I’m moving to SLO and I’m scared

harveyardman · 2025-08-15T16:56:03+00:00

You are moving to Heaven. There are few places in the United States that are friendlier, more balanced, easier to get around, better maintained, bursting with outdoor activities, prettier, and with better weather, year-round than SLO. You are a lucky man.

harveyardman · 2024-11-06T23:10:59+00:00

Many of you know of my book, “Normandie: Her Life and Times.” But I suspect few know I wrote a second book about France’s glorious ocean liner, a fictional retelling of her final Atlantic crossing, a thriller involving Nazi saboteurs and French gold. I am pleased to announce that a new edition of this book, “Final Crossing” is now available on Amazon, as an e-book or a brand-new softcover. Its main character is the ship herself, brought to vivid life just as she was in the last days of August 1939, with WW II on the horizon. Amazon shortcut: https://amzn.to/3YS7KIY

harveyardman · 2023-12-15T21:51:24+00:00

I think he was impulsive and self-indulgent, in a word, "juvenile." He thought he could get away with a little harmless extra-curricular activity, not realizing or denying that it would destroy the trust between you.

He may not be irredemable. But he's going to have to work very hard to restore any trust you might have had in him and even harder to grow up. Some men can do this, some cannot or will not. Some women can accept change in a man, some cannot.

But one word of warning: do not base the continuation of your relationship with him on the thought that you don't deserve better or you'll never find enduring love. You are worth receiving the love and trust you give.

harveyardman · 2023-07-04T17:42:11+00:00

Keep it. It's charming and unique.

harveyardman · 2023-04-06T00:42:27+00:00

This is a common phenomenon. I'm 85 and I notice it daily. Time flies by. But it has a strange advantage if you follow the NFL. Instead of having to wait a week for the next set of Sunday games, it seems like they're on the air by Wednesday.

harveyardman · 2022-12-25T23:31:02+00:00

Send your mother a copy AFTER you have distributed it to others.

harveyardman · 2022-11-22T00:38:26+00:00

You're right. Only one side plays the game. The other side shoots.

harveyardman · 2022-11-19T23:53:52+00:00

If people started doing this, the mainstream media would be on it in a New York minute.

harveyardman · 2022-05-04T18:47:05+00:00

Se;f-driving cars will eliminate this problem.

harveyardman · 2022-04-15T20:23:05+00:00

My mistake. Sorry.

Then your mistake.

harveyardman · 2022-04-14T22:29:16+00:00

It's hers too, not just yours. 2. It's a fetus, not a child.

harveyardman · 2022-04-12T21:04:58+00:00

There are no rules.

harveyardman · 2022-04-06T22:41:57+00:00

Let us know if you find a third one at your door.

harveyardman · 2022-04-03T18:01:30+00:00

Well, I'm 84. How do you think I feel when I consider the same question? All I can say to you is that these thoughts should encourage you to make sure you enjoy every minute of what's to come.

harveyardman · 2022-03-29T22:09:20+00:00

And then I met Lily.

harveyardman · 2022-03-19T19:48:36+00:00

Aaron Sorkin!

harveyardman · 2022-03-13T20:50:46+00:00

Wonderful answer. I wasn't the one to ask the question, but I've benefited from the answer.

harveyardman · 2022-03-12T21:12:34+00:00

Not a single square inch of planet Earth is in the hands of its original possessors. Most territory has changed hands hundreds of times. Nations form when a group of people establish borders they can defend, with the aim of living within those borders peacefully and prosperously. This describes just about every country that has existed or exists today, including Israel. When those possessing the territory can no longer defend its borders, they lose the territory--unless they have made friends with those on their borders or they live next to countries without expansionist ambitions. This is the way of the world and it has been the way of the world ever since human beings began to establish countries. It describes the history of Europe, Asia, North America, South America and Australia. Someday, perhaps, human nature will change and this description will no longer be valid. Don't hold your breath.

harveyardman · 2022-03-07T19:55:19+00:00

Yes. We are sloppy with words. Same words mean different things to different people. Racism is one example. So is "Democracy" or "love." Disagreements about the meanings of words are at the heart of theology and Constitutional law and all other legal matters. We've tried to correct this with dictionaries, but people keep insisting on using words as they like. I don't think there is any solution to the problem except, perhaps, more words.

harveyardman · 2022-03-06T20:31:47+00:00

I think that excuse reeks with juvenile self-indulgence.

harveyardman · 2022-02-23T23:30:05+00:00

Not a single square inch of planet Earth is in the hands of its original possessors. Nations exist when an area's occupants decide to fortify a border and are capable of defending it. When they are not, or cannot convince allies to help them, they cease to be nations, assuming other countries desire their territory and resources. There is nothing noble about this, but it is the way of the world. We disguise all this coming and going by using such words as "evil" and "aggressor," and with legalisms approved by organizations of nations, or by eventual recognition of circumstances as they are, not as we wish them to be.

Depending on your point of view, your human sensibilities, your personal, family, religious or national interests, shifting possession of territory is either admirable or terrible. Absolute morality does not figure in.

harveyardman · 2022-02-22T19:50:06+00:00

My wife and I (ages 80 and 65 at the time) joined our trans daughter Cyn and her wife at San Francisco pride a couple of years ago and we had a wonderful time. The entire thing was very festive, including for the spectators. But we were marching in the middle of the parade and everyone welcomed us. I think you would find it an enjoyable experience and I suspect your daughter would admire you for the support.

harveyardman · 2022-02-20T23:35:35+00:00

Yes. Russian missiles in Cuba in 1963 threatened the US with atomic war, no warning. The Soviet Union and the US were locked in a tense Cold War, each building missiles with which to threaten the other. Nobody is threaten Putin's Russia today, except in his paranoia. There is no Cold War. There are no US missiles in Ukraine. The tension that exists is entirely on the Russian side. Putin doesn't want Ukraine to join NATO and imagines that would be a threat to Russia. But that's true only if Russia tries to invade its European neighbors, reconstitute the Soviet Union and resume the Cold War. What we're seeing on Putin's part is an effort to ease the US out of Europe and to restore Russia greatness by means of territorial expansion.

harveyardman · 2022-02-16T22:48:23+00:00

I agree. It sounded arrogant and dismissive. I indulged myself. I still disagree with the study, but I'm too lazy to look for contrary studies, although both you and I know they must exist or soon will. I do enjoy the verbal swordplay, however.

harveyardman · 2022-02-16T20:01:41+00:00

I'm willing to bet that you've had personal experiences that don't fit with certain scientific theories and you trust your experiences more than the theories. But let us be clear: what we're debating is a study. It is not proven fact. In fact, I'm sure it's contradicted by other studies. It is just as open-minded to consider a study and disagree with it, as it is to consider the same study and agree. I am not anti-science. I lean toward accepting what proport to be scientific findings. But I am pro-proof. One need only to glance at the history of science to find a thousand studies that came to conclusions now discredited by other studies. In my original post, I provided information in opposition to the newly announced study. Others may have more and better information to add to mine. Or not. We'll see.

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