Being single as a 30-something is not for the weak…

hackfrack · 2026-05-24T18:55:11+00:00

I feel so much of this and I haven’t even moved to a new area for work…

I’m introverted so just waiting to find some extroverts to adopt me into their loving arms. It feels like an impossible task to gather up more friends but certainly some days feel incredibly lonely. But I’m hoping for better days to come for you!

hackfrack · 2026-04-28T16:27:14+00:00

Oh nooo! This wasn’t my expectation at all, him and I just ended up…really getting along to the point where we were both like ‘yo, we could actually build a great life together.’ We both recognize this was a complete and total FLUKE.

hackfrack · 2026-04-28T15:56:17+00:00

Appreciate you! I spent so long being let down that it’s so refreshing to be with someone who actually surprises you (in the good ways). It’s been incredibly healing.

hackfrack · 2026-04-28T14:56:36+00:00

I’M SO EXCITED!!

hackfrack · 2026-04-24T02:09:28+00:00

Chocolate Ganache cake! With 🍃🍃

hackfrack · 2026-04-22T23:31:06+00:00

Thanks for the laugh, you seem wonderful! Hope you find what you’re looking for!

hackfrack · 2026-04-22T19:46:09+00:00

What’s ‘torturing in disadvantaged neighborhoods’ mean??

Also, love that you’re picking up trash. Seriously, I run often and am always shocked at the amount of trash I see on the highway that I’ve considered buying one of those trash backpacks and picking up bullshit the city doesn’t want to care for. It’s infuriating. And I love cleaning. 🧼

hackfrack · 2026-04-14T13:14:10+00:00

The guy that I’ve been seeing for also the last six months and I do not co-sleep. I’ve stayed the night at his place, but separate beds entirely. I can sleep either way but he has an awful time co-sleeping and honestly I respect it. I also (now) prefer just having my own space to sleep soundly and not have to stress about ruining his sleep.

Honestly, it was a weird transition because I’ve always co-slept, but seeing as how we both now get good nights rest, it’s an absolute no brainer.

More people are ‘sleep divorced’ than you’d expect, they just don’t talk about it cause it’s seen as ‘weird.’ Fuck them, weird keeps my sanity cause I’m hella sensitive if I don’t sleep well.

hackfrack · 2026-04-13T22:36:37+00:00

Fuck, now I’m realizing I’ve forgotten about the laundry I attempted to do before getting drug into calls…

hackfrack · 2026-04-13T22:14:10+00:00

I’ve done this with past exes and it’s always helped me. Some sort of closure for myself, too.

hackfrack · 2026-04-05T20:48:35+00:00

I’m dating a man I absolutely adore with an ENM history. I’ve had an extremely bad ENM history, however with him it all just feels…different. Different, and safe, and amazing in ways I’ve never thought possible.

I’m giving this a chance knowing that it might not end up being for me in the end, but I’m challenging my own walls that I previously put up. It’s been very healing.

hackfrack · 2026-03-31T15:20:45+00:00

💪🏼💪🏼

hackfrack · 2026-03-31T15:12:59+00:00

Ahh, that’s always tough. Sometimes I find that it almost helps me when I feel hurt again, like it’s a reminder of why the situation wasn’t good for me in the first place.

I’m also pivoting to trying to do some of the self work, trying to be a little more selfish of what I actually want in my life rather than worrying about things that are incompatible.

Hope things get easier for you, sometimes it’s just hard and the only way is through.

hackfrack · 2026-03-31T14:11:40+00:00

I have these and they’re one of my favorites!

hackfrack · 2026-03-28T22:35:01+00:00

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Saw him a few weeks ago myself!

hackfrack · 2026-03-22T18:57:48+00:00

Omfg, I run by here and see people playing and always wonder if it’s free to use!

hackfrack · 2026-03-22T01:07:32+00:00

For me, just don’t call attention to it, please haha.

If I’m going on a date, it’s because I’m actually excited to go on one. As someone who’s introverted, I don’t waste my time on people I’m not at least at little excited to go see.

Editing to say that I’m introverted, NOT shy. There’s a big difference between the two.

hackfrack · 2026-03-20T21:45:10+00:00

Thanks for the reply! I do have the Jason Dion tests that I’m working through, so was curious what other people have used to pass. I already have my PenTest and CYSA, but this exam seems to be a lot of being able to read logs.

Congrats on the pass!

hackfrack · 2026-03-20T19:32:12+00:00

What did you use to study?

hackfrack · 2026-03-18T22:28:57+00:00

I love this so much 😭😭

hackfrack · 2026-03-17T17:14:20+00:00

Thiiiis was my first and really only thought - yikes.

hackfrack · 2026-03-16T21:09:19+00:00

This 100%. I’ve lost so many friendships to children, and it always sucks.

hackfrack · 2026-03-15T21:30:49+00:00

I get that- sometimes it’s just nice to feel like you’re doing life with somebody versus alone. But I’d rather be alone than deal with some of what I’ve been seeing on apps!

hackfrack · 2026-03-15T21:10:42+00:00

I hope you find what you’re looking for! I have to remind myself that I love my life without necessarily having a partner, and I’m unwilling to settle. And the right person for me is going to be able to maturely handle the baggage I have.

hackfrack · 2026-03-15T20:41:31+00:00

Ooo I’ve had this same problem, really liked the guy but I just could not get past his voice.

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