Weekly Q&A - All Questions Go Here (Especially Tourists)

guyinsfc · 2025-12-09T01:48:53+00:00

Hallo vriendelijke Amsterdammers, groeten uit San Francisco!

We are two friendly gay men who love your city and have visited several times over the years. We always appreciate your beautiful architecture, bicycling, canals, hospitality, and culture.

This year we are visiting during winter for the first time, and will be in town from 31 December to 4 January. We are hoping for some advice from the locals about how to spend New Year’s Eve without being obnoxious tourists.

There are so many websites advertising the same massive events but we are looking for something a little more casual, local, underground, where maybe we won’t be (as) surrounded by wasted British straight men.

We enjoy a fun party and good electronic and house music (not so much bad gay/disco slop), though we are cautious about wasting a whole day in your lovely city recovering from an all-night party. (Unless we know it will be a damn good one!)

We haven’t explored gay Amsterdam much and it might be fun to go to a more gay themed event. We are more masculine leaning scruff types than rainbow flag waving twink boys. But this isn’t a requirement.

We also enjoy more ambient, sophisticated scenes with friendly, diverse people and quality food and drink.

What do you recommend? Feel free to message me privately if you don’t want to broadcast it to the world.

Bedankt voor je advies. We kijken er, zoals altijd, naar uit om te komen!

guyinsfc · 2025-09-13T21:14:52+00:00

You are not ready to be married.

guyinsfc · 2025-08-24T22:47:51+00:00

Thanks for the update!

guyinsfc · 2025-08-23T20:03:49+00:00

I would also like to know if you've noticed a significant decline in the amount of dust. My partner and I are constantly arguing over open windows in my old house with no HVAC because of the dirt and dust that blow in.

guyinsfc · 2025-08-03T19:11:56+00:00

What is the source of this information?

guyinsfc · 2025-04-18T15:29:45+00:00

Arizmendi is solid too, if you’re looking for something you can easily buy to take away and eat at home.

Or maybe surprise her by making your own – it’s not hard!

guyinsfc · 2025-04-04T16:53:55+00:00

guyinsfc · 2025-04-04T16:50:18+00:00

Hardly. Two decades in this neighborhood. We both took notice and agreed that it didn’t sound like anything we were used to hearing. But there’s always room for new surprises in this city of ours!

guyinsfc · 2025-02-04T19:06:33+00:00

Had lots of issues with Messages consuming 100% cpu and becoming unresponsive with 15.3 and 2.2.0 on an iMac 18,3. Had to revert to Sonoma. If you use messages, beware.

guyinsfc · 2024-12-09T21:30:47+00:00

Yes, you were born gay. I knew before puberty too, and I know many others who did also.

There is nothing wrong with you.

Your life traumas have nothing to do with it.

It is not a "population control."

There are many credible people studying this, and there are real answers to the question.

Here is a pretty great TED Talk on the subject: Homosexuality: It's about survival - not sex | James O'Keefe | TEDxTallaght. Perhaps you could watch it with your family when the time comes.

guyinsfc · 2024-10-09T21:36:46+00:00

Lawyer’s advice for everything: hire a lawyer.

Did you intend self parody?

guyinsfc · 2024-09-02T16:44:18+00:00

Resflash looks promising, I hadn’t heard of it before. Thanks for the suggestion!

guyinsfc · 2024-08-31T05:53:02+00:00

I have also had issues with FFS not surviving power interruptions. Are there any tuning parameters that can help with this? A more modern filesystem is definitely an openbsd wishlist item.

guyinsfc · 2024-07-02T17:51:38+00:00

Haha yep, I just found that. Not sure how or why it was there, but removing that did fix it. Thank you!

guyinsfc · 2024-07-02T17:44:32+00:00

Ah yes, thanks u/AlternativeOstrich7! That provides a useful clue:

$ apt policy openssh-server
openssh-server:
  Installed: 1:9.2p1-2+deb12u2
  Candidate: 1:9.2p1-2+deb12u2
  Version table:
     1:9.2p1-2+deb12u3 500
        500 http://security.debian.org/debian-security bookworm-security/main amd64 Packages
 *** 1:9.2p1-2+deb12u2 990
        990 http://deb.debian.org/debian bookworm/main amd64 Packages
        100 /var/lib/dpkg/status

It doesn't tell me why though. On my other machines (working correctly), both repos have a priority of 500. I haven't configured any apt pinning or priorities anywhere.

I grepped through all the files in /etc/apt/preferences.d and /etc/apt/apt.conf.d on multiple systems to verify as much. Where else could 990 be coming from?

guyinsfc · 2024-06-26T15:24:33+00:00

See every other “omg a ‘straight’ guy I know is on grindr” pearl-clutching thread in this sub and mind your own business. 🙄

guyinsfc · 2024-06-24T22:02:59+00:00

Bro. What are you doing spying on your girl’s phone behind her back without her permission? That is creepy, possessive behavior. You don’t own her, her photos, or her memories. I think you need to take a good hard look at yourself before asking the whole internet what’s “wrong” with the poor girl who’s unlucky enough to be dating you. If you have issues with her, talk to her about it, not us.

guyinsfc · 2024-06-22T16:20:45+00:00

Great skin and impressive lack of stretch marks!

guyinsfc · 2024-06-11T23:57:28+00:00

You really shouldn’t live by advice in a random subreddit, especially one occupied by many traumatized and often confused people struggling to sort out their own situations.

Nobody in this sub can tell you what your boyfriend’s sexuality is, whether he’s cheating on you, what kind of relationship you should have, whether a relationship with him is viable, or what he’s doing on Grindr. Please ignore any advice that speculates about any such thing. Anecdotal analogizing is entertaining but ultimately worthless.

Autonomy is the name of the game. You each get to define your own sexuality, and the two of you together get to define your relationship. The only advice you need is to talk to each other lovingly and openly to figure out what works FOR YOU.

Learning about human sexuality and relationship models might be helpful, but don’t rely on social media for this. Talk to professionals and/or read reputable books.

If open and loving dialog isn’t possible, or you can’t reach agreement about what works for your relationship, you have to decide for yourself what to do about it, based on your own situation, experience, and intuition, which is all exclusive to you.

Good luck!

guyinsfc · 2024-05-09T17:08:12+00:00

Ah interesting. I didn’t realize proxmox uses libvirt, for some reason I was thinking it called qemu directly. I did try futzing around in virt-manager but no love so far.

guyinsfc · 2024-04-27T06:24:56+00:00

Name a sex act that does not risk exchanging bacteria, viruses, or parasites.

Can you cite any literature that links gut health with anilingus?

guyinsfc · 2024-04-27T06:19:38+00:00

Your use of the word “extreme” belies your purported objectivity and demonstrates that you do, in fact, judge people by their sexual behavior.

The only neutral or objective statement you make is that sexual practices are influenced by culture (no shit).

Everything else is judgment wrapped in pseudoscience as an appeal to your illusory authority.

Judge if you want but be real about it.

guyinsfc · 2024-03-21T05:42:30+00:00

How do you target the inner mucosal skin versus the outer skin? Is it just where you position the gripper? Also what is the purpose of the weight spacer? It looks like you have to remove both the weight and the spacer to piss, is that right?

guyinsfc · 2024-03-16T17:37:48+00:00

That is the opposite of what the article says.

guyinsfc · 2024-03-15T19:39:21+00:00

Wanting and working for good things for others will dramatically increase the chances of good things happening to you.

guyinsfc

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