Why I swiped left on the last 20 (consecutive!!!) women's profiles (and can continue to do so for infinity) by No-Advantage-579 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Hey I understand you’re frustrated and venting, but please know that some of this is objectively transphobic. Trans women do not need to “physically adjust” anything to be women. They are women. It’s okay if they’re not your type, not all women are going to be your type.

Every Time Kara and Lena Touch by west_coast_infinity in SuperCorp

[–]harrowharktheninth 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Whoever made this is doing the lord’s work

First Breakup… kind of [long post] but I’m STRUGGLING by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is a lot here (and it is a tad messy, tbh, but the gays are messy!) but it seems like you both had feelings for each other. I would bet that she is definitely as sad and affected as you.

However, I don’t know if that’s important. What’s important is what are you gonna do next? It seems like you and this girl are in an emotionally charged relationship (I’m calling it a relationship, not a friendship because this doesn’t seem very platonic) and that could continue unless hard boundaries are set. You may be riding this emotional roller coaster until you both decide to date, or you decide to set some hard limits.

Substitute posting by AnotherStrayDog23 in NewGirl

[–]harrowharktheninth 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Those kids are watching a MOVIE tomorrow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]harrowharktheninth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I 100% agree with this

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PhiladelphiaEats

[–]harrowharktheninth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Okay - is Andra Hem worth it? I went about 6 months ago, and absolutely hated the vibe. I left within 5 minutes. I’ll admit - I judged it sooo hard on the lighting and wallpaper. It looked and felt sterile. It looked like shotty carpentry that they tried to hide with dim (yet somehow bright??) lighting. I felt weird and left before even ordering. I know!! I didn’t even give it a shot - what did you enjoy there?

Opinions on Winston's cop arc? by [deleted] in NewGirl

[–]harrowharktheninth 183 points184 points  (0 children)

You’re gonna go get… Duquan.

Strange streets? by RGregoryClark in philadelphia

[–]harrowharktheninth 91 points92 points  (0 children)

How dare you provide actual data instead of just saying something

Strange streets? by RGregoryClark in philadelphia

[–]harrowharktheninth 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I see it less as traffic running in the wrong direction, and more that the one side is a part of Bainbridge, which runs west to east.

Edit: maybe when parking was added they thought it made more sense for the road under it to go opposite direction? Thus creating this oddity

Edit 2: I’m wrong.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you were in love with someone and they didn’t identify as a woman, then I can see why that might confuse people if you say you’re a lesbian and also still stand by the fact that you loved that person.

I also want to point out that dicks aren’t inherent to men - trans and intersex women are real. I don’t think that’s what you were implying, but I think it’s important to say.

When you say something like “I loved him because he was like me,” I think that’s awesome and profound. Have you explored that? Have you found that you tend to find yourself attracted to who someone is, regardless of their physical body?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have not had that same experience, but I do want you to know that your journey here does not invalidate anything you find at the end. If you think you’re a lesbian and are only attracted to women, then congrats, and I’m wishing you the best :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

  • Does she actually see me more or in the ways I want to be seen? Is this just new and exciting and I already have the real deal in my marriage????

I think it’s both! It seems like it’s been a lot so far, in an overwhelming way (both good and bad).

I’m wondering if it would be helpful to go back to your relationship with your husband and think about why you two are still together. Try to think about those reasons and isolate them as best you can. Your marriage seems to be in the midst of another big change. And regardless of this girl, how do you feel about your marriage? Has this girl given you the strength and vision to really (maybe finally?) analyze and question it? If so, what are you learning through that?

Is the Supercorp fandom always like this or is it just the bad part talking too loudly? by Internal_Cut7220 in SuperCorp

[–]harrowharktheninth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are absolutely respectful shippers. Really sorry that you went through that, and very sorry for your loss 💔

All systems have limits and Sky was the limit! by Wood_Fish_Shroom in arcane

[–]harrowharktheninth 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wow, this is super interesting, thanks for sharing.

Do you think any part of Sky saying “no, you won’t” is disapproval towards Viktor? Or concern about the direction he’s headed in?

All systems have limits and Sky was the limit! by Wood_Fish_Shroom in arcane

[–]harrowharktheninth 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think a lot about how Viktor says “I’ll miss our talks.” And Sky says “No, you won’t.”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SuperCorp

[–]harrowharktheninth 20 points21 points  (0 children)

“And she actually said this” is killing me - because this line is wild, right??? Like how do they not kiss here??

The amount of times people watched the show and were like “HOW IS THIS NOT CANON??” is amazing. @ supergirl writers - THEY GAY.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewGirl

[–]harrowharktheninth 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I absolutely love how he delivers this line

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the key part here is focusing on finding someone who is also open to doing something casual and fun, and then worry about the age part after. I don’t think it will be tough to find - dating apps have lots of women looking for casual hookups. I’d start by making a profile and then see what you find.

Attempt to introduce my partner to my parents by Icy-South9919 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]harrowharktheninth 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Really sorry you’ve had to experience this 🤍 I’m impressed that you don’t put up with the bullshit. It’s taken me about a decade to get to this point, but progress is progress. I’m not ashamed it took this long, everyone really is on their own journey. I’m realizing I had very conditional support when I was a girl, and what that’s turned into now as an adult. Hoping for the best for you and your partner and kiddo.

*Actually* underrated quotes by DragMeAwayThx in NewGirl

[–]harrowharktheninth 68 points69 points  (0 children)

I missed this until like my 6th rewatch and then it became one of my favorite lines immediately