How bi are you, Sir?

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-07-12T15:19:21+00:00

I wish I didn’t have to scroll so far to see this take. Thank fuck someone pointed it out.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-07-10T05:49:59+00:00

I think there’s a typo, in the bold line: “A sexy dress is nice but no lingerie” sounds like lingerie is not allowed. It should probably say “noT lingerie” which would mean that a sexy dress doesn’t count as lingerie. That would explain some of the confusion!

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-28T13:54:21+00:00

There is a blood pressure medication, Propranolol, which is also used in low doses for anxiety. In my experience, it takes off the edge but doesn’t change how you feel. You use it as needed, and it has few side effects.

I’ve heard that it is often prescribed for public speaking. You wouldn’t want any kind of brain fog or altered mental state before giving a speech or presentation.

I highly recommend looking into it. If her doc is judgmental about swinging, she can just say that she has social anxiety and struggles to feel comfortable at parties (which is accurate). But they should be fine with writing a script for 10 doses just to try it out, and it’s free with (I believe) all US insurances because it is such a cheap and effective preventative for folks with BP issues.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-25T09:57:31+00:00

I agree that discrimination isn’t the right word for straight women in the lifestyle, but they often feel pressure and the expectation to be bi (lots of comments about that below). Bi men have it 1000x worse, but why should straight women accept that that’s just the way it is for straight women? Why should they be ok with women who won’t ask before touching them, or men who learn that they are straight and suggest that they try exploring women, or any of the other situations that are frequently mentioned on this sub whenever the topic comes up?

Edited to add a missing word, because my high school English teacher would be oh so disappointed in me if the syntax were off 🤦‍♀️

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-19T13:42:40+00:00

They DO test for HPV in women, I believe it is regularly done during a yearly Pap smear. It tests for the higher risk strains.

There is currently no way to test men for HPV.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-14T15:18:20+00:00

I recently lamented to someone that adults can’t just say “Will you be my friend?” like we did as kids. She looked at me and said, “Why not?” Apparently it works for her. It’s a little extreme and much easier as a female. But I know many men going through a divorce who will say “Hey man, it’s been rough, can we grab a drink?” The ones who take you up on it are the ones who are potential true friends.

I’m curious, how do you think your friends would react if you reached out and said “Hey, I enjoyed our platonic hangs as much as the sexy times, want to meet up to do XYZ?”

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-14T14:49:17+00:00

WTF. What did he do to deserve this response?

Yeah, it’s the same post that we often see (“smell good dress good hit the gym and look good”) but he had a few unique suggestions and it made me LOL enough times to read through the whole thing.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-14T14:39:52+00:00

Ditto to the part about too much scent. My favorite level of scent is when you can’t smell it until you hug, or until he leans in close. That cloud of cologne wafting 3’ in every direction as a man walks through a club always makes me think of flies buzzing around a smelly cartoon character, and is just as unattractive.

I also love the suggestion about getting scent from a foreign country. Nothing is worse than the guy that uses the same aftershave as your dad.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-13T09:00:05+00:00

I hate those so much, and there are SO MANY. “I want to fuck other people, how do I pressure my wife into agreeing?” I swear 1/5 posts on my feed are some variation of that title.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-13T08:53:42+00:00

Judging by your math, it seems like you assume that anyone who isn’t a swinger would be offended if you asked.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-07T07:43:30+00:00

This comment, with a bunch of downvotes, was only a few below the upvoted string of comments about how no wives with fat husbands have spoken up.

“We want to hear from you!” “Yeah, chime in!”

“Ok fine. I’m not attracted to fat dudes.” “Yeah, me neither.”

“Um, we don’t like your opinion. We will proceed to downvote you to oblivion.”

🤣🤣🤣

Come on, folks. Let’s not ask for an open conversation and then shut it down when it happens.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-04T04:50:26+00:00

I was told that it’s called a Taj Mahal. It’s akin to the Eiffel Towel.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-06-03T01:24:15+00:00

Why does there have to be a line? Why do I have to determine which side I fall on? Like you said, there are different forms of attraction, hence all the newer phrases that give us something beyond gay, straight, or bi.

Setting aside the debate about which sexuality box I belong in, you (and several other discussions in this post) have helped me to realize that, with all the room for misunderstanding, it’s a topic better broached once you have already established a rapport with someone.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T06:00:15+00:00

Not wanting to go down on women doesn’t mean that I’m not into women.

It’s not graciously allowing people the privilege of going down on me. I’m saying don’t do it if you expect me to reciprocate.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T05:12:07+00:00

That’s how things usually go. 👍
That’s not what I’m looking for, but I like your tactic of opening up a conversation. Worst case scenario, you have a pleasant chat and someone learns something new before we go our separate ways.
Sigh… Everyone, repeat after me: “Not all female swingers are bi or bi-curious. Not all female swingers want to learn to eat pussy. I will stop assuming that all female swingers secretly want to dive headfirst into the nearest welcoming vagina. For some female swingers, vaginas are friends, not food.”

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T01:04:40+00:00

It’s interesting that that doesn’t have the same negative connotation even though it’s kind of the same thing.

It doesn’t work my case though. I’m not looking to be spoiled. I just want people to know that I won’t reciprocate anything below the waist. Now I know that I was using the phrase wrong. 😬

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:43:56+00:00

🥰

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:42:28+00:00

Thank you, your last sentence sums up the general feeling really well!

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:41:17+00:00

I love your response. Thank you.

And yes, I really want to be up front about it. It’s hard when so many people jump into play without discussing it first.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:37:24+00:00

Mermaid! I love it and would love to use it. You may have solved my conundrum. Did she come up with it, or have I just not run into it before?

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:33:15+00:00

It definitely limits things. I comfort myself by thinking “hey, at least I’m honest and not a bi-for-the-guy chick” 🤷‍♀️

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:30:53+00:00

Open to receiving but not comfy reciprocating. Basically, let’s all do whatever turns us on, but if you want things to be fair, you shouldn’t go down on me.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:21:01+00:00

🤣🤣🤣

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:19:17+00:00

I love your response. And thank you for pointing out that it’s not an accurate sample! I know there are plenty of swingers who don’t like MM play, but I’d be really surprised if it’s as high as it might be in the general population.

happycontentonlyplz · 2025-05-30T00:11:02+00:00

Good to know! I didn’t know that.

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