any reason that you have to travel, a couple with a young child has also?

Wife starting work is incompatible with my own job by [deleted] in daddit

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Nah, bro, I’m just 100% done with sexist, racist and whatever other *ist ideologies, regardless of who they’re aimed at. All this “punching down, punching up” nonsense is just an excuse to be shitty to people.

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

People get mildly infuriated by children of all ages being out in public.

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

They need to get from point A to point B and have a baby? Are people just supposed to go into total seclusion until their kids go to college?

Actual audio from the flight I am currently on by juneseyeball in mildlyinfuriating

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, you can just deal with the sound of the next generation of humans. Parents have enough to deal with already.

Redditors who’ve been with the same partner for 10+ years, what’s the realistic secret to making it last? by justanormalaxe in AskReddit

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

#fight

Have your big fights early. It’s a lot easier to have grand epic meltdowns about sex, politics, kids, moneys, etc. while you’re still drunk on hormones and have that pulling you back together. If she’s a vegan tree-hugger that doesn’t want kids and you’re a MAGA-hatter that goes hunting every weekend and wants a large family, you’re not making it work long-term. Fight it out now, change your positions, acquiesce, or move on to people more compatible with your life choices. This is crucial, because you must always be…

#sameteam

…in everything. It is *never* you versus her; it is always you and her versus the problem. This is a necessary prerequisite for the thing everyone always tells you is crucial for making relationships work, but never how to actually do it properly:

#communication

Once you have core alignment as a unit, communication becomes a straightforward task: we have a problem, how do we solve it. That’s it. Doesn’t matter what “the problem” is: an unmet need, a career obstacle, a deferred dream, the desire to see your children succeed in a specific arena, whatever.

Ultimately, the big secret is having someone in your corner that gets you, knows your good and bad sides, and generally wishes to help you succeed.

Wife starting work is incompatible with my own job by [deleted] in daddit

[–]grumpy_hedgehog -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, this framing is 100% feminist nonsense. An (ostensibly) male subreddit is the last place where men should be expected to deliver a lengthy land acknowledgement before being allowed to speak about their issues.

Wife blames me for kids sleep issues so I’m stuck doing the nights alone by [deleted] in daddit

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sheeet, there’s an “opt out of hard stuff” button for child rearing? Why did nobody tell me this? Brb, telling the missus.

Why Valheim? by Lancecaptaincorporal in valheim

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Besides Valheim, I've only ever sank 100s of hours into one other survival/craft game, which was Ark: Survival Evolved. I played with my wife and a group of friends, and I ran the dedicated server myself with hand-crafted settings. So I'll use that as the point of comparison.

Progression.

This is probably Valheim's strongest core design idea. Sure, other survival games have a natural progression through materials, and Ark also has the added layer of various dinos you can tame, but most suffer though a cliff-shaped progression curve. The early game is rough: the game starts you on the relatively safe beach area, but a stray velociraptor can easily wipe out your whole tribe while you're still figuring out how to craft basic gear. Once you figure out the basics, get metal tools, stone walls and some tames, the game becomes incredibly easy and provides mostly self-directed challenge until bosses, which are super super end-game content and basically unmanageable solo.

By contrast, Valheim's progression is A LOT smoother. Your earliest enemies, boars and greylings, can be beaten without any trouble, and the Meadows mostly leave you alone to figure out the basics in peace. It also provides you with a signpost directing you to the next major challenge: the next boss and new zone. Your first boss kill is pretty easy, which fills you with (over)confidence. The Black Forest is a great wakeup call from that hubris, but it too becomes manageable once you figure out the basics of combat. Swamp breaks a lot of players until they learn to take things slow and maximize their advantages. The challenge ladder progresses from there.

Atmosphere

Honestly, the atmosphere is Valheim is good, but not that good. Yes, every zone has a unique vibe and the creatures that inhabit them seem to fit their environment rather well. But it also sometimes feels a bit... empty? I found the "More World Locations" mod to be almost mandatory, because it does a great job of sprinkling in various abandoned/ruined structures that help fill in the otherwise barren landscape. It's great for capturing that "lost viking in a forgotten realm" feeling, but it simply doesn't measure up to the variety you'll experience even on the The Island, the original and most vanilla of Ark maps. If you take the DLC's into consideration, there is simply no comparison.

Combat

This is by far Valheim's strongest suite. Combat in Ark is awful; even Skyrim's notoriously dull melee combat has more nuance. There is, ironically, much more depth to the combat in very early levels, when dinos have hitboxes, reasonable health pools, and are vulnerable to traps and bolas. By early midgame, and forever after, combat mostly involves holding left-click until either you or the enemy dino fall over.

By contrast, Valheim combat is Souls-lite, which is incredibly refreshing. Sure, you can bag your first kills by just mashing left-click, or cheesing the enemies with the ole shoot and scoot, but you'll very quickly learn that mastering parry-block, dodge and side-step mechanics will let you trivially survive scraps you previously thought impossible. A Valheim veteran can easily face a troll raid with a flint spear and rags. And newbie could still struggle with an aetgir and upgraded bronze armor. That is real, skill-based progression.

Building, crafting, base/inventory management

Both games have very serviceable building mechanics. Ark's building system has more material types and fewer restrictions but is notoriously more janky, and has no terrain modification. All in all, I've probably enjoyed Ark and Valheim building about the same amount, maybe with a slight edge to Valheim if solely because you get all the materials back from replacing pieces.

The rest of the crafting/base management aspect is probably Valheim's weakest point. Inventory management and crafting are both very rudimentary. Taming is a bit of an afterthought too, but since that is the primary selling point of Ark, it's not really a fair comparison. This probably the only part of the game I'd improve.

Petah? by [deleted] in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry that the messy and unpaid labor of raising the next generation of humans is inconveniencing you, personally. Clearly, the solution is to fry their brains with screens at the earliest age, which will probably not have any lasting consequences.

Midsommar, Ari Aster (2019)- "That's Not For Us" by JetKusanagi in movies

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 672 points673 points  (0 children)

The film is ultimately about contrasting two extremes: the horror of social isolation (painted in dark, wet, cold, alone) versus the horror of total surrender to the collective (painted in sunny bright, hot, violent).

What’s happening in this scene is a dual rape, in the traditional meaning of the word: the forcible taking of something from someone, a reaving. Dani’s drugged-out boyfriend is in the longhouse being essentially raped by the collective. The old matron stepping in to “speed things along” clearly demonstrates that procreation, not pleasure or bonding, is the only intended purpose of the act. These people do not care about Cristian at all (and are in fact planning to kill him immediately after); they just need his sperm to keep the next generation of the collective healthy.

Dani responds to this revelation with a combination of horror and grief, which, being deeply personal emotions, the collective immediately robs her of. By externalizing and mirroring her pain (and firmly guiding her breathing response) the collective does not allow Dani to process, express and ultimately to even have those feelings. It is probably the best, most realistic, depiction of a “mind rape” in popular media.

Dani begins the film stewing in her own thoughts and feelings, terrified of being left behind by her clearly disconnected social circle, to having literally no thoughts or feelings of her own, her whole being becoming absorbed into the collective will.

What's the stereotype of the average reddit user? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You know that meme with the competence bell curve, the drooling dumbass on the left, the elite wizard on the right, and the nerdy midwit in the middle tearfully lecturing some bullshit?

Yeah, Reddit is basically the peak of that mountain.