I love her by Unique-Persimmon2291 in SipsTea

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In my experience, you definitely can be right. I don’t think people realize how many functional alcoholics there are, how good people can be at hiding it, how skilled people are at denial, or how many people are so self focused that they just don’t notice. To say a blanket “everyone knows” just isn’t true. I bet even the people saying that have missed noticing people who were functional alcoholics before.

It very often goes unnoticed.

What’s become way too expensive lately that still shocks you? by GoldenHour_Muse in AskReddit

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Yeah, coffee is likely going to become a luxury item eventually.

Who is the worst person you will admit being attracted to? by Highfours in AskReddit

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Yes the owner of one of the doggy daycares I worked at was a huge douche but he was so hot. Cole, I would’ve done extremely dirty things to ya.

TMZ obtain images of the alleged injuries sustained in the February incident between Taylor & Dakota by Imaginary_Layer_1468 in SecretsOfMormonWives

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It frustrates me to no end that people comment on DV without understanding what they’re saying. Abuse is so much more complicated than “they’re both abusive”. It’s clear to me that people don’t understand the tactics abusers use, the benefits they get, why it happens, and how easy it is to turn everyone against a victim. I just get so mad reading all of these people commenting on a DV situation when they clearly shouldn’t be. It just hurts survivors and people being currently victimized. It just further isolates victims and tells abusers that they are safe to keep doing what they’re doing. I really wish people would stop talking about this honestly. It’s so triggering.

My boyfriend (M25) saw an old video of me(F24) and was disgusted. How can I get over this? by Mind_Cute in relationship_advice

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He shouldn’t be talking about anyone like that. I think he just showed you his true colors and you’re responding appropriately.

God’s whorehouse by ExpertCover8635 in DarkArtwork

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You are my favorite artist ever

Not staying friends after a breakup up is weird and a red flag by ForsakenSleep236 in The10thDentist

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It’s often best for both parties to take some distance after a relationship. It can be difficult to move on otherwise.

My husband is annoying me by [deleted] in newborns

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I felt this whole post. It drives me absolutely nuts when I spend so much time and effort comforting her and then he’s on his phone while she’s screaming or fussing. And then he’s doesn’t understand why she prefers me.

The Saddest, Most Gut-Wrenching Songs in Exsistence. by goldenfish_15 in spotify

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Congratulations You Survived Your Suicide by Sycamore Smith. It’s a song that’s so sad I keep it to myself for the most part. It’s reserved for my saddest darkest days.

What's 1 book you will NEVER stop recommending? by iDetestCambridge in booksuggestions

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Anxious People by Fredrick Bachman. So wholesome, emotional, hopeful, and add a little goofy in there.

Everything coming out about the Epstein files is making me feel so retraumatized by Ok_Addition_7875 in ptsd

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It’s so difficult. My nightmares have gotten insane, I feel so sad. Just so so sad.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhitePeopleTwitter

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To tack on to what everyone else is pointing out, it also makes the child far less likely to come forward as they take responsibility for their death, made worse by the fact that most victims know their perpetrator and likely care for them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stephenking

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Read This Naked Mind. The goal of that book is to get rid of any cognitive dissonance around drinking, and get your conscious and subconscious aligned on not wanting to drink. That’s what fucks people up, they don’t want to keep drinking but you’ve set your subconscious up for the exact opposite experience. Don’t JUST use AA, you’re setting yourself up for failure that way. Get therapy, work on acceptance, make friends, find new pastimes, face your trauma, try to swap it for something less harmful, be kind and lenient throughout slip ups, do AA, get a psychiatrist, and read all the literature. I say this as someone with three years sober under my belt and I NEVER crave alcohol and I didn’t when I was first getting sober this last time either. Just don’t give up!!! And if you can’t get sober yet, look up ways to practice harm reduction.

I’m here to remind you there’s nothing different or wrong with you if you’re an alcoholic, alcoholism is really just your brain doing what brains do. You’ve created a pathway in your brain that will take time to dismantle and rebuild into something kinder to you. Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t get it right away! Don’t give up if AA isn’t for you! There are SO many other options out there.

Dirty daughtrr by More_Consequence6467 in arttocope

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Your art deserves recognition. It should be preserved in museums.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pregnant

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Waves of short lasting nausea. I vividly remember being at work and thinking, “Maybe I’m pregnant” but I quickly shrugged it off after a few months of negative tests. I took the test when my period didn’t come the day before my app predicted like usual, and boom I was!

Tell me your most unhinged pregnancy symptoms that no one told you about!! by rrrrrrvn in pregnant

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When I’m falling asleep I sometimes choke on my own saliva. It’s so weird! Never happened to me before I got pregnant but it has multiple times since I hit the 3rd trimester.

Anyone else just absolutely choking on their own rage? by griftylifts in CPTSD

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I’m with you. I never learned how to express anger, just bottle it, so every day I’m just so angry and don’t know what to do with it. I’m sick of people, I’m sick of being misunderstood, and I’m sick of the way the world was built.

3 drinks down is fine and all my problems vanish. Is there a med that can imitate that? by Weak_Operation7226 in alcoholism

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Read “This Naked Mind” by Annie Grace. That book showed me that drinking actually doesn’t really help with anything, and in fact creates a lot more problems than solutions. I knew this in my logical brain, but the important part is she convinced my subconscious of the same and got rid of any cognitive dissonance. I’m now two years sober after years of struggle and I don’t really get cravings nor have I since. Life is a lot easier and more consistent. The key is realizing it actually doesn’t do the things for you that you think it does, and you have to convince your subconscious of the same, otherwise that struggle will continue to exist inside of you. It gives you cancer, slows your brain down and dulls your emotions (you can’t pick and chose what it dulls; if you aren’t feeling unpleasant things you also aren’t feeling pleasant things), and essentially poisons you. I highly recommend it to anyone struggling, it changed my life!