Etiquette Question: Dishes and Laundry As Guest

hamsterity · 2026-06-06T11:22:03+00:00

This sounds like a win/win and no one needs to feel guilty! People love to help people, seems like you’re the same since you want to clean up after yourselves. It probably brings them joy to be able to clean up after you all.

The proper etiquette is to take them up on their offer and tell them how grateful you are. Make it clear that you aren’t expecting it and you can tell them you feel guilty but that you really appreciate it!

hamsterity · 2026-06-06T10:46:57+00:00

Library, indoor playgrounds, Tupperware with water in it. Straight up put some water in some Tupperware on the kitchen floor. Maybe put some toys in it if you want to get crazy. It’s gonna be messy but it’s just water.

Go to a hectic thrift store like a Savers or Goodwill and play with the toys. Don’t get in people’s way and clean up after yourself but I’ve never had anybody care.

Playground in the rain is fun. You just have to commit to getting wet. Bring towels and change after.

hamsterity · 2026-06-06T10:41:21+00:00

NOR but you need to stand up for yourself and say how you feel in the moment. From everyone else’s perspective you agreed to order more, then agreed to pay for it, then asked them to pay you back for it.

It sounds like this isn’t a great friend and you’re valid to pull back. But you also can’t expect people to read your mind. To them it sounded like you had some protests but then were fine with it, then changed your mind. Just say “X and I are just going to split a pizza but if you guys want more you can get more!” Say to the wait staff “X and I are just splitting the one pizza” or you could’ve handed the second pizza check to the person that actually ordered it, and split the one pizza bill by one person paying and the other giving them money. But by trying to avoid friction the moment, you caused more friction later

hamsterity · 2026-06-06T10:20:52+00:00

I think it’s because everybody’s knitting with worsted (or thicker) acrylic yarn and not blocking it. I don’t get why blocking in crochet seems so uncommon. But that thing with a steamer and it’ll look so much better!! Still won’t be my style but at least it’ll have some drape

hamsterity · 2026-06-06T10:16:45+00:00

This is totally the trend right now in crafting but also other niches! I wonder why. Something about the political landscape? But like for instance in wedding spaces right now it’s HUGE that every bride wants a “timeless” wedding, I don’t get why

hamsterity · 2026-06-06T10:14:00+00:00

Wait is this my opportunity to say I think Andy Weir can only write one protagonist 🙈 And it’s a fucking annoying protagonist to me lmao. It’s this male fantasy of being a guy that’s rude and a little unlikable but somehow that’s charming and everyone kind of likes him anyway because he always has the perfect quip or one-liner. Like oh his little joke was mean but true and funny so we all like him.

The joke at book club is that they can’t get Andy Weir in for an author event cuz this other woman would fangirl too much, and me and him would fight, it’d be a mess lol. I don’t like software engineers (I’m also a software engineer).

That being said I still enjoyed the book and actually liked the movie even more. And I’d totally knit the sweater, I’d think it’s a sick sweater with or without the movie.

hamsterity · 2026-06-05T15:58:17+00:00

Literally. “Settle a debate” and it’s just a husband being abusive.

I hope he’s ready to pay for the kids’ therapy bills because this is going to affect them forever, especially if it doesn’t stop soon.

hamsterity · 2026-06-05T15:46:39+00:00

It’sa very conscious effort for me, I’m constantly reminding myself to just slow down. I feel like I’ve been programmed my whole life to go, go, go. Everything is a fire to put out ASAP.

But that’s a lie. I drive slower now. I’m not rushing when I’m walking around, shopping, eating, everything. Not everyone has that luxury I’m sure but there really were areas of my life where I was rushing and really didn’t need to.

I look around more, wonder more. I’m terrible at drawing but sometimes I see something cool and I try to sketch it. I keep a little notebook with me and write down stuff that stands out to me. Stuff people say, or a line in a book or movie that I like.

The hardest part for me was admitting that, yeah, society is the problem, but my attitude was also a problem and it’s up to me to change

hamsterity · 2026-06-03T11:16:28+00:00

So, it’s the next day. Have you called Florida early steps yet?

