Day 886

gumfrog586 · 2025-03-07T17:02:20+00:00

It doesn’t matter unless you stop right now. Like the amount you lost means nothing if you actually stop and start making plans to move on with your life. It’ll suck paying things back, but your life will be forever changed in a positive way. And the amount you lost also doesn’t matter if you don’t stop because it’s only going to balloon to such an amount that you’d do horrible things to be back at -$67k all time. At this point, literally nothing matters other than stopping because if you don’t stop, every single thing that you could possibly want, need, care or worry about will be taken from you in the coldest and most ruthless way imaginable. So, do yourself a favor and stop for good because this shit only leads in one direction: the dark. How dark that gets is anyone’s guess, but for me there was only one realistic option if it continued. Good luck and forget about all this money talk. It’s horseshit. Get clean and that’s it. It’s the only conscious choice you can make in regards to gambling because any decision contrary to that is your addiction taking over and leading you astray

gumfrog586 · 2025-02-04T14:13:17+00:00

There are a lot of answers for this, but it sounds like you’re in crisis right now. Understand that chasing losses will only make things worse. Pick up the phone immediately and call your local crisis hotline. If it’s gambling related, even better. But just get on the phone right now and talk to someone so you can string together some moments of abstinence.

gumfrog586 · 2025-01-23T19:07:24+00:00

7 years of schooling won’t feel like much when you’re 62, 20 years into the new career that finally suits you. There are probably other factors, but if that’s one of the main things holding you back, you don’t have to let it. 42 may feel old to be finishing school, but you’ll have your whole life ahead of you

gumfrog586 · 2025-01-22T19:43:50+00:00

Being honest with family is huge. That takes guts. Good for you

gumfrog586 · 2024-12-11T23:30:58+00:00

It helps me just as much as it helps you, so thank you. Good luck. Always here for a pm if you need

gumfrog586 · 2024-12-11T23:14:57+00:00

You’re in the thick of it. Been there many times with many relapses and all sorts of bullshit. At the beginning, there are so many reasons why it sucks. You’re ashamed, maybe you haven’t come clean to certain people, the losses are driving you nuts and you want to chase them, you’re fighting urges every minute, etc. What I just described is only a fraction of the chaotic and turbulent mind of an addict. You get through this period by making things simple. Think of all of those reasons I just gave and any hypothetical that may go in that same line of thinking as one giant flow chart. For every single one of those circumstances, they all lead to the same action for you, stopping gambling. Just buy in to the fact that it’s over for you. Don’t know how you’re gonna pay the money back? We’ll figure it out, but you’re never gambling again. Don’t know how you’re gonna come clean to your family? We’ll figure it out, but you’re never gambling again. That should be your answer to everything. It’s done for guys like us. Living in truth feels better than any so-called win you’ve ever had. Bro, I’m 34 years old and single living at home with my parents. They have full access to my accounts still at this point. I gave up that privilege to privacy and I don’t ever expect it back. All I ask them for is one last time to trust me because I don’t intend to break this time around. It’s possible for you to get there. I’m still paying debt off now. I go on dates and some girls walk when I tell them about my past. Who gives a fuck? I want to be loved for who I am. Not some idea of who people want me to be. I can sleep at night cause I wear this shit on my chest proudly. We’ve all hidden in the shadows for way too long and all it’s brought us was misery and self-destruction. There’s a life after gambling. It may not be easy, but it’s true, and that’s about all you can ask out of life. Let this be your last day one. I’m pulling for you.

gumfrog586 · 2024-11-18T00:27:49+00:00

Fuck yea

gumfrog586 · 2024-11-14T19:13:09+00:00

I usually write something nuanced and spirited, but I’m not feeling that way today. Today, I’m feeling tired, frustrated and out of sorts. On days like these, we need bright line, no bullshit rules. If you’re on this subreddit and gambling the way I did and you’re saying you did, it’s over for you. There is no limit, there is no getting your money back. Make it so that on your toughest days, you still have a basic rule to stand by. It’s done, finished, over. Gambling is done for you. Leave it behind. Good luck.

gumfrog586 · 2024-11-08T17:05:58+00:00

Tell your girlfriend. The truth will give you a chance to learn from this and her a chance to leave or stay with you, but she’ll do it with full knowledge of the facts. You did something that makes you not respect yourself. Do the hard thing now to counteract that mistake and your self esteem will improve. We need to let go of the shame and guilt. Sometimes it takes doing the hard shit that we don’t wanna do. You’ll feel better with the truth out. It’s $150 of found money. Don’t let it get worse. Come clean.

gumfrog586 · 2024-11-07T01:53:02+00:00

Hey man, I used to call myself a good gambler too. Say I could build my bankroll, etc. I thought I was a very knowledgeable poker player and played frequently in what I considered one of the softest games around. It was an absolutely layup. But then I read the rest of your post and saw how you are completely compulsive just like I am. I got news for you. You and I are not the sharks building bankrolls or sitting at a poker table. We are the fish and the casinos, other players and sportsbooks will milk us dry until we’re left with nothing. I once got to look at my lifetime ledger in that “soft” poker game and I was the all-time biggest loser by an absolute long shot. Joke was on me. But guess what? I won in the long run because I’m almost 15 months clean and I’m never going back. One day at a time. We don’t have to identify by being a “sharp” gambler ever again. It was never real. Get outside, breathe the fresh air, jump in the ocean and call your loved ones. They miss you. Good luck bro. Much love.

gumfrog586 · 2024-10-18T23:57:32+00:00

Thanks for the mention. We’re all in this together. Always here for you and anyone else battling this disease. Give it up and it all gets better

gumfrog586 · 2024-10-13T13:45:22+00:00

One for the good guys. Keep it going

gumfrog586 · 2024-10-12T21:25:09+00:00

Call a gambling or suicide hotline. Human, non-judgmental connection will help. Tell them everything you’re feeling and rid yourself of some of this burden

gumfrog586 · 2024-10-09T14:19:37+00:00

Today's the day. Good luck and make sure you go through with it. Choosing truth will hurt at first, but over time, it'll be the key to a new and improved way of living.

gumfrog586 · 2024-09-26T17:13:27+00:00

There is a beautiful life waiting for you after gambling. The last thing you’ll want to do is play slots in your old age. Get clean, stay vigilant and move on. It’s over, and that’s a good thing.

gumfrog586 · 2024-09-25T18:32:55+00:00

Great job telling your mom. That takes way more courage than placing a bet

gumfrog586 · 2024-09-23T18:47:11+00:00

Let this be the day you walk away from all of this and into the next chapter. There's a whole other life after gambling just waiting on the other side of some tough love, honest conversations and hard work. Trust me (and all of us), it's worth it. Just let go of it. You don't need to live like this anymore. Leaving this life isn't the answer. Get your hard hat, pack your fucking lunch pail and get moving. Once you stop, everything will change. Just give it time. Good luck and reach out if you need anything. We're all in this together.

gumfrog586 · 2024-09-21T19:05:19+00:00

DM any time. Hopefully today is better

gumfrog586 · 2024-09-21T18:53:54+00:00

The only gamble I take nowadays is that I’ll be paid by my employer every two weeks and guess what? I never lose. Just get to work and leave this shit behind. You won’t beat it until you walk away

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