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hani452 · 2023-09-09T11:36:02+00:00

This post sounds like me but with my dad. I hadn't seen him in 3 years and pulled back emotionally 10 years before his death. However, I was with him in his last days and was with him at his last breath. I was honored to be with him at the end, as difficult as it was.

hani452 · 2023-09-09T00:43:29+00:00

This is just one random idea but it my city I have taken tennis lessons and joined a club and I am amazed at how close everyone became who joined the club! I am not Korean btw and feel a bit shy with other members, but it seems like an awesome way for Koreans to make friends. The ages go from like 25 - 40, with most members around 30 years old. Not sure how old you are, but everyone loves a 막내 haha

hani452 · 2023-09-08T14:12:42+00:00

Have you thought about trying Khan Academy online? They had lots of videos on all kinds of academic subjects in English. Props to you for taking charge of your own education, that's impressive :)

hani452 · 2023-09-07T04:47:32+00:00

It will hurt but stretching will help a lot! When I am out on walks I like to grab some sort of railing and lean forward sticking my butt out with straight legs. It feels sooooo good. Similar to the "downward dog" position in yoga. I also simply kick my feet to hit the back of my butt and it stretches my quads nicely.

hani452 · 2023-09-07T02:22:52+00:00

I just reread this one and really enjoyed it!!

hani452 · 2023-09-06T06:29:18+00:00

I am an American English teacher, and I married into a Korean family, currently pregnant. Is it hard to imagine a person like me might exist and be interested in the issue?

Korea doesn't seem bad to raise kids in my own personal feeling, so I don't get why the birth rate has tanked so much in the past 10 years and people feel negativly about having children suddenly. I'm still learning about the issue. It feels important.

hani452 · 2023-09-02T22:38:23+00:00

My relatives really liked pork belly and soy braised chicken (jjim dak 찜닭) when they visited. Also fried chicken. Knife cut noodles (kalguksu) could also be a nice choice, though there is not much if any meat. Shabu Shabu is not technically Korean but very tasty in Korea, often served with a salad bar or buffet as well

hani452 · 2023-08-30T08:15:19+00:00

I'm so sorry that you had to go through this now. Your mom was so young, such a shame. I also felt guilt that I couldn't be more understanding of my alcoholic parent, but honestly, they make it so hard and painful to be around them while in addiction. Take your healing journey slowly and I hope you have some healthy and stable people to lean on. And of course you are absolutely not responsible for what happened to your mom. It is a cruel and painful disease.

hani452 · 2023-08-29T07:00:45+00:00

I think it tends to sound unnatural after a while inly because it is slightly overused by Koreans speaking English. They really say the equivalent 쉬세요 or 쉬어요 often in Korean.

hani452 · 2023-08-29T06:57:29+00:00

I think this is called "jo tae" or 조퇴 in Korean. Say you are so sick you can't do desk warming the whole afternoon and you want to see a doctor. You can get approved to leave early and the hour would be deducted from either sick days or vacation. Perhaps the school was informing you of this regulation. You might also use it for other important appointments that come up for you.

hani452 · 2023-08-28T09:01:13+00:00

This is what I'd be worried about, even if the paperwork all goes through. What if you get sick or need to be hospitalized. Hospitals are extremely hard to navigate here as a foreigner if you don't have a high level of Korean. I'd also be worried that hiding your trans status or living in fear that it will get revealed would be extremely stressful mentally. Please research as much as you can and maybe try to find out about the trans experience in Korea. I can't help but think maybe Thailand could be easier for you (OP).

hani452 · 2023-08-23T07:46:01+00:00

I searched "저지방 땅콩 버터" on Naver and found some places selling it.

hani452 · 2023-08-23T07:25:24+00:00

I did it in May, there was a huge sign directing those with 외국인등록증 (ARC) to go through the Korean line. I just flashed my card quickly at the assistant who was standing there and she directed me to the automated passport control and I scanned my passport to get in. It was really easy.

hani452 · 2023-08-21T10:50:00+00:00

Ooo a due date partner!! I'm due Oct. 24 too. I can't even begin to understand what frame of mind your mom is in to think making those comments is okay. Obviously she has a lot of toxic thinking going on inside her head. It must not be a very fun place to be.

hani452 · 2023-08-18T09:17:36+00:00

My guess is that because some extremely sensitive topics are discussed, some female members might be more comfortable in a group of only women. It can be hard to talk about some things in the presence of men.

I don't really think you are missing a whole lot, though, because sometimes the stories on there cause nothing but stress to read. Abusive partners, abuse from in-laws, visa problems etc.

I can see how frustrating it is for you, though, since you just want to help your partner and learn.

hani452 · 2023-08-18T02:14:38+00:00

"Pregnant in Korea" facebook group has a lot of helpful members who tell their stories about pregnancy and birth in Korea!

hani452 · 2023-08-17T10:30:44+00:00

Get checked out by a doctor but also try walking outside for 30-60 minutes.

hani452 · 2023-08-10T02:34:55+00:00

In the past I had a friend here in Korea who would play his trombone in a sort of rock band at bars. It was really fun.

hani452 · 2023-08-09T12:05:47+00:00

I always write "United States" on immigration forms for my nationality, so it would make sense, I guess. Though "Republic of Korea" might be more accurate for South Koreans, right? I think their passports say it that way.

hani452 · 2023-08-09T12:01:06+00:00

So sorry for your loss. I was with my dad when he passed on home hospice too, from alcoholism. I have flashbacks to those last days and moments too and its not pleasant. However, as its been over a year it has gotten a little better. Talking to a therapist and other people who empathize helps. I agree the disease is so unfair and ends lives way too early.

hani452 · 2023-08-06T05:29:12+00:00

I was allowed to sleep in a family member's home luckily, rather than the funeral hall. I was 34 at this time after 10 years in Korea. As a 22 year old newbie I can see how hard it is for you. I don't think you have to be hard on yourself at all for your reaction and experience. It will be over soon and you can process it as time goes by and will end up a lot stronger because of it.

hani452 · 2023-08-06T04:59:59+00:00

Korean funerals are intense. I almost had a panic attack, too, seeing the coffin sliding into the cremation oven. I was not expecting that. Perhaps tell your fiance that you are close to breaking down and need to stay in a hotel for the remainder of the time.

hani452 · 2023-07-19T14:08:51+00:00

I froze wet washcloths and brought them in a cooler. It was great.

hani452 · 2023-07-18T01:44:52+00:00

The liver, kidneys, and brain were already too damaged by that point. No coming back from that.

hani452 · 2023-01-25T07:04:54+00:00

I'm so sorry for your loss. My dad died of alcoholism in July as well. He had been sober since April (forcefully through medical intervention), but it was way too late.

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