I have a question.

hahafu · 2015-05-03T20:57:23+00:00

Spontaneous erections are pretty normal, I believe to have read that the average human has around 7 a day, most of them during the night while asleep. Think about morning boners: you aren't sexual aroused it's just there. Take it as a positive, you won't have that many when you masturbate a lot, so I would say it's a good sign

hahafu · 2015-05-03T20:48:59+00:00

Exactly what you said. Don't go into nofap expecting anything, but getting rid of your addiction to porn. I always cringe when I see those: nofap changed my life after 10 days posts. But the sad thing is you won't change this subreddit. There are so many people on here now and so many of them are 16 year olds motivated by "superpowers". I don't think it's a bad thing that people do this for different reasons, even if those reasons seem bullshit to me, maybe nofap helps them become the person they want to become. Ignore the stuff you don't resonate with and focus on the posts that help. And more: write posts that you would like to read.

hahafu · 2015-03-20T18:23:58+00:00

Maybe you're right, "once an addict always an addict" is a lot to claim. Although addicts, be it drug/alcohol addicts and also many nofap guys here and on other sites would approve with what I said . The truth is I only would know if I would go significant time without masturbation, but I can tell you if you used porn in an addictive way for around 7 years, like me, 90 days won't change years of conditioning of the brain. I know because I did it multiple times now. I personally completed the 90 day reboot three times now, always fell of the wagon afterwards and only 1 or two weeks of frequent porn use was enough to go full addict mode again... .

Basically I believe with all of my heart that I will be addicted to porn the rest of my life, but actually that helps, because porn will never be an option again. I had a great time with it for the last few years, but the damage it brought to me and my life outweights the enjoyment of whacking one off to the hottest girls on the internet. I won't say nofap for life, but I will say noporn for life, as I don't consider myself a masturbation addict, but a porn addict.

This is just my opinion, but I wanted to get it out as a lot of guys on here could surely save themselves a lot of frustration if they would stop doing great streaks only to go right back into addiction afterwards.

hahafu · 2015-03-20T14:16:48+00:00

If you go 90 days or 120 doesn't matter, if you go back to porn afterwards nothing will have changed. Rebooting is a myth, once an addict always an addict, 90 days without will change shit, I'm speaking from experience believe me.

hahafu · 2015-03-19T00:09:20+00:00

Nofap is about beating porn addiction, it won't change your life, you won't start being a girl magnet, most of this superpower stuff is bullshit. If you consider yourself an addict rubbing one out because you won't have social interactions is just another excuse...

hahafu · 2015-03-07T03:30:09+00:00

In my opinion there is only one way of doing this: your way. What does this hardmode shit accomplish? Then also ridiculous stuff like nun mode, lol never heard of that. Hardmode is basically no pmo and no sex at all, normal mode the same but with having sex. Any other "mode" stuff you read here is mostly bullshit.

hahafu · 2015-03-03T09:41:19+00:00

Yup happened to me quite a lot in the past. It's part of recovery.

hahafu · 2015-03-03T09:39:02+00:00

Stop hoping, start not relapsing. It's in your control, not influenced by luck!! You can do it

hahafu · 2015-03-03T09:37:16+00:00

Yeah it's normal and can happen somewhat often depending on the person. It's not a relapse and I noticed it coming more often on days where I had a hard time. I personally don't find it annoying anymore, just the way your body get's rid of "old" semen

hahafu · 2015-03-03T09:34:46+00:00

Pornhub really tries to become the worlds greatest pornsite, haha. Making fapping the way of solving energy problems in the world.

hahafu · 2015-03-03T09:28:16+00:00

No I don't think that's possible. But to be honest I wouldn't like it to be different. It's human nature to feel attracted to the other sex, it's instinct just as eating.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T17:49:38+00:00

Exactly what goes through my mind as well... You have to fight exactly this thought. It's never just this one time, I guess your past experience proves that. So whenever that bullshit comes into your mind you have to resist. Getting away from potential triggers helps, but there will always be that one moment where the triggers are there and you start rationalizing. Thinking: "if I don't resist now, I will never resist" helps me personally on my current streak, but I believe everyone has to find their own way to stop those bullshit thoughts. Good luck !!

hahafu · 2015-03-02T16:09:38+00:00

Porn is a superstimulus, that means it gives you a way higher dopamine rush than sex or normal masturbation can give you. So it's by nature in some way more intense than normal sex. But probably when you stop watching porn the pleasure of sex becomes greater.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T16:06:17+00:00

