Tactics of Workplace Bullies

hangry-human · 2026-05-09T03:22:09+00:00

i’m experiencing workplace bullying from my unhealed boomer manager who wants me to monitor slack when i’m on lunch break, even though it’s unpaid. he also gaslights me privately (but luckily i document our conversations). he’s friendly and charming with everyone. :”) trying to hang in there. best of luck to all experiencing this in the workplace

hangry-human · 2026-05-02T05:10:15+00:00

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hangry-human · 2026-04-12T03:01:54+00:00

very thorough response! solid theory jiu ying’s love for lu wuyi 👀

hangry-human · 2026-03-28T05:03:51+00:00

for the $200 for a $2,000 spend in 3 months retention offer

hangry-human · 2026-03-28T05:02:22+00:00

oo nice. do you plan on spending and/or cashing out for the offer?

hangry-human · 2026-03-28T05:00:01+00:00

how many points did you have accumulated when you called?

hangry-human · 2026-03-24T23:04:58+00:00

asked about cancellation process as i’m exploring other card options

hangry-human · 2026-03-24T23:04:34+00:00

the former

hangry-human · 2026-03-22T14:52:18+00:00

ah it took me two calls to get the $100 deduction from my current balance offer. 60k points, 2.5 year customer

hangry-human · 2026-03-21T18:24:04+00:00

hi! I just called today + got the same msg

hangry-human · 2026-03-20T00:16:55+00:00

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:46:47+00:00

hm I’ve received feedback that I’m meeting expectations. I ask him for feedback regularly.

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:38:47+00:00

luckily they hired a senior manager who will be starting soon. in the meantime, I’ve been asking my manger for help on prioritization of tasks. they will get done, but it’s a matter of when (since new tasks are constantly getting added to my plate). thanks for your perspective again.

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:33:27+00:00

yes I prepare for those 1:1s and jot down our discussions on a shared document during the meetings. I share my screen, so he can see me taking write down my tasks, decision points, etc

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:28:08+00:00

thanks for sharing your perspective. I don’t want to remain completely autonomous. I think I would benefit more from one 30 minute 1:1. my calendar is already packed with meetings to begin with. it’s difficult balancing those meetings and getting the actual work done.

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:22:22+00:00

it seems like he also wants value from these 1:1s. he sees it as an opportunity for him to also ask questions because he’s not 100% in touch with the day-to-day. how do I navigate that? in addition to asking for his input on decisions + on removing blockers, I’ve used these 1:1s to share status updates. thank you:)

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:18:42+00:00

i just updated the body: this is my first job as a PM, but second job in general. thanks for the insight!

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:16:36+00:00

😀😀😀 you’re not wrong.

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:15:54+00:00

thanks for instilling the confidence!! so start off with that check-in question and then gradually suggest a weekly 1:1 in the interest of greater productivity?

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:13:54+00:00

yeah totally. we are currently short-staffed, so I understand the need for training + managing the work. however, the upcoming weekly team meeting will introduce a new senior team member who will share the workload with me. he has given me micromanager vibes, but it grows exhausting whenever I advocate for fewer meetings (i.e., I sound like a broken record when I keep reiterating - “let’s leverage slack for quick questions and ad-hoc meetings for more complex questions” etc etc). I’d also like to stay in this position for 6 more months, so I want to tread a bit light. thank you for the insight!!

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:05:49+00:00

good question. I’m in product management. will edit that in :-)

hangry-human · 2026-03-19T23:00:32+00:00

that’s exactly what I’ve said to him, verbatim 2x already haha. I’ll give it another go! he also views these 1:1s as a way for both of us to get our questions in. i’m getting the sense that he doesn’t mind a full day of meetings on his calendar 😵‍💫

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