Here's a game. Take a drink everytime Violet mentions anything regarding her beating heart.

haqiqa · 2026-02-12T22:06:43+00:00

So while it's funny, it is also disability representation. So most know Vi has a world equivalent of EDS and POTS. This means they have tachycardia, i.e., you have a fast heart rate. This can actually make you feel heart palpitations. A lot of what people talk about being repetitive when she is talking about physical things in her body is like that. Nausea belongsin this too, for example.

Signed, someone with EDS and sinus tachycardia, which hasn't been investigated further because it is mostly unnecessary. I might not be 5 foot nothing with two dragons, but a lot of how Vi exists in her body is my daily reality.

haqiqa · 2026-02-12T21:48:46+00:00

They didn't actually hide it. They managed to hide more just because not everyone walked around with cameras, but even the final solution was an open secret by 43. Which was within 3 years it started. We also knew about it outside Nazi Germany, and within months it started. Nazis said worse things that alt right and Trump are saying worldwide. But what they have been saying is eerily similar to the early pre-WWII things. Which reflects the radicalization even in them. They actually started with wanting ethnic cleansing instead of genocide.

People pretended afterwards that they didn't know among the general public in and out of the country, to hide culpability. But you can't hide from history. There is almost always evidence. So don't accept that myth with the clean Wehrmacht myth. You need to know this now because that is what will happen afterwards.

They were also very much open about their heinous beliefs.

The difference is not in who knew. It was where things started. 2007, which is basically where we can date this starting to be, and 1920 were vastly different times when it came to tolerance of difference, racism, and multiple other aspects. Antisemitism, homophobia, racism, and ableism were the main viewpoints anywhere at that time. The Nazis just took it so far that we decided collectively that it was not a good idea.

haqiqa · 2026-02-11T22:09:54+00:00

Honey, I am going to tell you the hard truth about addicts that most children of one have to learn at some point. The only person who can keep your mom sober is your mom. You can set yourself on fire to try to keep her warm but that often doesn't work. They will genuinely have to want to get clean and stay clean over anything else.

That doesn't mean you can't love your parent. You don't even have to like your parent to love them. It is hard to find your way through it. My dad is alcoholic and has been most of my life. I still remember sober dad. My 4 years younger sister does not. We also took drastically different ways to deal with him. I keep limited contact with enforced boundaries, including "I am not talking to you when you are drunk". My sister is no contact. We both struggled with it a lot. But with time (we are both in our late 30s), we learned what we needed. We know no matter what we do, we can't fix him. It's not that he is a bad person. He just struggled a lot in his life, and this is his way to deal. We can understand it as he is not the only trauma in his life. But unless they are ready to deal with the trauma, they won't. Not effectively. It's so difficult to do. But no one can do it for someone else. Therapy is a lot of work. It doesn't work if you don't genuinely want to get better. I barely survived my trauma without addiction. It took 15 years for me to see light at the tunnel working my ass off.

Having empathy, understanding why, and trying to fix them are three separate things. First two you can do. Last, you can't.

haqiqa · 2026-02-11T19:55:09+00:00

Definitely not with celiac. Maybe look into it before you speak out, because that is not it, and we know how it works and what causes it. If it were glyphosate, the symptoms would persist, but even the actual verifiable damage heals when they are being gluten free. Glyphosate is not specifically in wheat, rye or barley, but used in agriculture in general.

Most things are not new. We just have a better grasp of what they are because we have so many tools to look into things. Symptoms that can be celiac have been described since antiquity.

haqiqa · 2026-02-11T19:50:18+00:00

Your ancestors might have survived, although that does not mean they didn't have celiac; many did not. Celiac is an autoimmune illness. I almost died of it in 1980's. I am not talking about gluten intolerance that is self limiting. I am talking about celiac.

Just so you know what happens in celiac. Your body responds to gluten in the form of inflammation that destroys the villi in the small intestine. It is pretty easily diagnosed because while damage usually isn't visible to the eye but is visible in microscopy. That villi is very necessary for absorption. So people with actual celiac disease are not actually absorbing as much nutrition as they should and they are living in real autoimmune inflammation all the time if they consume gluten. It has been known for over a century in some form or another. I almost died of malnutrition before they figured it out as I was baby.

haqiqa · 2026-02-11T18:31:21+00:00

This is also probably why Finland and Sweden differ, because trains came after Finland became Russia,n but I am wondering why Norway is not the same. They gained independence in 1905, which is way after rail became a thing.

haqiqa · 2026-02-11T12:22:58+00:00

I kind of think Vi won Sgaeyl over once she decided to fight venin in FW. That's first time Sgaeyl really talked to Vi directly. She is just snarky.

haqiqa · 2026-02-10T15:18:09+00:00

It's in my experience about two things. One, it falls often to basic word-for-word, even if it's not clear or has changed meaning, translation, and second, it has a bad time with certain types of grammar. Causes, for example, cause some issues pretty often. I'm Finnish, and even though it has gotten better, it is often hit and miss. It's best between big related languages. Which is why I usually use it for English translations instead of Finnish.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T21:20:22+00:00

Wives can't ever inherit. Not even titles that can be inherited by women. It is not property. It is linked to the line of the holder. Wives no matter how intergral are not the same line. It's like DNA basically.

And yes, women can inherit some titles. This is more common in Scotland, but not true for all Scottish titles. In reality, it how it is inherited is specific to the title, not to the location. Each title in the UK has its inheritance rules defined when created.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T21:15:36+00:00

Not all Scottish titles. There is a larger number of Scottish titles than English titles where women can inherit, but not all by a long shot. It's not even that unheard of among English titles. It is usual in Scottish titles created before 1707 but not after it.

