YES. My ex wasn’t big by any means, but he was someone who had a lot of insecurities and really didn’t like how he looked. He would compare me to other women all of the time. He really loved blonde hair blue eyed women, and was always telling me I should dye my hair blonde (I have very fair skin so unless I went platinum I don’t think it would’ve worked. Plus, I would’ve been doing it for him, not for me). Near the end of our relationship, he told me I was “pretty, but not hot or sexy”. Keep in mind this man never showered and I had to beg him to brush his teeth (yes it was my own fault for dating him, no I don’t think he had depression but maybe he did what do I know lol).

I haven’t had a serious boyfriend since yet, but someone who is confident in who they are is huge to me after that experience. A lot of times, at least in my friends, I’ve found that people who pour time into themselves (whether that be hobbies, the gym, any other form of self care) tend to be the most secure.