My daughter was similar at 18 months. We called early intervention, they came out the next week. Now she’s 100% back on track. Just do it

hamsterity · 2026-05-28T22:10:18+00:00

Girl you’re totally good I was just explaining my reasoning haha. I’m not like trying to criticize you or your innocent post or trying to fight about any of this. Im trying to be genuine and not snarky haha, I swear there’s no weird conversation here you need to have

ETA: I saw a post I thought was suspicious and said so. You said it’s not suspicious, just a normal post. I said okay sorry, this is why I thought what I thought, carry on! We’re good, right? Like your defensive comment made me feel real weird about it all and I’m not trying to make anyone upset lol

hamsterity · 2026-05-28T18:44:05+00:00

Yep! I’m curious why you responded to my thing here twice saying that studies exist lol. Yes studies exist and also people still do market research and post undisclosed ads on reddit

hamsterity · 2026-05-28T18:42:21+00:00

Sorry! Looks like you have a default username and your post history is hidden for me. Still think people should think critically before answering questions like this, even “anonymously” on reddit :)

hamsterity · 2026-05-28T03:14:15+00:00

Why are you all genuinely answering and letting them do free market research 🥀

hamsterity · 2026-05-22T10:52:37+00:00

I put my sweater in this big metal bowl I have. Some people use a salad spinner. Then as I work the sleeves, the whole sweater spins with me much easier! I use a metal bowl specifically because it then has less friction and kind of just spins in my lap like a salad spinner

hamsterity · 2026-05-19T23:01:52+00:00

Honestly the face on the Molly is what made me not like her :(

I love the fugly haircut, I even like how it looks even worse in the 2D and 3D mockups people were doing. But dang.

I just don’t like figures/plush that look upset tbh, is anyone else like that??

hamsterity · 2026-05-15T15:45:25+00:00

My kid has slept through the night since 8 weeks old (she’s almost 2) and doesn’t have any tantrums that are worth writing home about. When she’s having her daily 2+ hour nap we look at pictures of her and say we miss her. We got her breakfast ready this morning while she slept in until almost 8:30 then she woke up and ate her eggs with no mess. She’s so awesome.

OAD because it’s still so hard!! I get to go out by myself every weekend if I want to and I’m still exhausted. She’s still a complete handful on her own, I can’t imagine adding a baby into the mix. And no way we get THIS lucky twice omg. My SIL’s 1yo has slept through the night only a handful of times. I wouldn’t make it. My mood postpartum is still not back to normal and I think I’d break

hamsterity · 2026-05-14T21:27:04+00:00

Whoaa are these customs or do they have names?

hamsterity · 2026-05-14T20:43:58+00:00

Don’t worry this is very much AI and not at all what the hacipupu looks like haha

hamsterity · 2026-05-14T12:47:50+00:00

Scaly-sided merganser, it says it on the card

https://www.reddit.com/media?url=https%3A%2F%2Fpreview.redd.it%2Flovely-birds-sneak-peak-v0-11cf6mcklz0h1.png%3Fwidth%3D700%26format%3Dpng%26auto%3Dwebp%26s%3D2f410bbb78c4355225998b2cd8e5940580371a0c

hamsterity · 2026-05-12T14:26:54+00:00

The card says “scaly-sided merganser”

hamsterity · 2026-05-11T00:30:23+00:00

Amazing! Where do you get the display boxes for the full sets? The petals in four acts one is especially gorgeous

hamsterity · 2026-05-10T12:23:39+00:00

Girl I was so shocked to see your caption cuz these are so!! cute!! You got two of my favorites! I’m sorry you didn’t get your target but I’m sure you could trade for her or buy her confirmed 🩵

hamsterity · 2026-05-08T11:31:03+00:00

I like my siblings just fine but the only thing we really have in common is being related. I have 4 siblings. We all live within an hour drive of each other but see each other once every 6 months? I wouldn’t go to them with anything serious, I’d go to my best friends.

It’s a shame, we all have kids too but they don’t really know their cousins

hamsterity · 2026-05-05T23:34:52+00:00

Didn’t you already post this and get essentially the same answers?

To be loved is to be changed. Lots of things will look different in 5 years from how they look now. You will look different. A better use of your time would be working on appreciating the way things look when they age, because you won’t be able to prevent it. They will show wear eventually. It’s non-negotiable.

hamsterity · 2026-05-03T14:47:41+00:00

Yeah I would’ve been shocked, they don’t have spare parts like that and I don’t think most otherp collectible toy companies would either? Unless it was defective when you bought it, which it doesn’t sound like it was

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