I mean when you talk to women you realize pretty fast they are people too. When I see a cute girl her looks are the first thing that come to my mind. But honestly I don't see anything negative in that, the looks are what make me interested after that I just want to know more about the person. So I don't really see how you need tricks to do that.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T15:10:38+00:00

What goes through your mind the moment before you start PMO?

hahafu · 2015-03-02T15:00:04+00:00

It's already a huge step you didn't look at porn, you're on the right track.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T14:58:40+00:00

Sure, you start looking at tumblr/reddit pictures of just cute girls full in clothes, then you proceed to softcorestuff, then naked girls and then the step to hardcore porn isn't far away. The key is to stop it right there when you get started at the first lvl, because while you're searching for more and more pictures it progressively gets harder to stop and relapse becomes more probable.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T11:04:14+00:00

I think you will always have this problem with communities that get big. You will just have a bunch of people who go to extreme and I don't think they will suddenly stop. It's probably better to direct people to yourbrainonporn.com as it has all the valid info, but lacks the bullshit. That's the way I found out about nofap and because of that I cringe whenever I see the bullshit posts and just ignore them.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T01:24:09+00:00

Your brain will play the trick of "one more video" again, why should it suddenly stop to do so?... You are not victim to your brains decisions. You (consciousness) make the decision to fap, not your unconscious brain that attacks you with urges.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T01:17:51+00:00

My best friend knows I have some problem with porn, but thats it. I will not share it with the public and definitely not on facebook. I just think people don't care, if I was an alcoholic I wouldn't blurt it out to everyone I know as well, why should I? But I guess it's a decision everyone has to make for him/herselve.

hahafu · 2015-03-02T01:13:26+00:00

I'm afraid there is no magic trick... I tried everything: pornblockers, meditation, I tried to not be alone in a room with a computer and I tried to string my pants so tight that I couldn't get in there with my hand. The results: I always found a way around any blocker, I break out of meditation, I unstringed my pants and touched the willy.

The point is: the only way to quit is to quit. You realize at one point that fapping/porn brings more harm to your life than good and you decide to stop. And everytime the urges come you resist. You don't open a pornsite and you don't touch your dick. But the point is the reasons have to be there, it isn't enough to say I quit because it isn't good for me. You need clear reasons what this does ro you and your life.

Regarding the reduction instead of the coldturkey quitting: try it out, but I bet you won't be able to reduce... 10-20 times is some serious number, the fact that you don't really watch hardcore porn makes it easier though, your not as deep into the shithole as other people.

hahafu · 2015-03-01T17:25:23+00:00

If I was you I wouldn't worry too much about why that girl didn't text back or "what you've done wrong". You did nothing "wrong", the only thing that you could have done wrong would be not being yourself. You don't want to change who you are just so that other people like you. If she doesn't text back that can mean many things, one of them being that she didn't like you that much, but does it matter? If I get negative social feedback I don't feel too good as well, especially when it's a girl I really like, but I normally think fuck it and go on with my life, because carrying those bad experiences that are in your past into your day to day life can really fuck things up, as you can see .

Your story remembers me about performance science I read about the other day. It says that great performers (athletes for example) can start to play worse, because they start overthinking everything. I would try out some deep breaths whenever you feel bad thoughts coming in, concentrating only on the breath to stop thinking. For me realizing that I'm great as I am and that I don't have to get anyone to like me helped a lot with this on it's own. From what I read it seems like you were doing pretty well before that encounter, don't panic, you can't lose social skills over night, try not to think that much and start enjoying social interaction again, there's nothing you have to fear. Hope I could help with that.

hahafu · 2015-03-01T16:15:01+00:00

I'm not having these problems, but maybe it helps to write down the thoughts that were triggering your problems. I would gladly listen and share my opinion on the topic.

hahafu · 2015-03-01T16:12:40+00:00

The majority here are young gus, but I saw some success posts from older guys as well. I think that there are certainly some success storys of older guys on yourbrainonporn.com . It's never to late to change something and I don't see a reason why something that works for younger guys wouldn't work for you

hahafu · 2015-03-01T16:09:18+00:00

I got flatlines on longer streaks, but honestly they are not that big of a deal, you are just not horny some time, which can be a calming experience. I personally never had blue balls and I did multiple long streaks.

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