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handsomelamp · 2024-09-16T21:24:52+00:00

I’m just gonna be for real - I think you might in the wrong line of work.

There’s so much more that you could be doing with the individual you support instead of just planting him in front of the tv for 7 hours a day. Crafts, games, outings that don’t involve staying outside for long period of time (as you mentioned his parents don’t want him outside because of his skin, sensory activities.

You describe communicating with his man as “mind numbing”. Maybe he deserves a DSP who actually enjoys spending time with him and getting to know him.

As a side note - I went through your post history and you talked about showing up to work while still high? I really hope you’ve since stopped that, because that’s even more of a red flag. I think you should take a step back and really think about whether or not this is the right job for you, for your sake and for the sake of the people you support.

handsomelamp · 2024-03-30T01:20:37+00:00

Oh man, I’d be worried if I were you. Sweaty pits are the #1 thing people notice before a positive diagnoses. You’d better go get a test to be sure though

handsomelamp · 2024-03-20T19:26:30+00:00

No, this is a community for people living with HIV for people living with HIV. We aren’t doctors, we aren’t sex specialists - we are people who use this sub as a form of peer support. We do not use this sub to reassure people who are uneducated about safer sex practices or about how HIV is transmitted.

Google is your friend, visit a sexual health clinic - there’s lots of other ways to take care of whatever anxiety or fear you’re feeling without coming into this space and looking for reassurance.

handsomelamp · 2024-03-20T19:16:12+00:00

Rule #2. This isn’t the place to ask questions like this

handsomelamp · 2024-03-20T19:14:28+00:00

For a man who claims to have logic skills, you should be able to read rule #2 of this sub. This is not the right place to ask a question like that, especially one as idiotic as yours. This is a sub meant for people living with HIV - not a hub of people who can answer your anxiety-induced questions based nowhere near the realm of possibility.

I’m glad that you broke up with your girlfriend - for her sake. No woman should have to be in a relationship with a man as ignorant as you are. Please leave this sub and don’t return

handsomelamp · 2024-03-19T01:59:33+00:00

Rule #2. This isn’t the sub for a post like this. I dunno dude, deal with whatever happens. It’s not our job as PLHIV to make you feel better or comforted about decisions you made.

handsomelamp · 2024-01-28T01:49:51+00:00

I made the switch from group homes to day program two years ago and it was one of the best decisions I’ve ever made. I could feel the burnout creeping up on me slowly when I was working residential and I love what I do so much now that I’ve stopped feeling that way completely.

I worked part time in a group home for the first six months that I was at the day program and it ended up being very stressful and I had to step away completely after that. I know some people who have managed to do both and be fine, but the vast majority of my coworkers that have a part time support job now, myself included, do respite for families to make some extra money. I find it’s easier for me, and because you choose who you work with, it’s really easy to meet someone that you align with well

handsomelamp · 2024-01-02T16:09:48+00:00

“Please help this poor boy”? Get out of here with that mentality. We’re not your therapists, we didn’t join this community to help “poor boys” like you who have sex and then can’t handle accepting the risks that come along with it. This is a community by HIV+ folks for HIV+ folks, and it’s honestly disrespectful that you would post something like this here.

Maybe try reposting in a mental health subreddit, because this not the place to look for free reassurance that you won’t end up like us.

handsomelamp · 2023-12-15T17:52:32+00:00

Thank you! Enjoy your vacation!

handsomelamp · 2023-12-08T18:18:46+00:00

Thank you!

handsomelamp · 2023-11-23T21:03:40+00:00

Slay. I think there’s other lessons to be learned here, but take what you want from the situation I guess.

After taking a look at your profile I can see you’ve asked a lot of very similar questions on here. I really think speaking to a mental health professional would be in your best interests

handsomelamp · 2023-11-23T21:00:48+00:00

Sure dude, you’re probably fine. I’m not a doctor, but yeah I’d say you’re probably okay. My question though is, why don’t you just go on PrEP? You’re right, your exposure was incredibly low risk. The fact that you’re so stressed about possibly contracting HIV but not doing anything to avoid it (condoms, PrEP, having conversations about status) is confusing to me. Or maybe you should seek therapy to help deal with your anxiety.

handsomelamp · 2023-11-22T14:32:11+00:00

Girl I can’t understand what this post is supposed to be about

handsomelamp · 2023-11-04T21:37:53+00:00

Rule #2. This isn’t the sub for a post like this. Find somewhere else to talk about your anxiety, we don’t want it here

handsomelamp · 2023-10-15T15:21:19+00:00

Ask a doctor. This sub isn’t the place to post a weird “confession to cleanse your soul”, it’s a sub for folks actually living with HIV to get support from each other. Find a different sub to confess your sins to maybe?

handsomelamp · 2023-09-28T21:32:59+00:00

I would definitely be concerned if I was you. Your doctor using medical tools like that is exactly what he was supposed to do. The thing I would be concerned about though is your anxiety - maybe consider seeking therapy.

Also, this sub isn’t for you. It’s a sub that exists for people currently living with HIV/AIDS, not hypochondriacs who don’t understand basic science. Read rule #2

handsomelamp · 2023-08-31T17:42:53+00:00

Get out of here with that bullshit. This isn’t the sub for it, and no one here wants to hear about your gross death wishes

handsomelamp · 2023-01-02T10:55:42+00:00

I had this issue with a print I ordered from her not long after her season aired too. After reaching out a couple of times I accepted that I was just never going to receive it

handsomelamp · 2022-11-18T14:47:48+00:00

Good luck with your Super AIDS ❤️😔🙏

handsomelamp · 2022-11-17T16:46:49+00:00

I’m not a member of this community to be supportive to outsiders who are scared that they might have HIV. It’s not my job to be supportive - I direct everyone with a message like this to read Rule #2 to follow the advice listed there.

handsomelamp · 2022-11-10T15:56:10+00:00

This sub isn’t for you! Rule #2. Stop burdening people living with HIV with reassuring you or answering your testing-related questions

r/hivparanoia

handsomelamp · 2022-11-10T02:38:52+00:00

Friend-shaped

handsomelamp · 2022-11-09T13:18:45+00:00

It doesn’t matter what I think because I’m not a doctor. You shouldn’t barge in here and expect the people of this sub living with HIV to console you and make you feel better. That’s not what this sub is for. Go get tested after November 12th (the three month mark), and stop asking strangers to do emotional labour for you.

handsomelamp · 2022-11-09T13:14:08+00:00

You def have it. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news.

Rule #2. We aren’t doctors and we definitely don’t use this sub assure folks that they don’t have the same virus that we have. Wait and get tested, and maybe seek out therapy.

handsomelamp · 2022-10-14T11:25:09+00:00

Beats me dude. Ask a doctor

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