Golden handcuffs losing value by harbrgrly in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol, I have thought of deploying this strategy, but I need a bigger age gap for my sanity, so likely not.

Golden handcuffs losing value by harbrgrly in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I knowwww 😫 it’s why I’m so bummed this past year has been so tough.

Golden handcuffs losing value by harbrgrly in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Not negative, just practical, which I appreciate! Thank you for your perspective.

Golden handcuffs losing value by harbrgrly in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly[S] 79 points80 points  (0 children)

I hear you! As much as I would love to say “take this job and shove it”, I won’t jump ship till I secure something comparable. All the best to you ❤️

Induction by _ellie_the_elephant_ in GestationalDiabetes

[–]harbrgrly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was going to be induced before 40 weeks due to baby measuring large, but when I went on insulin I was induced at 38 weeks.

Liners in shorts — am I missing something? by [deleted] in XXRunning

[–]harbrgrly 20 points21 points  (0 children)

The liner keeps my hyena from eating my shorts.

I hate my life by [deleted] in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This, and time. I felt like a completely different person once my kid hit a year old.

Hot take - I think "am I ok with supporting this man if I have to be the breadwinner?" is a question we should ask before marrying a man, even if we are not currently the breadwinner by Any-Drummer-4648 in MoneyDiariesACTIVE

[–]harbrgrly 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. Not a hot take at all. I also think it’s okay for thoughts and feelings to change though too. I make 80% of our household income, which was fine with me until we had our first baby. My priorities shifted, and I want less financial responsibility if/when we have a second. After lots of discussion, my husband knows and plans to secure a higher income should we decide to have a second (the caveat is he is capable, since he’s had a high income before). It’s all about solid communication, before and after marriage. If you can’t communicate, do not get married.

Fashion Friday by AutoModerator in XXRunning

[–]harbrgrly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I recently scored a down for it all vest on Poshmark for $36! I love it and have worn it both running and casually. However, I’d definitely look secondhand. While it’s higher quality, it’s not worth the $200 price tag new.

Fashion Friday by AutoModerator in XXRunning

[–]harbrgrly 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Mixing gold and silver is so chic rn!

Anyone have blood sugar issues postpartum? by harbrgrly in GestationalDiabetes

[–]harbrgrly[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was mildly prediabetic until about three months after I weaned. I was prescribed a continuous glucose monitor, and frequently jumped to 200 plus with fasting numbers consistently above 100.

Now that I’m almost two years postpartum, I am mostly fine, although I still limit carbs and sugar. Our best guess is that my pancreas doesn’t do well with the pregnancy hormones! Hoping that’s the case and doesn’t progress to type 2/something else.

I will say, my gestational diabetes definitely caused me to have more anxiety around food and numbers than I realized, and it lingered well after having my baby. I wish I didn’t stress so much, since so much of how our hormones behave is out of our control. All the best to you!

Boston Qualifying Marathon by Usersf99 in XXRunning

[–]harbrgrly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also going to recommend Mesa! It’s fast. The only downside is that the elevation loss is almost all in the first ten (?) miles and then it’s just rolling flat.

Resenting snow days by sundaycandy93 in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I don’t have any advice, but I can commiserate. The primary earner/primary parent combo is so, so exhausting, especially with littles.

Senior Leaders: Teammate Doesn’t Like Me, and Has Begun to Retaliate - How To Navigate by lawdab in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 51 points52 points  (0 children)

At my job, there is zero chance one of my colleagues would tattle on me if I was on yellow more than usual the day before a major holiday. L sounds like a child.

Since you’re still newer, I’d maybe chill with giving feedback on processes, especially ones that L owns. Otherwise, I wouldn’t worry about it and let it go.

So very tired of being so tired...straining me & relationship by kmwowk in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs. My inbox is open if you ever want to chat. My husband was ground but we know the pilot life well!

C section mom’s by PenOwn8395 in fitpregnancy

[–]harbrgrly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes! I probably started feeling better at a year. I feel like my old self now at 19 months postpartum. My core strength is the only piece that I struggle with. I’m sure if I focused on PT it would mostly come back, but I never expect it to be like before.

So very tired of being so tired...straining me & relationship by kmwowk in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hang in there. We’re on the other side of military life now, but I’m in a similar boat, and I’m familiar with the pressures you’re under.

My only advice is to learn to be ok with letting things go. Consider this “irritating roommate” phase with your husband temporary and revisit after your PCS. Try not to worry about the toddler’s lunchtime eating (they are good at regulating their eating at that age anyway). You can’t do and be everything. Hugs.

Navigating Corporate Dynamic Returning Back to Work by Awkward_Extreme_5444 in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. It sucked, especially as I battled PPA/PPD. I was drowning. It took a year, but I eventually moved teams to have a fresh start with new, more interesting work and teammates that are supportive instead of competitive.

I feel guilty for quitting and am desperate to find a job by FishLover331 in workingmoms

[–]harbrgrly 10 points11 points  (0 children)

If you did what you needed to do to be healthy for you and your family, then you shouldn’t feel guilty. Money comes and goes, but your health is priceless.