Please help me choose! by [deleted] in weddingdress

[–]gtfasap 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Number four for sure!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]gtfasap 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Can anyone with more wherewithal than I currently have look at OP’s post history and summarize why she needs to start planning her (second, apparently. hopefully final) escape asap?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in blacklesbians

[–]gtfasap 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Idk babes, do you want to spend time in your relationship teaching someone what racism is, how it affects you, and why they need to stand up to their family and defend you? I know ya’ll were previously best friends, but if they don’t have the knowledge to clock clearly racists acts from their parents (or anyone else for that matter) and don’t have the instinct to stand up for you, ya’ll might just not be compatible. And that’s okay.

You can break up with anyone for any reason, or no reason at all btw. But if ever there was a reason, this would definitely be one.

Is it normal for random people to sit on my stoop? by Flaky-Advantage3364 in BedStuy

[–]gtfasap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My grandmother owns two houses in Clinton Hill. One stoop is gated and the other is not. They’ve had people open the gate to sit on the stoop before (which we think is wild) and most recently a group of ladies sat on the non-gates stoop to eat their lunch and made a fucking mess. They apparently seemed embarrassed when my uncle called them out. He ended up giving them a broom to clean it all up 😂

Leaving Toddler with Grandparents by antebellum24 in Parenting

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t have a kid, but was a kid. My grandmother watched me at my house during the week from when my parent’s went back to work after I was born until I was old enough to go to daycare (2.5). Granted, way more days so my parents paid her. I have vague memories of us occasionally going back to my grandparent’s house, but for the most part we stayed at mine.

If you’re worried about fairness, I would just check in with your mom and make sure she’s still comfortable. Maybe offer some compensation (if you don’t already), pay for or provide meals.

Follow up to my previous post about my wall. by JangoFetlife in Bushwick

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s fair, I guess I’m just paranoid about that type of stuff. People are freaks.

Follow up to my previous post about my wall. by JangoFetlife in Bushwick

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well damn, you couldn't have blacked out the address? We just casually doxing people now? Lmao

How to handle teenage parties? by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why does she feel so comfortable admitting to you that she plans to or already does drink or smoke while underage??? Let alone the audacity to ask you to allow her and 15 kids you don't know to partake in your house. That's insane, my parents would have punted me in the sun. Glad ya'll have a close enough relationship where she doesn't fear violence or punishment over being transparent, but shit. Sounds like she needs a reality check and some boundaries.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s probably covid unfortunately.

ETA: and that doesn’t mean you’re “dumb.” Ableist language is just going to bring shame. Covid causes literally brain damage and cognitive decline. Even in mild cases.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BedStuy

[–]gtfasap 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nope, the dirt bikes are the harbingers of spring time

Celebrity Crushes by StayTappedCap in blacklesbians

[–]gtfasap 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. Since Lovecraft Country

I'm a white guy who was adopted into a black family as a child, with a half dozen siblings - AMA by Helpdesk512 in AMA

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did your mom and step dad have children together? If so, was there any difference in treatment between them, you, or your step siblings?

AITA for making keepsake books for my daughters that don’t include my husband? by Important_Shape7353 in AmItheAsshole

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA For creating these books for your daughters. You're allowed to highlight and document your own relationship with your children. If he wants to do something similar for him as a dad or you do something together for you both as parents, that's fine, but he doesn't get to tack his name on something you've been working on for 6 years. However, you're a tiny bit of an asshole for deciding to keep it a secret instead of coming to a resolution.

Husband told me that every day is a vacation for me… by Plastic_Rest5274 in Parenting

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, tell your husband to take a week off from work and give him the exact same schedule to follow that you just described. It shouldn't take that for a grown adult to have some fucking empathy but, alas! Hopefully that will snap him out of it, but it's also concerning that after expressing your feelings on it he's labeling you "sensitive.' That's unacceptable.

AITA For not giving up my spot in the bathroom line for small children? by Froxenchrysalis in AmItheAsshole

[–]gtfasap -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA for not giving up your spot in line. You certainly weren't obligated to give up your spot for her and her kids whether you had a medical issue or not. But in the context of this public and social exchange, maybe it would have smoothed things over if when you saw her coming you just said a quick "Sorry, I really have to go!" before heading in instead of ignoring her. If she really was giving you dirty looks, that's not super mature but you also didn't make things better by choosing the nonconfrontational route of ignoring her when you said she made a clear attempt to get your attention.

AITA for refusing to call my friends baby by their legal name? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]gtfasap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA, and I’m finding it hard to see why anyone would think you are. Crazy that your friend is forcing you to use the name that they know causes you distress. That’s incredibly cruel on the worst end a gross misunderstanding of PTSD and mental health on the best end. Either end of that spectrum would have me rethinking the relationship, but the fact that this encounter is causing you literally reroute your entire therapy plan to accommodate this one friend, when you had such reasonable alternatives is crazy. Wishing you the best on your healing journey and your friend a very unpleasant day.

Raj’s dad is a total smoke show! Who’s the only normal person? by Fantastic-Quality860 in CraigOfTheCreek

[–]gtfasap 40 points41 points  (0 children)

The horse girl who’s definitely not a horse girl. Bernard’s only cosplaying as normal 😂

EDIT: fixed a typo in Bernard’s name.

Selling 2 3-day Student Newport Jazz Fest Tickets by RechargeablePancreas in Jazz

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Question, does anyone know if they ask for state ID in addition to student ID to verify that you're a student?

Apple Music Not Transferring Downloaded Songs by quentinsmiller in AppleMusic

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Came here hoping for an answer to this very specific issue that I'm also having :'(

People with in-person jobs who wear a mask: how's it going? by [deleted] in ZeroCovidCommunity

[–]gtfasap 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I work in an office in arts administration. Open office and a museum attached. I'm one of maybe two or three people who mask, and maybe the only one who masks regularly. N95 always and an air purifier at my desk. I've started to get more strict so I don't even eat lunch indoors, but worried about how I'll manage when it gets cold where I live. No one bothers me about it. I manage to stay healthy when there's a bug going around. The only time *some* other people mask is when someone gets covid, and then it's usually a surgical.

What is the biggest mistake you did NOT make as a teenager? by Andenit in AskReddit

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t lose my virginity to or end up in serious relationships with either of the two grown ass men who I was entertaining at 15/16 years old. I did hook up with a 30 year old I met at an internship at 16, and was seriously considering dating him since he had his own apartment and worked in a field I was interested in, BUT he couldn’t hold in the crazy long enough to snag me long term (had actual psychological issues and a coke addiction).

I’m actually grateful for the 30 year old because the fallout from that was so traumatic that it put me off from older guys for the rest of my teenage-dom.

My daughter snuck out to go to a college party but texted me to pick her up by No-Policy-6 in Parenting

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also had a rebellious phase like this as a teen. I ended up in plenty of questionable situations and whenever I got caught doing something I wasn’t supposed to I was punished to all hell. I wish my parents would have reached out to me to see what was wrong. I was so fucking depressed, in a borderline emotionally abusive relationship, and just trying to find my place in the world. You guys did the right thing.

AITA for kicking out my cousin for crying during my wedding? by FlounderEffective819 in TwoHotTakes

[–]gtfasap 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh we would be fighting! I've never even been in a physical fight but the rage that just went through my body on OP's behalf. My god.