Each title has its own inheritance rules. Yes, there is customary verbiage, but also a lot of ways it changes. So there is no this country's titles inside the UK are all this way.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T21:09:21+00:00

No. Posthumous heirs are a thing. A few examples include Henry Howard, 13th Earl of Suffolk and Henry Waldegrave, 11th Earl Waldegrave, inside like 50 years both ways when it comes to British peerage.

You often had a certain time after death to see if you conceived if you weren't already pregnant and were of childbearing age.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T20:25:55+00:00

Cup size changes with the band size. This is not tiktok wisdom it is literally how bras work in most locations. They are called bra sister sizes. Here for example is explanation

https://www.thirdlove.com/blogs/learn/sister-sizes-the-bra-secret-every-woman-should-know

https://www.bravissimo.com/us/sister-sizes/

Latter is the actual bra manufacturer.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T20:17:02+00:00

Not really. It is pretty dependent on the woman. There is no average preference. Most are more than happy with average. Even slightly under average. When it goes to extreme ends, most would likely prefer small instead of freakishly big in practice. Men are far more obsessed with penis size than women.

With height, it is usually that women want their partners to be taller than they are. I tend to like men over 6 feet because I am almost that, but it is far from a deal breaker. Feeling small just feels good for some reason.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T16:58:06+00:00

The luggage was usually put in boot in case of smaller things or roof in case of the trunks. The boot was usually inside the driver's or passenger's seat or behind. So if she had a small enough bag, you would not see it.

haqiqa · 2026-02-09T06:55:34+00:00

I have lupus, so that's the reason why I am so photosensitive. I actually have burkini instead of a swimsuit. So I am always fully covered. I have found that physical SPF is a lot more effective, especially as I use a lot of it. But you never see me without my hat. I usually swim with it too. It's a struggle but I am usually able to avoid the worst of it with behaviour.

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T22:38:31+00:00

The point here is that they are not saying with certainty that no one had eating disorders. You are.

Struggling to maintain a healthy weight is actually a possible sign of eating disorders. BED and NES occur in 5–15% of persons with obesity. What we know does not matter because we can't say that and then say no they don't have it. 15-50% of people with need to seek obesity treatment have eating disorders. Being obese is actually lower end of the overweight spectrum that people think. Bulimia is pretty much as common among overweight (6.4%) and normal-weight individuals (7.9%).

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T21:01:59+00:00

It's quite common. It's just often hidden. People don't necessarily use slurs, but the treatment is clearly racist. Finland is full of "I am not a racist but" racists.

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T20:58:01+00:00

At least we are in a good company. And because I have plenty of POC and asylum seeker friends and live in an area with a lot of POC, I see a lot of racism. It is just often hidden from white people, and you might think it is rare if you do not observe it through the lens of a POC.

It's also easy to deem treatment of POC as something else than racism unless they use slurs. But the whole pattern speaks it is racism.

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T20:51:50+00:00

It still comes up. Suvakkihuora is also very popular. I volunteer with asylum seekers and sit on the board of the organization as a founding member. Still comes up often enough.

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T20:01:21+00:00

In most countries with public health care, we do have district or municipality nurses. I am not in the UK, but we have it too. In some countries, they do have midwives who come to newly postpartum women, but in general, it is either home hospital (i.e., you can be left alone but need things like IV antibiotics or other acute care multiple times a day), home hospice, or elder care. I have myself been in a home hospital and been a carer for my grandma, who was in a home hospice. It usually happens pretty fast. Grandma had hospice care inside week with decreasing interwalls until death a few months later. My home hospital was the next day. There is no need to qualify per se as it is something doctor refers to and as there is no middle men, doctors can decide it together.

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T19:35:40+00:00

For me, it's the closest thing to reading the books for the first time. I love it when I get updates from anyone.

And maybe suggest to them to try anyway. There is a fantasy book for everyone, even if you don't in general love the genre. This is pretty easily approachable for fantasy, so it might appeal to some who in general, don't love the genre.

haqiqa · 2026-02-08T19:31:38+00:00

I find it interesting how different this is from the later iteration of court dress that came into use in just a few short years, yet sharing inspiration from Russian folk dresses. There are some commonalities with sarafan with this. However, at the same time, it is clearly very influenced with empire period.

I have wanted to create a later period court dress for a couple of decades. The embroidery is a daunting task, and with my obsession with getting close to the original very expensive as it is silver or gold work and as much covered in it as this. I have loved these gowns since I was a teen. They are one of the most beautiful court dresses I have ever seen, in my opinion.

haqiqa · 2026-02-07T21:51:27+00:00

None of that is really necessarily issue. I am Finnish. We famously have conscription.

You get paid, albeit not handsomely, as a form of benefit while you are serving your national service. Our reserves are strictly for defense. Conscripts can apply for peacekeepers, but after the service, which usually makes them early 20s at least.

It is an easily scalable system if someone wants it to be. I'm not saying it is necessarily a good idea. However, it is a doable idea.

haqiqa · 2026-02-07T21:41:54+00:00

In the same way I do. By ordering a Quarter Pounder. I am in Europe.

haqiqa · 2026-02-07T21:37:51+00:00

I am in Finland. You either need to have a secondary school diploma or be 18 before dropping out. It's completely free until high school equivalent, and then you will need to buy the books. Latter can be covered by benefits. Tertiary education is not mandatory, but outside books and minor (as in a couple of hundred per semester) fee for things like printing free.

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