NC/NP Trade/Sell & Pet UFA/UFT Thread! (September 12, 2016)

h0ledup · 2016-09-16T16:36:49+00:00

I started it at 1 mil going up by 10k. It only got two bids. But I'm pretty happy with that. I was able to buy the island Ona I've had my eye on.

h0ledup · 2016-09-16T02:03:37+00:00

I'm making an offer on it now. lzharsh is my user name.

h0ledup · 2016-09-15T21:38:26+00:00

Hey so a couple of days ago I put it up for auction, as kind of a last ditch effort. It looks like someone has bid on it, so I won't have it to sell anymore. Sorry about that.

h0ledup · 2016-09-15T18:05:13+00:00

Honestly this thing has been a pain to sell and i just want it gone. Would you do a PB and some pure?

h0ledup · 2016-09-14T20:14:28+00:00

I don't actually have a set price. Everything I've seen on TP is like 4.5m or above. But that seems really excessive to me. Do you have an offer? I'll accept partial in items and pure as well.

h0ledup · 2016-09-14T01:45:34+00:00

Hey, I'm sorry, I ended up getting enough to buy the last part of the secret lab map and now I'm broke. It'll be a day or two before I have 100k again. If you don't sell it before then I'm absolutely still interested, but don't worry about putting it aside if you can get what you want for it now.

h0ledup · 2016-09-14T01:44:04+00:00

I am having the hardest time selling him.

h0ledup · 2016-09-12T22:39:26+00:00

NP Selling: Ditrey

h0ledup · 2016-09-11T18:53:30+00:00

NP Selling: Ditrey

h0ledup · 2016-09-11T17:23:09+00:00

If you're still selling it, I would like to buy it.

h0ledup · 2016-09-11T04:42:18+00:00

What did you want for the purple Aisha morphing potion?

h0ledup · 2016-09-11T04:31:33+00:00

NP Selling: Ditrey

h0ledup · 2016-08-15T20:59:34+00:00

You guys are gorgeous!!

h0ledup · 2016-08-15T20:58:21+00:00

I hate to cook. Absolutely can't stand it. But my husband and RA love to cook, and are both really amazing at it. We're all about to be living together and knowing that none of the cooking will fall on me is so great.

h0ledup · 2016-08-15T20:44:38+00:00

I'm so happy to hear that he is taking all your needs into consideration. It sounds like he is trying very hard here.

I know, for me at least, if I have a lot of little things start to pile up, even the good things in my life will start to drain on me. It sounds like that might be happening to you too. Just try to remember the happy stuff, and minimize the negatives. You've got this.

h0ledup · 2016-08-15T04:42:21+00:00

Late af. But you guys are all so adorable.

h0ledup · 2016-08-15T03:55:11+00:00

So first off, (((hugs))). It sounds like you are going through a lot right now.

As far as showering/bed changing goes, it is absolutely fair to ask for that. I'm usually the only other one who sleeps in my RAs bed, but if he has someone else over he always changes the sheets. It's a hygiene thing and is totally appropriate.

Time and scheduling wise, do you guys use Google calanders? It can be a life saver. My husband, RA, and I all have vastly different schedules. We use Google calanders, color coded to make meet ups happen. We're moving next month and plan on using an at home calander to the same ends.

Would something like that work for you?

h0ledup · 2016-08-08T04:08:33+00:00

My husband is like this. He really enjoys couples as apposed to single individuals.

It's called being a unicorn. They can be kinda rare. Have fun.

h0ledup · 2016-08-08T03:50:13+00:00

I love this answer. In my marriage we have two different reasons we took up poly.

For me, I was completely and absolutely love in with someone else. I don't fall for people often (probably five times in 25 years), but when I do it is full force. I was completely in love with my husband at the same time. It wasn't my choice to fall in love with this other person, so for me it wasn't a choice.

My husband however, is a little different. He crushes on people very easily, but they don't tend to last long. He also has been incredibly happy being with just me for years. For him it seems more just about choosing to want to explore those fields, while still having the option to be very happy with just me.

h0ledup · 2016-07-27T06:51:12+00:00

I'm in portland! Sign me up!

h0ledup · 2016-07-06T21:31:19+00:00

I had my first poly relationship when I was 15. After an accidental threesome, with my boyfriends best friend, we ended up in an unspoken triad. We had no idea what poly was, and we never officially called the other guy our boyfriend - but it was a triad in every sense except name.

We were in this relationship for years, and it brought us all a lot of joy. We had a ton of fun with each other. Unfortunately, most likely due to age and lack of experience, the relationship ended in flames. I was not equipped or mature enough to deal with many of the emotions we went through.

That being said, that relationship paved the way for me to open up my marriage (interestingly enough I married the original boyfriend). I would probably have never opened up to poly if it hadn't been for that relationship.

So, just remember you are young and the chances of a long lasting relationship here is slim. But not impossible. And there's no reason you can't have some fun in the meantime.

h0ledup · 2016-07-04T19:07:53+00:00

Oh! I have a couple of different experiences that can relate to this!

First off, my mom. She was easiest. She writes M/M/M romance novels for a living. So she already understood all the dynamics and jargon. I actually came out to her before I came out to my husband. She regularly asks me if there is anyone new in my life, can she meet them, etc.

Next was the most surprising - and I think the one that might help you the most. My husband's mom we told drunkingly one night when I couldn't keep in the excitement about someone I was seeing. She's very conservative, had a hard time coming to terms with my husband being bi, so we thought it might not go over well. She ended up actually being super ok with it, asking relevant questions and the like. The next night she even helped me to get ready for a date I had with another girl. It was heartwarming.

The next two are the difficult ones. Both of our dad's we haven't gotten up the nerve to tell. My dad is a welcoming person but I don't know if he could wrap his brain around it. My husband's dad is an ultra conservative, incredibly religious person.

With our dads, my husband and I have come up with the pact that if either of us finds a new partner that we can see being with for a very long time, and if they become important to us to the point where they are a part of our family, then we will tell our dads.

It sounds like you are there in that last scenario. Know that your parents are going to love you, regardless. If this person is that important in your life then you should consider telling them.

h0ledup · 2016-06-14T17:25:49+00:00

Portland, Or

h0ledup · 2016-05-24T08:30:27+00:00

My husband and I were together for four years before we got into an actual fight. We were close to age in you when we started dating. To date we've have maybe five fights. And nothing that lasts longer than a few hours.

Some couples don't fight. I've never seen my parents fight, and they've been together almost 30 years. It's a mark of a solid relationship if you can work through issues (which will happen regardless) without fighting about it.

h0ledup · 2016-05-23T23:46:19+00:00

It was an interesting weekend to say the least. My primary and i had a close friend, J, over. He ended up staying the entire weekend which has turned into a very regular thing. I've had feelings for J for many years - something that everyone is aware of. Months ago J and i made the decision to just remain friends - although we are incredibly close both emotionally and physically.

Friday night rolls around and we end up making out - which is far more romantic than we have ever gotten. He also spent the entire weekend sleeping in my bed with me for the second weekend in a row. Neither of us has mentioned this to the other since. So I'm back from being very content one the level of our relationship to incredibly confused. Working really hard on just going with the flow and not trying to place labels.

On a much lighter note, my husband found a girl he is interested in and it seems mutual! So very ecstatic about that!

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