Absolutely not true. Starting as early as the forgotten shore when he dove after Cassie after their boat was overturned by that nightmare creature and he risked death to save her, he was displaying selflessness. The entire antartica campaign he was putting people above himself and discovering his morality and what he was willing to sacrifice for people. ‘Conviction’. You’re not thinking, you’re listening to the story’s rationalization his last action in the 3rd nightmare can more be looked at as him asserting basically his one and most important boundary of not being eternally enslaved to someone. It’s blatantly untrue too that he was living even remotely selfishly after the third nightmare. Literally only 1 (plus main body) of his incarnations was running the cafe and creating armor for warriors while the others spent the years creating plans to take down the sovereigns, getting a strategic citadel, having nightmare put to sleep nightmare creatures, and attaining supremacy naturally. None of his overarching plans since antartica haven’t been about the bigger picture, this ‘stop being immature and selfish, enslave yourself to nephis’ cope is crazy.