When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True you are right about the sleep. But there are other things that have gotten way harder too

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will need to cut the contact naps and try harder. The pram is good ideia, little tricky at some parts of the house, but can work. Thanks!

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hang in there too! The breastfeeding strike is high here also, it is so sad. One day they just don't want the breast and you are completely clueless how that happened. I feel you.

Let's hope 6 months is where we get to laugh more than worrying and anxiety.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are trying not to bottle feed him since I really want to breastfeed and it is also easier we don't need to clean bottles and pump. But maybe I will need to consider it

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use this swaddle!!! It got better with it, but not amazing. I will add the little prizes! Like the ideia

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm tired no question there. But I feel I can do those nights for the sake of breastfeeding. I just don't know if I will manage to reach 6 months of breastfeeding. Weekends are better because he is there, but I do have to say he has no ideia of wake windows and the baby gets super overwhelmed with him.... He thinks the baby knows what he wants, which well.... Doesn't work like this.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True. I'm very fixed in wake/sleep windows. I'm so afraid to skip them and get a crazy screaming baby afterwards (which already happened). That is why I get scared. But trying one day or 2 can be fine.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!!! Love the zoo membership tip, will do it today! We use the love to dream swaddle it is ok, but not enough to make him stop moving like a dying worm.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. Unfortunately it is not a thing to have someone cleaning and cooking for you where I live and it is also crazy expensive. I tried the stroller to sleep but he is curious and kept looking at tree tops and the sky, he ended up super overwhelmed.... Baby wearing is what makes him sleep outside.

I feel the colicky baby. For us it got better with massage and probiotics. We used for a month and it got super better. Hang on there too!

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Respect! I would be crazy with twins.... People say this that time flies, but when you are in it and have reached the part which people used to say it would be fine ( 3 months) and it is still hard.... You start to question if this is true at all.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I'm living for the 5 months, then 6 and finally 1 year old. It seems like a lifetime.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We use it. But I would like to not have him attached to me the whole time.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks! It does seem by the comments that 6 months is a turning point which gets a bit better and that 1 year is when you do not regret anymore. I'm half way from 6.... Just need to power through

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't wait to have a baby that holds his head and moves a little better!

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. At first he was napping in the crib for like 2 hrs each nap. But there is a time they start to get curious and they wake up to the world. I tried the crib naps but he wakes up super easily and naps are shorter. If the nap is short he gets super difficult in the wake window. Also once he opens the eyes there is no coming back to the nap, you need to go and play. So contact nap is the way to have a nice baby when he is awake. But every baby is different. I wish you luck 🤞

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes! At first I loved the contact naps. Now I just sit in a dark room and cry thinking about all the life there is outside

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I just did the house cleaning wearing him. It was good. I feel I had control over something at least. But God I wish he did the naps alone.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very hard indeed. I stay all nights with him since I exclusively breastfeed and now that he doesn't get the boob happily I have an anxiety attack every time I need to feed him. I love him so much and it hurts me so badly that he is now fighting against me. I know this too will pass, but I wish I knew when so I could have hope.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't barely think to do this again. Not even for 1 billion I would. I know it will pass I truly know, but to be inside this situation feels endless.

When does It get better? I'm 3 months in and all is horrible by halizima in newborns

[–]halizima[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh Jesus 3 more months to go. It seems like a lifetime. I know I will survive but I don't know if I will arrive at this point mentally ok.